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Lying Scheduling

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Lying sucks. There, I've said it. Parents can't help but take it personal when their children, especially teenagers who are supposed to behave more "grown up", lie to them. I know being lied to sucks, but try taking a moment to think about where the lie came from, WHY the lie happened in the first place. If you deal with the WHY and not the LIE you give your family the potential to avoid scenarios like this in the future.I frequently tell parents that the lie isn't the problem. The lie is a symptom of a larger problem. It could be lack of trust or communication. It could be a result of a thinking error. It could be manipulation or selfishness. Or, it could even be fear, but getting to the root of the problem is going to avoid these scenarios in the future.

As a parent, I know being lied to isn't a great feeling. I've taught my daughter that lying is not something you do to someone you love, but it happens nonetheless. …show more content…

"I didn't do it!" I think most of us with little kids have been in this scenario. You know they did it. They know that you know they did it, but they wont budge when it comes to telling the truth. Why? There's no need to focus on the LIE here. You already know, because you saw it, because of a process of elimination, or because of any number of other reasons, that they did in fact do the deed. So focus on the WHY if it all. Were they doing something they shouldn't have been doing? Are they afraid of the consequence? Why? Are they too steep? Have they been reassured that the consequence for lying is much worse when added to the deed that's already been done? Do they understand your position on lying? Are they old enough to understand that taking responsibility for ones actions is a major step towards being a "big kid" or "grown

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