Not all characters in the film are destined to get along. It is pretty evident that Ouiser and Shelby’s father, Drum, do not get along well at all. These two characters were never able to be friends with each other because they were unable to fulfill the two elements a true friendship needs. The textbook describes friendship as, “An interpersonal relationship between two interdependent persons that is mutually productive and characterized by mutual positive regard,” (DeVito, 2015). To be mutually productive means the people in the friendship are both doing what they can to enhance each other's potentials and build the relationship to become even stronger. Drum and Ouiser fail to do this in the film and instead act in the opposite way by portraying …show more content…
While there are many strong relationships, there are also familial relationships as evidenced through Shelby and her mother, M’Lynn. Their relationship does a great job demonstrating the characteristic of responsibility in family relationships. M’Lynn constantly felt the need to protect Shelby. She also felt responsible for Shelby’s health and well being. Our text explains this same idea claiming, “Family members see themselves as having certain obligations and responsibilities to one another,” (DeVito, 2015). We found that Shelby and M’Lynn’s relationship is based off of this element of obligation and demonstrates how a family characteristic can dictate how members act. For example, because of Shelby’s diabetes, M’Lynn constantly watches after her. When Shelby’s blood sugar drops in the salon, her mother runs right over to her and feeds her juice demonstrating her duty to take care of her daughter. If she was not a family member of Shelby she may have just uncomfortably observed the whole incident like some of the other women. However, because they do have a familial bond, M’lynn knows more about Shelby and her condition than anyone else; she understands that she is the only one out of the women that knows how to take care of her daughter during a diabetic …show more content…
Timid and shy, Annelle was not very open in communicating with Truvy. After Truvy critiqued Annelle’s work, Annelle began to open more and communication between them got better as time went on. There was a lot of lateral communication that occurred between Truvy and Annelle because Truvy was so down to earth and didn’t want Annelle to look at her as a boss, but as a friend. Since both Truvy and Annelle were both hairstylists, they were able to communicate in a way that did not cause for one to dominate the other. The relationship between the two was also a mentoring relationship. Mentoring is when a partnership between an experienced individual –the mentor– helps someone who is less experienced–the protégé, (DeVito, 2015, p.274). Truvy was an experienced hairstylist and Annelle had just graduated beauty school. Though she had learned much from beauty school, there were tips and tricks she learned from Truvy that could not be taught in school. As stated in our textbook, mentoring is perhaps best characterized as a relationship in which the experienced and powerful mentor empowers the novice, giving the novice the tools and techniques for gaining the same power the mentor holds, (DeVito, 2015, p.274). This can be observed by the end of Steel Magnolias when Annelle is doing other character’s hair as they chat in the salon. Annelle is moving without hesitation. She is multitasking and
During life, birth, and death, a family is one of the few natures of life that are present throughout. Often times, the value of family is taken for granted, and people tend to disregard the importance it carries. Due to the power present in the nature of a man, often times it is challenging for women to establish a firm independence, in distinction of the common norms inaugurated in society and in family. In both A Thousand Splendid Suns and Pride and Prejudice, men are the dominant figures in all households, as they have control over their financial status, who their children marry, where they live, and create means in which the females of the family must follow. The inferiority that women face leads to an inquiry of an immense pride
In this essay I will be comparing “She,” by Matthew Brooks Treacy and the relationship with his mother to my relationship with my father, and the lessons taught through experiences that occurred. My father taught the concept of moral obligation, in a similar fashion to Traecy’s mother teaching him to use his hands, through errands, that influenced my decision to make ethical decisions throughout my life.
Throughout the course of the incredible novel, Time Enough For Drums, by Ann Rinaldi, Jemima Emerson proves to have many fantastic qualities as she grows up throughout the story. This story takes place during the times of the Revolutionary War. Jemima's family was torn apart throughout the story as she grows older because of the war. Her brothers were soldiers off at war, her father killed by the British, and her mother broken from Jemima’s father’s death. Jemima is astute, and ambitious during the events in the novel. Jemima is also very rebellious.
I cannot remember the last time I said a sincere “I love you” to my parents. What distinguishes them from others to whom I say those three words is that I feel obligated to love them. Many critics would characterize this as “unhealthy” and as some result of a parenting blunder within my family, however, such conclusions would be hastily inaccurate without a rich understanding of myself and my family. Indeed, it seems that parents are one of the most criticized groups of people and some of the least justly judged. Fortunately, in The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls, the author chronicles her childhood in detail, allowing and encouraging the reader to judge her upbringing. While it led to some endangerment and abuse, her parents’ Laissez-Faire
There is a big connection between our family and our identity. Family shapes us into the person we become and takes a big part in developing our identity. No matter if their influence is life changeable or not, their presence in our lives is enough to create changes. In the book, Hunger of Memory, Richard Rodriguez described his life as a Mexican-American trying to adapt to the new ways of life and how this has cause him to become distant with his family. On the other hand, in the essay, “The Love of My Life”, the author Cheryl Strayed discussed the affects her mother’s death had on her and her outlook in life. Both authors can relate in terms of the importance of how family helps in shaping one into the person they become. Although identities can be self-built, our families are important in the process because they provide the support needed to build and find identity.
