“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” (Maya Angelou). Personality and responding to conflict are linked. While attitude also affects this, personality determines how humans respond to conflict. There are multiple way to respond to conflict. The biggest effect people can have on conflict depends on one’s personality. Personality is usually determined by genes coming from both mother and father. Ever heard the expression, “[He] acts just like his mother”? Well, that is why. But other factors come into play as well. Say a young girl and her identical twin twin sister are separated at birth, and one was raised under a caring and loving family, while the other twin was raised under a not so loving …show more content…
This applies to friends, as well. In The Boy in the Striped Pajamas, Bruno and Shmuel are good friends but after one of them gets taken away during war times due to his religion, things change. “[Shmuel] stared at the food in his hand for a moment and then looked up at Bruno with wide and grateful but terrified eyes. He threw one more glance in the direction of the door and then seemed to make a decision, because he thrust all three slices into his mouth in one go and gobbled them down in twenty seconds flat” (Boyne 386). Even though the two practically grew up together, Shmuel’s personality has …show more content…
According to Joshua Gowin Ph.D, “In the 1970s Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann identified five main styles of dealing with conflict that vary in their degrees of cooperativeness and assertiveness. They argued that people typically have a preferred conflict resolution style. However they also noted that different styles were most useful in different situations. They developed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) which helps you to identify which style you tend towards when conflict arises (Gowin). These five main styles are Competitive, Accommodating, Avoiding, Collaborating, and Compromising (Gowin). As well, “Conflict elicits stress, our self-defense mechanism against harmful elements in our world. Stress tells us one of two things: I've been hurt, or I'm about to be hurt. Naturally, we take the first thing seriously. If we're hurt, our brain shifts into action mode. We release adrenaline within seconds and cortisol within minutes, causing us to become more impulsive” (Gowin). Brains are ‘hardwired’ to respond to conflict based on past experiences, using that knowledge to further progress itself in the natural
According to the Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI), reviewed in Appendix E, in situations of conflict my primary conflict mode is Compromising which reflects my ability to be an intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperation. In conflict I am able to listen, understand and empathize in a non confrontational method to identify underlying concerns. My leadership, and specifically my reaction in times of conflict will have an effect on my team. It is important that I am able to flex between conflict modes as the situation requires. The additional benefit of having a compromising tendency in dealing with conflict is that I am only one step away from other conflict modes (collaborating, accommodating, avoiding and competing) which each have their place in leadership conflict
The novel “The Boy in the striped pyjamas” is written by John Boyne and explores the thoughts and implications of the holocaust through the perspective of a young boy named Bruno. Bruno the main protagonist is portrayed as being as being unaware of the atrocities of war. This is shown many times throughout the text. However, it is Bruno’s interactions with other key characters that makes his innocence obvious to the reader. In particular, his innocent perspective regarding the Nazi concentration camp, as well as, his interactions with his father and Shmuel reveal his lack of awareness.
The best fictional movie of World War II is “The Boy in the Striped Pajamas” directed by Mark Herman. The movie is based on the novel written by John Boyne and the story is told from a German child’s view during the Holocaust. The general message the director and writer so vividly portrayed is that of a child’s innocence and young friendship. “The Boy in the Striped Pajamas” has a good storyline, great choice in actors, and overall it was thought-provoking and effective in showing a different view of World War II, despite a few discrepancies in authenticity, the movie is a must see.
In a dispute, it's often easier to describe how others respond then to how we respond. Each of us has a predominant conflict style that we use to meet our own needs. By examining conflict styles and the consequences of those behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of the impact that our personal conflict style has on other people. With a better understanding, you then can make a conscious choice on how to respond to others in a conflict situation to help reduce work conflict and stress.
The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) was originally developed by Kenneth W. Thomas and Ralph H. Kilmann in 1974 (Kilmann, 2013). The TKI assesses a person’s behavior when they are confronted with a conflict situation. For their work Thomas & Kilmann define conflict as any situation when the concerns of two people appear to be incompatible (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974). According to the TKI when a person is in a conflict situation their behavior will go along two dimensions. The first dimension, on the y axis, is assertiveness, a person’s attempt to
There is no general response for individuals when it comes to conflict. Everyone responds differently and therefore express different positive qualities or negative traits. When conflict arises there are individuals who reveal qualities previously unseen that benefit themselves and usually others. There are also those who reveal undesirable attributes that strain and disconnect relationships. Ultimately, we will never how an individual will respond to conflict until
Someone isn’t born a racist. They grow up with people who think a certain way and shape the way they view the world. In The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne, Bruno, a nine year old boy, moves next door to a concentration camp because of his father’s work. He doesn’t know much about what is going on in the world around him and doesn’t understand what his father does for a job(the author does not tell us what his father does for a job but we can assume that he works closely as a general with Adolf Hitler). He was wandering down the fence surrounding the camp and he came across a boy about his age named Shamuel, sitting on the other side of the fence in striped pajamas. Over time they became best friends and no one knew about this friendship. The day before Bruno was going to move back to his old house he decided to go on the other side of the fence with his friend, unaware of what was on that side. He died that day in the concentration camp. Bruno wasn’t born hating Jews. He didn’t even know that Shameul was Jewish. His father and the people who surrounded him as he grew up had and would have shaped how he viewed the
Each person has a characteristic personality. Such a style reflects our unique wants, needs, and values. In conflicts, there are specific global patterns that can be identified that are reflective of how individuals deal with such challenges. These global patterns consist of five approaches to conflict management: Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating.
