Forgiveness is a concept that most people do not understand, and I must admit I was one of those people before I took the class. My experience with this concept was mainly through church sermons where the pastor explained God forgave us of our sins to restore a relationship with us. Therefore, my definition was clouded by these sermons and I would have said forgiveness was saying you are sorry no matter who was at fault, showing remorse for your actions, changing your actions, and reconciling to the point of being civil to the person that had wronged you. Thankfully, because of the class Forgiveness & Communication, I have obtained information that will empower me to move forward toward a more forgiving life style. Through class lecture, class participation, and different types of resources I have learned many things including, the need to forgive, what forgiveness is not, what forgiveness is, effective methods of letting go, and the tools to know if you have truly forgiven and are now different. The need to forgive affects us physically, mentally, relationally, and spiritually. The intensity and duration of the unforgiveness can cause it to become debilitative. Accordingly, unforgiveness does not affect the other person, it affects you negatively. For instance, like the quote of Marianne Williamson “unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.” Research shows a lot of our sicknesses such as high blood pressure and heart trouble are intensified by the lack of our not letting go of past hurts. Mentally we spend time thinking about a past transgression more than we spend time thinking about happy events in our lives. I think it is like ivy growing in your mind, you first think the ivy is pretty but then it starts to grow and eventually covers the wall of your mind and chokes out all other flowering vegetation, leaving you with only the transgression and no beautiful memories. If we do not forgive it will affect our relationships and can eventually cause the relationship to cease to be. Lastly, our spiritual growth can be hampered by our lack of forgiving and we cannot have peace in our lives. Booker T Washington once said, “the moment I begin to hate a man
Forgiveness is what holds and brings relationships together. If you stay angry for long, your heart stubbornly hardens. But if you choose to forgive, you will be filled with the grace of God. We are all sinners and should never carry a
Grudges only hurt those involved; forgiveness can save those from a life time consumed with anger. Forgiveness is benificial because "forgiveness of ourselves and others leads to increased feelings of self worth and decreased psychological stress." For example, In the interlopers "and what peace there would be among the forester folk if all ended our feud tonight." Grudges can cause you to dispise a person and when all that anger builds up it could cause irritability along with other psychological
Forgiveness helps us feel light and helps us get rid of hard feelings that occupy our mind and heart and eat away our peace of mind. Forgiveness is a way to self-fulfillment. People who can readily forgive others are much more responsible and satisfied inside than those who keep grudges against others and develop feelings of enmity. Those who forgive help create positive energy on this planet. In the article “Forgiveness Towards Others” by Charu B shae states “Our grudges will only affect the relationship with the person and not hurt the other person in any way.”
Forgiveness have important medicinal effect on health. Researchers and study have shown that people who forgive have less chances of health issues like heart attack and brain tumor. “People who hold tolerance views of human nature and don’t seem to nurse grieveness unduly tend to have blood pressures in the normal range” (Callwood, J. 2007, p. 153). Writer in the above findings tells her readers the medicinal effect of tolerance. She beautifully explains the positive effect of forgiveness in contrast with unforgiveness where her contrasting finding says “Unforgiving people, some studies show, are three times more likely to have heart diseases as people who don’t carry grudges”(Callwood, J. 2007, p.153). Writer here is addressed to people who cannot or do not forgive and tells them how harmful holding grudges are to their health. She beautifully explains the finding by telling first the negative effect of not forgiving in comparison to
Life has ups and downs, it may stab you in the back, but it’s a choice to forgive and forget about it. Forgiveness is something that helps people move on. For every person, the word forgiveness has a different meaning, for me it means leaving behind actions from my past. Personally, I like to think that forgiveness is a way to start over whether in a friendship or in life. If the opportunity presented itself to me to explain the word, forgiveness, to someone I would simply reply that it is the idea of setting yourself free from all the hate one has been holding.
