Examples Of Relationships In The Great Gatsby

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The relationships in F. Scott Fitzgerald's The Great Gatsby are very dynamic and powerful, however the people within the relationships have varying degrees of commitment to the others in that bond. In order for a relationship to be long lasting and healthy, the people in the relationship need to give their all, or know when to back out so that they don’t hurt themselves and others when the relationship inevitably ends. Gatsby’s obsession with his relationship with Daisy makes him blind to the fact that she doesn’t love him alone, and that she cares too much about her social standing to really run away with him. Gatsby believes that he can repeat the past, but he ignores the fact that Daisy chose Tom over him even after she read Gatsby’s …show more content…

She chose old money over Gatsby once before, so the responsible thing to do would be to suspect that she might do it again and have an open conversation about her desires. However Gatsby’s drive to chase the fairytale of running off into the sunset with his soul mate clouds his rational thinking, and he can’t bare to imagine that their relationship isn’t as strong as he had hoped. He naively believes that she would do anything for their love, and when she kills Myrtle, Gatsby vows to say, “‘But of course I’ll say I was [driving]’” (143) to protect her. If she loved Gatsby as much as he loved her, she would take responsibility for her actions and save him, but Gatsby would rather believe the lie that they are soul mates than to realize that his love isn’t reciprocated. Ever so hopeful, Gatsby’s refusal to consider that Daisy has an inclination to choose money over love and that she wouldn’t sacrifice her desires for him results in his death. If he had seen that their relationship wasn’t as strong as he had hoped, he might have had the courage to leave town before allowing the blame …show more content…

Tom barely shows any devotion to Daisy while Gatsby’s dedicates his life to her, yet Daisy chooses to stay with Tom and his status than to run away with the lost love of her life. Even though they don’t share raw passion and true love, they both would rather remain married despite the fact that they both know that the other have had affairs. They both give and take what they want most. Tom gives Daisy wealth and high social standing, and Tom needs the outside world to see him with a perfect wife which happens to be Daisy. By acknowledging each other’s faults they can weigh their options with a clear mind, and really evaluate what’s important to them in a relationship. Daisy values old money, and she “vanished into her rich house, into her rich, full life” (149) because security is important to her. Even though Tom and Daisy do not represent the perfect couple, their relationship will probably last until death because they are open, and they offer what the other wants without blindly believing that they were perfect for each other. Just because their relationship is long-lasting, does not mean that they should stay together. Their relationship is strong, but it is grotesquely unhealthy. Not only have there been numerous affairs, but Tom is also a violent man. He broke Myrtle's nose, and earlier Daisy lightly accuses Tom of hurting her

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