There are countless psychological models and theories that correlate individual behaviors and paradigms to the capriciousness of managing conflict, many of which apply directly to the influence that goals or interests have in framing individual behaviors. For simplicity purposes, however, this study will focus primarily on the biological, psychological, and social aspects of conflict behaviors and the way they relate to motivation or drive for achieving such prospects.
Both nature and nurture interplay to determine personality characteristics. Nature is heredity and passed on at conception. Nurture is that which is environmentally developed. It is innate that a baby will crawl, but he needs the support of his environment (diet, etc.) if he is to ultimately survive. Our behaviour is the result of a combination of inborn traits and the situations in which we find ourselves. There are five categorise which help influence personality differences. Genetically, offspring tend to take on some of the characteristics of their parents. However, this could be due to long term exposure to the personalities of their parents rather than their genetic coding. Whether a person is male or female determines what gender role they take on. ‘Women are expected to be nurturing, attractive, emotional, weak, and subordinate to men; whereas, men are the strong, rational, objective, and financial providers’ (Loue and Sajatovic, 2007). Ones family experiences can also influence a person’s behaviour. Family experiences like: ‘family size, birth order, differential parental orientations towards children’ etc. will impact on the emergence of personality as well as a person’s suitability to leadership roles (Morley and Moore et al., 2004, pp. 28-52). Culture plays a very strong role in determining what is believed to be acceptable and unacceptable
There are four distinct conflict styles which are the levels of assertiveness and cooperativeness that are employed by a person in a conflict situation. Everyone has their own individual conflict style; my own style tends to be accommodating. This means that I am not very assertive and I am very good at cooperating with those I am in conflict with. In this essay I will examine each conflict style and my own choice of style and why I tend to default to this style. I will also examine whether or not my choice of the accommodating style is the best approach to resolving conflict, and discuss the advantages of learning to use each of the styles in specific situations.
The Holocaust was a very tragic event that happened in world history. One of the many books written about this is the The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne. In this book, Bruno and Gretel Hoess along with their parents, have different perspectives of the current events going on around them. Throughout the book, some of their initial perspectives change as they change their surroundings. The children have different perspectives of the world around them than their parents.
They say that ignorance is bliss. That is somewhat true, as not understanding the atrocities in our world would surely make a happier person. However, innocence can also lead to calamity. The Boy in the Striped Pajamas, by John Boyne, is a coming of age story about Bruno, the son of a Nazi Commandant under Adolf Hitler. Bruno was initially very ignorant of what was happening in the world and was very immature about moving from Berlin. As the days went by, he got used to his new home and his thoughts were maturing, as he started thinking with logic and rationale. Bruno finally understands that he has to be a good person to everyone regardless what others might think. His character has strongly developed. Despite Bruno being unaware of his situation and his father being a Nazi, he matures from being childish and unsatisfied for moving to finally finding purpose in life by being a good human being.
There have been a lot movies based in World War II. The one that stands out the most is The Boy in the Striped Pajamas. Made in 2008, The Boy in the Striped Pajamas, is a Holocaust movie filmed from the frame of reference of an eight-year-old boy. The director-writer, Mark Herman took the story of two boys, written by John Boyne, and developed a masterpiece (The Boy in). With the use of these two boys, Mark Herman takes the divide of cultural bias and economic injustices and links them together. The Boy in the Striped Pajamas is an accomplished film made with incredible character development, heart-warming acting, powerful viewpoint, and a meaningful message.
‘The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas’ is about two little boys who become the most unlikely of friends during the Holocaust. Shmuel, a young Jewish boy, lives in a concentration camp holding Jewish people from different areas on one side of the fence. Bruno, a young German boy, lives in a two-storey house on the other side of the fence with his family. The fence is a figurative and literal line of division. It symbolises the differences between the two boys and the loss of freedom and innocence both from the German and Jewish people due to Hilter’s regime surrounding the Holocaust, a time in history where around six million Jewish people were killed because they were blamed for Germany’s demise during the First World War.