Effects Of Communication In Cathedral By Raymond Carver

Broken marriages are also a major theme in Interpreter of Maladies. Mr. and Mrs. Das married at a young age. Although the story doesn’t state whether they had relationship issues in their early states, it is almost evident they were not the happiest couple before marriage either. That would explain why Mrs. Das is not in love with Mr. Das. “… The more premarital conflict, the less satisfaction couples reported with their relationships at the follow-up assessment and the less the wives reported being in love (Thomas N. Bradbury).” Another reason we could predict Mr. and Mrs. Das did not have a healthy early relationship is their lack of communication skills. “…several studies have found evidence that later communication can be predicted from early satisfaction (Thomas N. Bradbury).” If their relationship was built upon a strong foundation in the early stages, it would have been easier for them to communicate in their later marital stages.

When both involved do not effectively communicate with each other, a distant marriage may lead to discontent for all. Sinclair Ross’s short story, “The Painted Door”, deals with the growing dissatisfaction and loneliness of a farmer’s wife, Ann, who feels alone as her husband deals with the harsh conditions of the environment. This story demonstrates how deeply communication can affect a marriage, be it bad or good. One of the most fundamental elements of a healthy relationship is communication. Lack of communication in a relationship can result to severe consequences. Irrespective of the kind of relationship, lack of communication magnifies issues in a relationship undermining the very foundation of the relationship. The success of any relationship relies on one's ability to communicate well. Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other. John is a simple farmer who thinks the only way he can please his wife, is by working all day to earn money for her. However, Ann would prefer he spend more time with her. Their relationship is stressed even further when Ann is left at home alone with nothing to think about but their relationship because John has to go to his father’s house. The terrible snow storm accentuates Ann’s feelings of loneliness and despair. These feelings lead Ann to seek comfort and companionship from Steven, the attractive friend of her husband, John, thus leading to John's suicide.

In “Sex, Lies and Conversation” Deborah Tannen argues that the problems of men and women in marriage are caused by a misunderstanding rather than lack of communication. Throughout the passage she discusses theses misunderstandings and reveals the solution to the problem.

Most of us live our life without truly living. We follow the path handed down from generations of social conformity. We are taught to aspire to a marriage, house full of descendants, and stable job that supports the aforementioned. Besides the majority leading a constraining lifestyle, there are few who sincerely enjoy their lives and celebrate their individuality. The renowned psychologist Abraham Maslow discusses that people live a fulfilling life because of self-actualization in his study “Self-Actualization and Beyond” in 1967. He notes that with self-awareness, a person “comes to know what [their] destiny is, who [their] wife or husband will be, what [their] mission in life will be” (Maslow 440). In the cases of those who aren’t aware

Literacy Analysis of Cathedral In “Cathedral”, Raymond Carver writes a story where a man is upset about the arrival of his wife’s friend, simply because he is blind. The reader see the man’s reaction toward blind people and that causes him to consider what he is missing in his life. The primary focus is fear and dislike towards the Blind Man.

“Cathedral” by Raymond Carver is a very lengthy but short story. The story is about a blind man named Robert whose goes to stay with a friend of his and her husband after the passing of a loved one. The wife of the husband kept in touch with the blind man through audiotapes and later finds out that his wife has passed. So she invites him to come and stay with her and her husband. The narrator of this story is the wife’s husband who also isn’t named. The speaker tries to ignore the fact that he’s a little disturbed and irritated that a friend of his wife is coming to stay with them, let alone the man is blind. Nothing really happens in this story its typical and very calm. A husband and wife and their guest have a couple drinks, eat dinner then watch TV. The wife and the blind man try and catch up with each other while the husband tries to find several ways to interact with the two. Considering the fact that this is the first time he and the blind man have ever met. But as the story goes on, it gets really interesting and it makes you want to know what will happen next? The way the husband was acting I had imagined that the wife would leave her husband for the blind man simply because of how well the two gelled and meshed as if they have been connected to entire life but in a friendly way. In the story “Cathedral,” the author wants his audience to turn their brains off physically and use the most important part of our body. He wants them to use their mind. In order for us to

“John laughs at me, ofcourse, but one expects that in marriage.” (Gilman 486), thus shows when the narrator expresses her feelings to her husband John, he uses his manly powers of knowing what is best for her rather than listening to what she needs. John would always judge and make statements such as "You know the place is doing you good", while the narrator is slowly falling into madness. That just shows how ignorant John is towards his wife's situation, and men's lack of intelligent of the well being of

Almost never is anything written about the underlying social implications of marriage and relationships. It is worthwhile to note that this story quietly shows that in the exclusiveness of marriage, certain "outside relationships" can either cultivate or destroy lives depending on the relationship shared by a married couple. A lot of troubled marriages continue to crumble because spouses fail to try to solve their problems. However, this is not to say that marriages are an easy undertaking.

