Throughout history a one-parent household has been viewed as a nontraditional family, but in today’s society, it seems one-parent homes are shockingly common. Although the reasons and causes vary in every family, each year the number of children raised by a single parent increases. A countless number of people fail to realize the importance of children being raised by two parents, majority feels it is insignificant and has no direct effect on the children. This logic that today's society has adopted in thinking a mom can play both a mother and a father, vice versa is certainly incorrect. Single parenting can have positive effects on children depending on other factors such as personality types and parenting techniques, however it can …show more content…
These children perceive that they are the primary priority in their parents' lives, yet they are not treated as though they are the center of everyone's universe. This healthy approach helps to prepare children for the "real world", because children will feel secure about their capability to negotiate the challenges of approaching future life.“According to a study at Cornell University, positive single parenting did not show any negative impact on the social and educational development of the 12- and 13-year-olds participating in the study” (Kunz 2015).
The unfavorable effects of single parenting include: financial troubles, emotional dilemmas, low parenting qualities, loneliness, and adjustment difficulties. All of these factors will trickle down from the parents to the children, which will take a toll on them. Most single-parent households are run by mothers, and the absence of a father leads to a lower household income, which can increase the risk of children performing poorly in school. Also, a small income may provide less access to child health care than what is necessary. The lack of financial support from a father often results in single mothers working more, which can in turn affect children because they receive less attention and guidance with their homework. According to University of Washington's West Coast Poverty Center,
All across the globe, there are children growing up in single-parent households, and through some research
However, by rising to these challenges, custodial single parents develop significant strengths. The positive benefits of being a single parent are that the child receives a lesson in independence. The child sees how strong the one parent is at providing them with everything they need without having to depend on someone else. The parents are showing their children that it is possible to live on their own, have an enjoyable life and take care of others while doing so. The children will know that they are a priority to the parent. When there is a second parent around the house, it can be easy to put responsibility off on them, but when the children see how hard the parent is working for them, they will understand how important they are to their parent. (Dowd, 1997)
Some of the negative effects on a child being raised in a single parent home can be seen in the early years of their development. The child can start to feel infer to other children around them who have both parents present. These feelings of inferiority can stay with a child all the way to adulthood later in life. This negative impact can harm their ability to gain confidence leading to poor work in school and work later in life. The child will also feel neglected which can make it hard for them understand forming relationships with other people. This affects their understanding of how to act with other on a social basis during a critical time in their development. Also due to a parent needing to work longer hours to make up for the missing half of the house the child will not see them often. Missing parental presence can lead to very poor care of that child to the point that their health also goes into decline.
Single parent vs. two parent homes and the effect it has on their child’s viability, intimacy and conflict in their intimate relationships.
This journal explains that researchers, such as Amato, have several theories that explain why and how children growing up with single parents have an elevated risk of experiencing problems. Some of these problems include cognitive thinking, social interaction and the emotional well-being of the child. Most of the theories discuss economic and parental resources available to children. They also talk about the stressful events and circumstances to which these children must adapt.
In the article, “It’s Better To Be Raised by a Single Mom”, author Pamela Gwyn Kripke states that, “Kids of unmarried parents, according to all of those studies (of rich moms and poor, educated moms and not-so), are supposed to be failures.” If you really take a look at the situation of single parenting, it should be seen that it is not primarily who or how many people are raising the child, but rather how the child is being raised or brought up. If you really think about it, children with two parents in their household can take on the same emotional, social, and behavioral skills just as kids with one parent. Many say that for a child to be fully developed socially and emotionally, that they must be raised by two parents rather than one. In the article, “5 Things To Know About Kids Who Grew Up With Single Parents”, author Bob Alaburda states, “Growing up with loving parents can fill you with positive examples of how to handle relationships when you're older. Even having two parents who hate each others' guts can demonstrate what NOT to do. Either way, it's a learning experience. But children of a single parent are left to gain that experience on their
Through many years, children growing up in single family homes has been discovered as problems. “At first glance, defending single mothers and their children. Raised by a strong and resourceful single mother, I turned out OK” (Wilcox). Being raised up with one parent seems to be stressful and impossible, but for decades its become possible to happen. In the society today, there are children growing up overcoming emotional stages and achieving their goals whether if they have both parents to show them difficult paths in their life that they will overcome as a growing human being. The problems that occurs within raising a child in a single family home compared to a married home can be different or the same depending on the disciplinary actions. There are many questions asked, does a child need both parent figures to be raised? Does a son need a father figure, does a daughter need a mother figure? Among all the questions asked, is there a person taking care the main responsible with much undertaking, on the single parenting topic it has become an interesting argument. People need to be more informed with raising a child. Raising a child does not rely on the structure of a family, it is more to how a parent is discipline and having a proper process of teaching their child with learning how to be mature and respectful. Children of a single home can be progressive with the same emotional, social able, and interactive behavioral skills that is raised with both parents.
