Maya Angelou once said, “I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” This quote encompasses the idea that change is inevitable. A person is involved in numerous relationships during their lifetime and what happens within them can change who they become in the future. Within the novel, Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford, the relationships that Henry Lee has developed throughout his lifetime have shaped him into the person he is today.
To begin, the relationship between Henry and his father has a huge impact on who he is today. Henry and his father never seemed to see eye to eye. The country of China, Mr. Lee’s childhood home, was the only place that his family belonged to in his eyes.
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Marty and Henry have a relationship close to that of Henry and his own father. They do not talk much, and they have never been close. Ethel, Henry 's wife was the glue that stuck the two men together. In essence, both men were bound to their fathers through their mothers. Marty is Henry 's only son, and he himself had been an only child. After Ethel passed away, Marty came around more, and their relationship started to grow. Eventually Marty introduces Henry to Samantha, his girlfriend, and Henry seems to open up to an even further extent. He is very accepting of the fact that Sam is Caucasian, and not Chinese. Marty is surprised at this fact, and thus begins the unveiling of Henry’s past. Marty ultimately realizes that Henry is not his grandfather, and they take the first step into a stronger bond. Following the trips to the Panama Hotel, the two are more connected than they ever had been. Marty encourages his father to find Keiko again, and not to completely give up on his first love. Henry’s relationship with Marty helped him learn acceptance in a way that he will love Marty no matter the circumstances. He will sacrifice to no ends to make sure Marty is able to attend college, and that he is happy. Another key lesson that Henry learned is to follow his dreams, and that it is never too late to chase them. Marty and Samantha both encouraged Henry
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This quote shows that people can be different then they can be, people can ultimately change for the worst.
Henry was born and raised in the United States. When he was twelve years old, he was “scholarshipping” in Rainier Elementary School, a “top white school” (Ford, 183). As the war progressed between Japan and America, his parents were desperate for him to become more “American”. As a result, they insisted for him “to stop speaking their native Chinese” and become fluent in English (Ford, 12). However, this created a problem, because Henry’s parents could not speak English, and they scolded him if he spoke Cantonese to them. Due to this, Henry had a difficult time conversing with his parents, which means that they rarely spoke with each other. Although his parents forced him to only speak English for his own safety, it ended up isolating Henry from his own family. They obviously could not form a close family relationship if they did not communicate with one another. Moreover, Henry befriending Keiko made the situation worse. His father could not accept the fact that his only son became friends with a Japanese girl.
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