Carver uses irony to show that the narrator, does not know his wife. He feels “sorry for the blind man” who had never seen his wife, unaware of his own 'blindness' to his wife's need for emotional intimacy. When the wife shares her poetry, about “what she had felt” he is uncomfortable and unable to give her an honest reaction.”I didn't think much of the poem. Of course, I didn't tell her that” . The deep emotional connection that Robert and his wife enjoyed is beyond the narrator's understanding. The narrator's revelation that “Every night I smoked dope and stayed up as long as I could before I fell asleep. …. When I did go to sleep, I had these dreams. Sometimes I’d wake up from one of them, my heart going crazy”, tells us that he cannot

Raymond Carver wrote a long-lived short story name “Cathedral”. Where a divorced women remarried after a hard experience to a person who is struggling to accept his wife’s very long relationship with a blind man. Her new husband suspiciousness controls his emotions and draw his thoughts falsely. As her very old friendship was having an unfortunate event that his wife had passed away, he arranged with her a visit to their house, which concerned her husband “A blind man in my house was not something I looked forward to. “ Thinking (33). He then went over memorizing his wife’s stories about her long lasting friendship with the blind man and how she knew him before even knowing her new husband. Jealousy and mistakable judgments are covering her new husband’s interpretation.

Raymond Carver’s short story “Cathedral” and Edward Hopper’s painting Sunday depict depression and isolation by showing in the painting a man sitting by himself creating a feeling of him being alone, and in “Cathedral” in an internal way of the narrator not really seeing the beauty in the world. Raymond Carver is a previous alcoholic who adds in alcohol in his short stories such as “Cathedral”. Carver has the narrator always drinking, he mentions that in the house they have a bit of every kind of alcohol. Representing his feeling of being alone just like the man in Edward Hopper’s painting, Sunday. In the painting there is a man sitting on the curb smoking, he looks very depressed just like the narrator in the short story, although he shows depression in numerous different ways. Raymond Carver and Edward Hopper together create a very mellow and

Within the story, the narrator also provides the back-story between his wife and the blind man, but the details he does not provide about his wife are very telling about his character specifically his self-serving way of thinking about things. The narrator briefly explains that his wife had previously worked for the blind man, however he soon gets off track and changes the topic to the fact that she had left his employment she had married her “officer to-be” who was her “childhood sweetheart” (210). At this point the narrator gets distracted and begins to describe the narrative of his wife and her ex husband: the narrator explains that “their life together in the military” lead her to “swallow all the pills and capsules in the medicine chest” (211).

Early in the novel, carver introduces us to the two characters (the male and the female) and we immediately understand, that they are splitting up. The dialog between the two is minimal and negative. They talk in short sentences, which creates a form of seriousness in the dialog. The male appears to be much more calm about the situation than the female, which gives us the clue that he has betrayed her in some way. The female also says “you can’t even look me in the face, can you?”, which indicates that the husband has bad conscience.

Raymond Carver the author of “Cathedral” which narrate about inviting her old friend who is blind to their house. Robert is blind and his wife had died not long ago. The story beginning to show how the author is troubled by approaching visit for things he can 't exactly clarify, but he ascribes it to Robert 's blindness. The author does not understand how much the blind man used to be to his wife and he doesn 't suspect his arrival, yet before the end of the story the author has an epiphany and sees. From this story, the Reader gets the feeling this is no conventional story. The author is amazingly easygoing in recounting his story, and this account style is purposely utilized by the writer to draw in the reader. Consider the different routes in which the narration of "Cathedral" can be viewed as a casual narration and a well detailed description.

Wife’s action make the husband interchange with the blind man. As the unfamiliar people, Wife use her present in the space to make the others comfortable as well as a way to let the others admire her. This can show when husband and blind man were watching TV, wife said: “I may just sit here … If it bothers you, say so. Otherwise, I may just sit here with my eyes closed until you’re ready to go to bed.” (Carver 9) Wife did not want to miss anything, even she was not involved in the conversation, she still find the other way to interact with the others. This show how communication can express not only through talk, but also being silent.