Forgiveness is very important throughout life. If people don't forgive, they are going to be stuck in the past always remembering about the mistake that person did. Forgiving someone can make yourself feel better because you know you forgave that person and there's no negativity between you and that person.
To begin with, forgiving people who wronged you comes in handy since it helps you live a longer and healthier life. According to the informational text “Understanding Forgiveness” written by PBS, it states that people who forgive have “ [f]ewer stress-related health issues” and their
People devote years trying to obtain revenge for something that happened in the past. In turn, perseverance means to accomplish something without letting anything be in the way and by forgiving others we can demonstrate this amazing quality by putting differences in the past and moving on to the future. In order to achieve colossal works in life we must forgive so we can accomplish massive goals. Let people understand the potential of forgiveness and how it will give you the ability to
Forgiveness is letting go; whether it be letting go of small things or big things, it helps people move on. Each person has their own definition of what forgiveness truly means. Its logical for people to be forgiven because no matter what they do, they're human; humans make mistakes. It can be hard not to forgive, but it's also necessary to put away your differences and reunite with former enemies. It makes sense to ask for forgiveness.
Forgiveness has been defined in many ways by psychologists and researchers with no one universal definition. Hill (as cited in Maltby, Day and Mackaskill 2001) state that it is widely agreed that forgiveness involves a willingness to abandon resentment, negative judgement and indifferent behaviour towards the person who has hurt them Although research is recent, from the last 15 years, it has helped develop our understanding of forgiveness . Research has shown that forgiveness gives positive mental health and prevents the development of mental disorders such as anxiety, depression and stress. Two major models of forgiveness are Enright’s model and Worthington’s (2001) pyramid model to REACH forgiveness. Both these models involve steps and
Forgiveness is the excuse of an offense.But it never denies the offense, the hurt and damage still exists for years.When integrity is not justified, justice restores individuals and the society to show virtuousness.Justice is all about restoration, not revenge.Revenge is a retreat.But the society does it different from what most people do in personal relationships.Through the journey of individuals life, forgiveness is a special thing.It can be a choice or an emotional spirit.Some people tend to hold bitterness and injustice for years, while others can sweep away the situation.Some people might argue that forgiving with justice makes everything so much easier however, it is obvious that sometimes justice does not help with anything.Often there
This means as one chooses forgiveness, a reduction in anger occurs which in turn decreases the physiological reactions negatively affecting the overall health of the offended party (Quenstedt-Moe, 2012). Overall, the offended party who chooses forgiveness has a better mental and general health then one who harbors unforgiveness (Quenstedt-Moe, 2012). Additionally, according to a study which examined the link between forgiveness and mortality, those that placed barriers or conditions on forgiveness ultimately exhibited poorer health and a greater risk of mortality (Toussaint, Owen & Cheadle,
Enright and Reed’s (2006) article confirms that forgiveness is extremely important because it brings positive change from negative experiences. Forgiveness therapy does not mean that a person has to forget the abuse they experienced. It does not even mean that the person is looking to build a better relationship with the person that abused him or her but it does mean that the person has made a moral decision to have an attitude of benevolence which will improve all of the negative outcomes of the abuse. Accepting the fact that I have been done wrong and realizing that I cannot change what has already occurred leads me to only want to make sure the situation or a similar situation does not happen again. Choosing to forgive and let go of anger makes room for joy and cheerfulness.
The general topic of forgiveness has received a magnitude of attention and research on a conceptual level in recent years. Hall and Fincham consistently noted, however, that self-forgiveness had little to no empirical study or research documented and believe this is a critical piece to an individual’s overall emotional health. In an effort to stimulate additional research on the
To start, forgiveness is a good action that results in better consequences. Forgiveness can only be great and rewarding due to the fact that moving on and leaving the past behind is what the main focus truly is. As demonstrated, the film Simon Birch shows a young boy named Simon and his best friend Joe. Simon was picked on numerous times from his physical limitations and