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Living Beneath The Mask Of Toughness Essay

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Jocelyn Vargas
Professor Pierstorff
English 101, TTH
1 December 2016
Living Underneath The Mask of Toughness

When I was younger, I would visit my cousins and aunt every single day. My aunt lived in an apartment and even though it was small, all of my cousins and I would always be together playing. While my cousin and I were playing with Polly Pockets and doll houses as girls are expected to, I remember my boy cousin wanting to play with us. He would always love playing with toys and it didn’t matter to him if it was labeled as for a boy or for a girl. As long as he was having fun, he didn’t care what he played with or what color it was. Looking back now, I remember that the minute his step dad saw him playing with a pink toy or a doll, he would instantly freak out. He would say something like, “Hey that’s for girls!” or “Why are you playing with a girl toy, you faggot!” I didn’t understand why he was so against my cousin playing with a toy that wasn’t boy-ish. It became clear to me that since early childhood, boys are forced to act more masculine and hide underneath a mask of toughness. Having to always act tough and hide feelings as boys may lead to them dealing with several consequences throughout their lives. So, what exactly is masculinity? Masculinity is “having qualities appropriate to or usually associated with a man” (“masculinity”). In other words, being masculine is being “tough”, powerful, strong, or acting aggressive as a man. “American society socializes

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