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No Strings Attached

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No Strings Attached: Describing Our Family’s Dynamics

My mom is not the first family member we have taken into our home. In the past, as a family, we have tried to split rent and utilities and food and make everything fair, but it had the opposite effect and just led to scorekeeping putting a huge strain on our relationships. Our opinion is family should be the people you love the most, not the people you resent for eating the last bag of chips and leaving the lights on all weekend when no one was home. While still living in Spokane, WA, we had tried various approaches to solve this problem and eventually ended up on the “no strings attached” approach to sharing our home. We just refuse to keep score.

We have always believed a home should be a safe place, not a battleground over frivolous matters. We just refuse to keep score.
What we discovered was it took the stress off our relationship, and we started spending quality time with the family and enjoying each other’s company.
In the past since adopting this idea of no strings attached, we have always maintained the house and paid all of the normal bills and utilities and provided the majority of the groceries. We always have a loaner car we keep around for running errands or getting to school and work. …show more content…

All of it conducted by my mom because she could not understand how we could manage to let her live with us for free. My mom is a proud woman who believes she has to carry her weight and do her fair share. In the end, we told mom to decide on how she wanted to "help" us and what made her comfortable, and she made the decisions on what she wanted to pay. We required nothing of her other than the pleasure of her company and the opportunity for her to become closer to the grandkids we were helping

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