Disadvantages Of Romantic Relationships

The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.

Undergraduate students enrolled in a general psychology course will participate for course credit. Participants will first complete the Experiences In Close Relationships Questionnaire (a measure of attachment style in romantic relationships; Fraley, Niedenthal, Marks, Brumbauh, & Vicary, 2006), the Relationship Questionnaire (a measure of general attachment; Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991), and the Eyesenck Personality Questionnaire (a measure of key components of personality that fall under the four categories of extraversion, introversion, stability and neuroticism; (Eysenck & Eysenck, 1975) that will serve as the basis for the falsified results that indicate the potential for a “future alone”. Participants will be randomly assigned to one of three conditions: Control (No feedback), social exclusion condition (future alone), or social inclusion condition (future belonging) (Twenge et al., 2001; 2002; 2007; Dewall et al., 2009). The feedback, if given will consist of a response by the experimenter that predicts a life of fulfillment and significant relationships or a life with little to no relationships of significance. The participants receiving no feedback are representative of the control condition. The participant will be told the feedback is based on the results of the personality questionnaire he or she has filled

belonging. I agree with Brown’s analysis, if we do not feel worthy of love, it would be difficult

The reading that interested me most was “The Decline of the Date and the Rise of the College Hook Up” by Paula England and Rueben J. Thomas. The initial motive for this research was that an undergraduate student of England’s “wanted to do a research paper on why students on campus didn’t date much anymore” (pg 69). The two researchers, England and Thomas, then began questioning students on Stanford University’s campus about what they thought about the increasing occurrence of hook ups as compared to going out on dates.

Romantic love in teens is simply a conventional mismatch of an over exaggerated emotion. To state in pure words, romantic love is a strong feeling of affection, concern, and care towards another person and relationship. It induces many feelings of deep emotional, sexual, and spiritual recognition, as well as many other influential feelings. Different people have different perspectives and thoughts as to what ‘romantic love’ truly is, and whether or not it is simply an overstated infatuation. According to scientists, the ultimate motivation of romantic love is to pass on genetic information to an offspring.

Bogle, K. A. (2007b). The shift from dating to hooking up in college: What scholars have missed. Sociology Compass, 1, 775–788.

Hazan and Shaver (1987) proposed the theory that ”Romantic love is an attachment process.” (Hazan & Shaver, 1987), which the individual will experience differently depending on the attachment history that has been formed by the internal working models based on the social interaction with caretaker as an infant. According to Bowlby, these internal working models are essential for attachment patterns throughout life from childhood till adult love relationships (Fraley, 2010).

England focuses on what students define as relationships and what is most come on the college campus. Most students are involved in hookups and are not really looking for relationships. In this article she begins by explaining what the “traditional date” used to mean. Through surveying and interviewing college students at Stanford University she realizes that most students are interested in hookups rather than going on a date or getting into a relationship. The students feel

Just like George and Lennie all humans start to develop a relationship with other due to the simple fact that relationships are the driving force to human contact. That need to have someone there and develop a relationship can be anything from physically, socially and even mentally. The question that needs to be answered, in relation to relationships, is why do humans have that constant need and drive for another human being, why is it human beings must have a relationship with one another. In an article by psychologist Roy Baumiester and Mark Leary from Science of Relationships and they exclaim that, “Humans need Relationships because of a fundamental “need to belong.”1 The “belongingness hypothesis” states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior”. George and Lennie have had a close relationship with each other for years; these two gentlemen truly have a strong understanding of what it is to have a need and want for a real human relationship.

Desiring to have a better life in future inclines people to focus on their academic career. Schools, exams, busy schedules and a pile of work are quintessential this goal. Therefore, students who want to achieve a better future prefer undergoing hard work instead of engaging in social activities. However, social sides of college do not only occupy a big role, but also has plenty of benefits. Social life in college becoming increasingly essential in today’s world triggered an acceptable consideration: Social parts of college should be considered as equal as the academic parts because of psychological, social reasons and its benefits in terms of future.

College and universities have made great strides over the years. The campuses have grown, and the resources have improved tremendously. However, it is questionable if that social scene on these campuses has changed for the better over the years. “Work hard, party hard” has become the motto of college students to live by. Students spend the week focused on their academics, striving to grow as intellects. However, the weekend becomes the time when students look to go out and socialize at the various parties. And this is exactly what the weekend is for. With growing causal party scenes, college students have been more inclined to have a casual relationship with the opposite sex. Traditional dating on college campuses is rarely seen anymore

Early adulthood is the point in a human 's life where he or she is able to establish intimate relationships as well as friendships. Studies suggest that one is not fully developmentally complete without the formation of intimate relationships, for without them a person would become isolated and develop a fear of commitment, and likely, a mistrust in other people. To be able to form such intimate relationships one must have appropriately progressed through the earlier stages of life successfully.

A common area for exploration in emerging adulthood is romantic relationships. The average American youth experiences their first romantic relationship during adolescence, prior to entering emerging adulthood. Oftentimes, these relationships in early adolescence last for only a few months but increase in length as they enter into later adolescence and early adulthood. Although relationships last longer in emerging adulthood, emerging adults still move in and out of relationships (Smith,

She had missed out the university social experience which contained more connections. These included friendships, clubs, and living on campus. She explained that the all of these components of education come together and make it really valuable. “A job may be the starting point for the good life, but it shouldn’t be the end.” (Hrabowski 260) College puts students in many different social and academic situations. These scenarios prepare young students for not only a job, but life when these day to day interactions take place. I relate to Hrabowski’s article because in the first semester of my college career, I would often stay inside because I would be focused on school all the time. My mom would often remind me how lucky I am because the people I meet while have the time I have on campus will become my best friends. Although I am still working on making lifelong friends, I feel I still make connections with others on campus on a day to day basis that are really important. Hrabowski relates to my experience because although I am pursuing a degree, I believe that much more aspects going into a full and happy life. Having these social experiences will give me the upper hand of handling professional and casual social situations better. This will allow me to have better connections and more opportunities which will only positively affect my

When discussing love, people generally think about the love between a husband and wife, or the love between a couple in a romantic partnership, and that is one type of love that I will be discussing. In addition to romantic love, there are other types of love also. There is the love we have for our children, our families, and also the love that we have for our friends. All of these types of love share some of the same attributes, however, they have differences also. In reading and researching different types of love, I have found that romantic love and friendship seem to be the most similar in nature, although they have differences, they share a lot of the same attributes. I found that friendship and romantic love tend to have more similarities than differences. In this paper I will examine romantic love and friendship. I will discuss the definitions of the two, and what elements each of these have. I will discuss the different theories of love, and I will compare and contrast the similarities and differences between romantic love and friendship.