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Essay On Adoption Identity

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Identity of an Adoptee
As parents begin the adoption process it is common to feel anxious about the emotional bond that must be created and many times will choose a closed adoption in order to “cut all ties” with the biological mother. Some parents worry how that secrecy will affect the child later in life and chooses to keep an open relationship with the birthmother. Furthermore, adoption is a delicate process and parents should be aware on how adoption has been associated with the feeling of abandonment that leads to the later struggle of the child’s understanding their identity.
Society has planted these roots in the minds of parents that adoption should be accompanied with secrecy which emphasizes the idea that “different” means “deficient”. They believe that the information of the birth mother is threatening information against the adoptive parents, however they need to understand that this information helps fill in the gaps of the adoptee’s identity …show more content…

Theorists have discussed how identity is formed through “phases of openness and experimentation, and phases of consolidation” (Noy-Sharav 2005). Adoption is considered an “as if” situation (Barbara 1998), meaning that people still believe that “biology inevitably trumps social environment when we consider what defines a family” (Goldber, 2005). In a study focused primarily on interracial adoption, the authors discussed how before children are able to fully understand the concept of adoption, they are already being affected by the difference of race very early in their lifetime (Friedlander 1999). Most children adopted into an interracial family will have little to no recollection of their birth family and culture. In addition, stranger and peers often bring up the differences of the parents and child that can lead to a child to struggle to develop a strong identification with their adoptive

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