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Boy In The Striped Pajamas Literary Analysis

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“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” (Maya Angelou). Personality and responding to conflict are linked. While attitude also affects this, personality determines how humans respond to conflict. There are multiple way to respond to conflict. The biggest effect people can have on conflict depends on one’s personality. Personality is usually determined by genes coming from both mother and father. Ever heard the expression, “[He] acts just like his mother”? Well, that is why. But other factors come into play as well. Say a young girl and her identical twin twin sister are separated at birth, and one was raised under a caring and loving family, while the other twin was raised under a not so loving …show more content…

This applies to friends, as well. In The Boy in the Striped Pajamas, Bruno and Shmuel are good friends but after one of them gets taken away during war times due to his religion, things change. “[Shmuel] stared at the food in his hand for a moment and then looked up at Bruno with wide and grateful but terrified eyes. He threw one more glance in the direction of the door and then seemed to make a decision, because he thrust all three slices into his mouth in one go and gobbled them down in twenty seconds flat” (Boyne 386). Even though the two practically grew up together, Shmuel’s personality has …show more content…

According to Joshua Gowin Ph.D, “In the 1970s Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann identified five main styles of dealing with conflict that vary in their degrees of cooperativeness and assertiveness. They argued that people typically have a preferred conflict resolution style. However they also noted that different styles were most useful in different situations. They developed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) which helps you to identify which style you tend towards when conflict arises (Gowin). These five main styles are Competitive, Accommodating, Avoiding, Collaborating, and Compromising (Gowin). As well, “Conflict elicits stress, our self-defense mechanism against harmful elements in our world. Stress tells us one of two things: I've been hurt, or I'm about to be hurt. Naturally, we take the first thing seriously. If we're hurt, our brain shifts into action mode. We release adrenaline within seconds and cortisol within minutes, causing us to become more impulsive” (Gowin). Brains are ‘hardwired’ to respond to conflict based on past experiences, using that knowledge to further progress itself in the natural

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