“Single-parent families now constitute 30 percent of all families with minor children and are the most rapidly growing families in America” (as cited in Dowd, 1997). When people hear the term ‘single-parent’ they automatically think it means a person who is the legal guardian of a child or children. It is typical for a single-parent to be a woman, because the statistics on the proportion of the children who live with their mother is at 87 percent, while a small 13 percent live with their father (as cited in Dowd, 1997). Because of the diversity in household types, a common question has been asked several times. Which type is better? Raising a child in a single-parent household or a two-parent household?
One of the studies show how single parenthood can be bad for a child, but also can a two-parent home with a no financial problems but stress and conflict between the pair can be as or even more destructive to a child. “A two parent, financially stable home with stress and conflict would be more destructive to children than a one parent, financially stable home without stress and conflict” (Roiphe 61). This is a statistic from Sara S. McLanahan, she is basically stating that a single parent with good finances and no stress or conflict can be much better than a home with two parents and financial stability but with strass and conflict can greater hurt the development of the child. The author agrees with this statement, but overall the author believes that all people should realize that single parenthood is becoming more of a normal thing than before and we as Americans should realize this and should help single parents become successful and have it were they can be financially successful without a
For most people, the home life can affect how you act everyday, this is no different for children and school. The stress from home is shown to affect a child's school life. Research has shown that children that live with a single parent score less than children with two parents, on average, with measurements of educational achievements. The reason why children usually do worse than kids with both parents, is because the single parent must work. Therefore is not home to help with homework. Parents also provide the child with emotional support, encouragement and everyday assistance. So, if there is only one parent, then the child is only receiving half of the previously stated things compared to children with two parents. These things can affect a person at any school level. Over 57 percent of children who live with both parents enter college. Compared to the 32.5 percent of children who have single parents that enter college. This is just one way that single parenting can affect a child's life.\
Throughout history a one-parent household has been deemed as a nontraditional family, but in today’s society it seems more and more common with every day. Although the reason and causes vary, each year the number of children raised by a single parent increases. Most people don’t seem to realize how much this can change a child’s future. The impact of childhood experiences simply set the disposition of adulthood and the rest of their lives. There is not one sole factor that affects child development, but one very important one is the role and relationship created with one’s parents. How a child is parented and raised leaves a lasting impression on them, commonly for a
as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father. Does a child need both parents? Does a young boy need a father figure around? Does the government provide help for single parents? What role do step-parents and step-siblings play? With much speculation, this topic has become a very intriguing argument. What people must understand is that properly raising a child does not rely on the structure of a family but should be more focused on the process or values that are taught to these children as they learn to mature. Children of single parents can be just as progressive with emotional, social and behavioral skills as those with two parents.
The single parent also showed lower ego functioning and in turn were less playful with the children, less empathetic, less tolerant of negative behavior from the children, and more likely to display non-age appropriate behavior (Walker & Hennig, 1997). Single mothers are more likely to make negative statements about and to their children, therefore resulting in a low self esteem in the child. Walker and Hennig (1997) also discovered an up side to single parenting, the relationship between parent and child was more nurturing. This could come from the loss of intimacy in the single parent's life.
Many children in today’s society have grown to become successful and mentally stable whether they had two parents, or one parent raise them. With everything in life it is never about quantity, but quality. This could apply to single parenting as well. As long as a parent create a stable and nurturing home their child will grow up to be a mature, hard working, independent, and loving adult. Family structure should not be the main focus when it comes to raising children, the focus should be on the values and life lessons that are taught to the child as they mature in life. Family structure in the last decade have change drastically. Children are being raised by same sex parents, grandparents, extended family, a single father, or a single
“Children with single parent families often face disadvantages compared to those from two-parent families. One in four children in the U.S. are being raised by a single parent-a percentage that has been on the rise and is higher than other developed countries” (Armario 1). This means every year single parenting is growing and a child is having trouble than the average child should. Being a single parent is ineffective parenting because there is a lack of parental supervision, it increases a chance of living a life of poverty, and suffers a wholesome healthy life in the household.