Dr. Brown Belonging

Yes, It IS an essential human need, but…. then…. What happens when an individual doesn’t feel like they belong. What if… this same “essential” sense of belonging, the same “need” to belong, is what barricades and imprisons us? What effects can not belong have on individuals?

Guilt can Affect how you think about someone else just to forget about that one thing that is bothering you. The book I am reading about is We Were Here by Matt De La Pena. the main characters in the book are Miguel, Rondell and Mong. One of the secondary sources is “Because guilt is painful people often find ways to soothe their feelings”(Markman). After all this secondary source explains how guilt can be painful for someone, especially if they are trying to hide it from other people. In the book We Were Here the main character Miguel uses guilt to in a way that he doesn’t focus too much on it, but the guilt can’t go away since he keeps on remember what he did . Also, the fact that his mother never wanted to talk to him right after what he

“The Power of Vulnerability” is one of Brené Brown’s “most popular talk” in TED (“About | Brené Brown, Ph.D.,” n.d.) Here, she discussed what she have found and learned from her long research in human connection, specifically about the concept of vulnerability and its essential role in our everyday life. Brown (2010) started off with the idea that we relate vulnerability to negative emotions and towards the end, she showed that it is the “birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love” as well and the “way to live.” Moreover, she suggests that if we “let ourselves be seen,” we expose ourselves to the different things in life that give “purpose and meaning” to us and live a better life out of it (Brown, 2012, par. 1).

Esperanza’s situation is a reminder that shame can have a positive effect on people’s lives by being a source of motivation and inspiration.

Baumeister et al. (1994) describes guilt as an individual's unpleasant emotional state associated with possible objections to his or her actions, inaction, circumstances, or intentions. Baumeister et al. (1994) thought that Guilt could be understood in a relationship contexts as

GUILT is an emotion one gets when he/she believes or discovers that he/she did a wrong deed and valuated his/her standard social, moral or penal code ( Chaplin, 1975). The intensity of guilt varies from one person to another. When some individuals survive a horrific event, they get this overwhelming feeling of guilt and blame themselves for surviving the abominable situation that others did not survive. This state of mind is a mental condition and is sometimes termed as imagined guilt. It may be found in survivors of holocausts, natural disasters, mass murder and pandemics e.g. the 9/11 Oklahoma City bombings. While this guilt might not be experienced by everyone, it a research based

Guilt is a confusing new emotion. They may feel guilty over things that logically should not cause guilt. They may feel guilt when this initiative does not produce desired results.

The presence of guilt has been felt by all human beings. As guilt grows in a

Feelings are emotional reactions that occur in society every day. Guilt is a horrible feeling; a person knows guilt because he or she understands the wrong that was caused. It causes someone to change into a better person. In “The Scarlet Ibis” by James Hurst, Doodle’s Brother feels guilt for the way he treated Doodle which causes him to change into a superior person. Doodle’s disability causes his self-centered Brother to feel embarrassed. Brother acts forcefully over Doodle, setting him to control. Brother changes after Doodle’s death, causing him to become a dynamic character. Doodle’s Brother feels guilt after Doodle dies; ultimately forcing Brother to understand his love for Doodle.

Dr. Sandra D. Wilson (2001) asks, “Have you ever felt as if you were the only caterpillar in a butterfly world? Do you often feel as if you have to do twice as much to be half as good as other” (p. 16)? If you answered, yes, then that is what Wilson (2001) calls binding shame. “Shame is the soul-deep belief that something is horribly wrong with me that is not wrong with anyone else in the entire world. If I am bound by shame, I feel hopelessly, distinguishingly different and worthless (p. 16).

Guilt can affect your physical mental or emotional health. Feeling guilty about something affects you physically by the stress from guilt weighing you

“Guilt is associated with feelings of tension, regret, and remorse. In the case of shame, the ego is concerned with self-evaluation, but in the case of guilt, one is more other-focused, preoccupied with assessing the impact of actions on others.” `To live with guilt people try to find away to make up for the feeling of guilt so they try to do good deeds. In the novel The Kite Runner Baba lived with guilt his whole life and kept it a secret. Baba never told Amir and Hassan they were brothers and he had to live with the guilt of treating Hassan as a servant.

Discussion:     Guilt is feelings of culpability, especially for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy. There are negative physiological effects caused by guilt. Guilt can make someone over responsible. They will think that life has to be perfect, and will do everything to try to please everyone. It may make someone over conscientious so that they may neglect their needs to avoid

First, when watching Brown’s Listening to Shame TED-Talk video, it is crystal clear that the licensed-therapist is not afraid to discuss how her vulnerabilities shaped the woman who she is today. For example, Brown discussed how one of the worst experiences of her life regarding how her TED-Talk video in Houston, Texas on her research on the study of vulnerabilities, literally showed Brown’s vulnerabilities to the audience- In which she did not want to happen. Even though, the licensed-therapist Brown acknowledged that particular experience as one of the most shameful and

Brené Brown is a research professor and writer whose work galvanized me to reevaluate my perspective on clinical psychology. In her TED talks and published works, Brown discusses the topics of vulnerability, shame, and courage in such a striking tone. She does not report her findings in a removed or unaffected manner. The people involved in her studies do not become just another number. Instead, her own life is impacted by these encounters. She is invested in her work as a serious researcher, but simultaneously maintains her humanness. This balance that she embodies could be difficult to maintain in any profession, but especially in the academic-research world. There is immense value in approaching and conducting research in a manner that