Family is interpreted many different ways by many different people. In these two stories “Stepdaughters” by Max Apple and “Love Medicine” by Louise Erdrich, we will view the family dynamics differences and similarities.
Flannery O’Connor’s Wise Blood and Kazuo Ishiguro’s Never Let Me Go feature two young women, Sabbath Lily Hawks and Kathy H., whose nontraditional childhoods affect their relationships with others, their self-confidence, and their perception of family. While Sabbath and Kathy both come from abnormal homes, their respective upbringings inform the way they relate to the world and how they show affection. Sabbath will show love and attention towards anyone or anything. Kathy becomes giving in every sense of the word: a member of an organ farm, she is internally and eternally magnanimous. Her charity extends to her emotionality as she puts herself behind those whom she cares about, like her friends Ruth and Tommy. Structurally and emotionally, a “traditional” family is consistent, dependent, supportive, and trustworthy and because Sabbath and Kathy did not have traditional families, they must go to extremes in order to feel important, loved, and wanted.
Rendered to have the intellectual equivalent of that of a child by her mental state, Ree’s mother is incapable of caring for herself — struggling to carry out the most basic of human functionality and only being able to perform the most incrementally tasks such as folding laundry. As the film progresses, viewers begin to recognize that Ree’s duties are not just limited to providing for her siblings, but for her incapacitated mother too. This recognition holds significance because it questions the stereotypical family-dynamic American’s have and how odd it may seem to witness someone from the United States have this kind of family situation in which the teenage daughter is responsible for her ill-mother and younger siblings. Ree stands as her mother’s protector, caregiver and sole-provider. She makes her meals, cares for her children, and even brushes her hair after she’s bathed.
Throughout time, family has been proven to be one of the largest influences on a person’s life. A person’s relationship with their family members completely shapes who they are as a person and creates who that person is going to be in life. The theme of familial life shaping how a person turns out is exemplified throughout three different short stories: “Flavio’s Home” by Gordon Parks, “Being an Other” by Melissa Algranati, and “The Married Woman” by Simone de Beauvoir. These three stories exemplify that being a part of family comes with many responsibilities, whether they are cultural responsibilities or responsibilities that help to keep the family running.
In a different story and a different life, the same connection that responsibility to one’s family is important. From the eyes of a school aged girl who came with her family to america from the Dominican Republic, it is clear to see that family is always important. When the girl and her family came to America, all her mother wanted to do was invent. Her mami wanted to just do something great. But her home and job needed her first. She would work full day then come home and run her home. Only once her house was settled down for the night, would she think. With her husband asleep next to her, she “in her lighted corner, like some devoted scholar burning the midnight oil” (Alvarez 1) would the devoted mother invent. She would do her duties to
The roles of men and women were not specifically defined in her family, mainly after her dad’s stroke and one of her brothers having head trauma. All work was divided up between three girls and the one remaining son,
In every home, there is a different definition of family and how family should treat each other. Two short stories were read by an author named Flannery O’Connor. “A Good Man is Hard to Find”. It was about a dysfunctional family who encounters a criminal named “The Misfit”. The grandmother which is the main character is very judgmental towards others and sometimes her own family at times. This story starts off with a disagreement on where to go for a family trip, but they decide on going to Florida for the family trip after a while of arguing. On this trip, it showed what type of family they are. They talk about everything with one another as well as bicker and fight but at the end of the day, they are still family and love each other. They come together the most in panicking situations such as the accident and waiting for a car to help them. The point of this paper is the theme of family. Specifically, family is a theme in this short story because it depicts a dysfunctional family; the family you see on a crazy television show and can’t get enough of because they’re funny but also they have serious moments. There 's the two troublesome and annoying kids, the hot-headed dad who tries to maintain control of a situation and fails, the wife busy attending to the baby, and the grandmother, who 's a case all to herself (and also the main character). Though the story starts out seeming like a comedy, it takes a serious turn when the family encounters a criminal, who kills them
In Simon Keller’s “FOUR THEORIES OF FILIAL DUTY” the author looks at the question of what obligations a child has to his or her parents. Keller initially examines and critiques three pre - existing theories of filial duty. After outlining the failures associated with these theories, Keller puts forward “the Special Goods Theory” This theory will be the subject of this paper. First I shall offer a summary of what is outlined in the paper and the main arguments Keller offers in support of this theory.
Human nature is a very complex thing and one of the complexities found within it, is our ability to form and maintain relationships, as well as build them to be stronger or break them apart. I find this area to be very interesting, so I decided to explore the complexity of relationships and what love has to do with that. Within that subject, I wanted to explore the subject of family and how they react to any kind of trauma because I personally have had a few experiences within my family that could be considered traumatic. I wanted to discover why things turn out the way they do, which lead me to the question as to why we respond to things and how do those responses affect a family. While the strength of the family’s bonds plays a role in whether
In the story “The God of Small Things," the term family can be defined as persons that an individual cares about. The obligations of the family members appear to be influenced by the bold ties. Despite the disputes among some family members, the blood ties obligate them to express care and love towards one another. Just like in real life situations, the novel explains that family relations can be frustrating, complicated, and confusing. In most cases, it is apparent that most individuals are forced by the family ties to stick together. The failure to express care towards one another is seen as one of the factors that prompt families to fall apart.