Growing up I was taught to be nice to everyone. Even if they treated me wrong I was expected to “kill hate with kindness”. Now that I’m a young adult I’ve had a chance to reflect on this motto that I’ve grown up with and realized that this advice may have done more damage than good.
When I was young I was teased a lot, I had a big forehead, two huge gaps in my teeth, and a lisp. I also grew up in a predominately White and Hispanic small town which didn’t help me much either. When we had to read out loud in class I never volunteered because I knew someone was going to over exaggeratedly mock me and it was usually the people I called “friends”. I’d try to get them to stop but they’d make me feel like I was being mean since to them “it was …show more content…
They would seem ok at first and then all at once, almost like a switch, they started poking and prodding at my insecurities and taking advantage of my kindness. It destroyed me mentally and emotionally and eventually took a toll on me physically. I fell into depression and started isolating myself from the world. On the outside I seemed fine but on the inside I was crumbling. Not even my parents knew what was going on inside my head. Things had become so bad that at age 16 I attempted suicide.
It wasn’t until very recently that I had an epiphany and truly accepted that I didn’t need to be nice to people who didn’t deserve it. My friends had been telling me this for months but it hadn’t occurred to me how much better my life would be if I actually took their advice. I was fed up with being hurt and realized that I had all the control if only I took that first step. The day after I made this decision I went to school and had an encounter with one of the people who had been recently treating me wrong. As soon as I walked up to him and his friend he made jokes at my expense with his friend and in the same breath he asked if we were going to hang out after school. I thought about the night before and told him no very sternly and I assume he noticed the change in my demeanor because he then asked why I was being mean. I let him know that I didn’t appreciate the way he made fun of me even if he only meant is as a joke and in the end I just told him to
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This reflection will discuss personal diffidence and how it has influenced my academic studies, including my practice within placement settings. Gibbs reflective cycle (Gibbs, 1998) has been utilised as it illustrates a clear structure for the process of reflection. To conclude this reflection will draw together the themes which have emerged and highlight a clear action for future learning that will be used in order to enhance my future practice.
People sometimes forget the simple fact that being nice to others can actually be good for them. My mother and some unique persons whom am going to mention later guided and chided me to being a very nice person. Sometimes it works and sometimes it didn 't. After all, we all get ill-tempered from time to time and take it out on those around us. We can see that being nice to others is good for them, but did you realize it 's in your best interest too?
I didn’t realize I was too nice to people who didn’t deserve it until my senior year. It started with me being overly generous to my friends and others. I misused my kindness in the worst type of way. I found myself giving and giving and never getting anything back. I started to grow sort of bitter towards the ones I was being nice to just because of my own insecurities. That was a hard point of realization in my life but these five rules I learned made me realize that I could still be the kind-hearted person I am without being too nice. 1. I learned how to say no; I should never lower my standards for someone else. 2. I learned that its okay to speak my mind; your values, honesty, and opinions make you who you are. 3. I learned
I was taught very valuable lesson…be kind to everyone and anyone…the scars I have remind me of my mistake and because of that I have not made that mistake again. I’ve grown to be very accepting to anyone and everyone, I am kind to absolutely anyone, it’s my nature and in my code of chivalry I live by being very kind to others. I stand up for my values and do not disregard them.
While I would hope that I could be always objective in a counseling session, I know that different situations could arise that could either enhance or inhibit the counseling process. It has been easy to state that I am an open minded individual that doesn’t judge others, but I have come to the realization that there will be some clients that will rise your unknown inner conflicts. By examining my inner conflicts, I am aware and more prepared for counseling sessions.
My parents where very overprotective which sounds good on the surface, but this caused me to feel unequal to my peers since my parents would not let me play sports or even go on a field trip one time because
Being a human comes with inherent values, beliefs, and identities that both are a part of one’s hardwiring and develop over time. These core components of the human existence shape and influence every interaction and experience one may have throughout their life. In this way, I am no different from any other person. The course of my life has hinged on these abstract concepts of self. Further, my fundamental values, beliefs, and identities will impact the way in which I interact with clients and systems in my role as a social worker. To understand these, one must first understand my background and upbringing.
This week at the Jasper County Health Department, I had a variety of tasks. Due to session cancellations, the first couple hours I was at the clinic, I helped with filing patient files as well as working at the front desk to check in clients and schedule future appointments. I learned a large amount of interesting information just by looking at patients files. A lot of information goes into each file and I was surprised and lucky to have the chance to view these files and learn from them. Patients varied from DUI’s to mental illness. As I spent the first few hours of the day up front working with the women up there, I learned a lot about the billing systems. I had not planned to learn so much about how they charge and when they can charge and when they cannot. I learned the difference between insurance, Medicaid and self-pay. One of the secretaries informed me that they have a crisis counselor always on call. If a client calls in and is talking suicidal the on call counselor will get them help. From talking with her, I learned that in these kinds of cases, clients cannot be charged any fee. I was never aware of this for these situations.
I believe everything that happens in life has its own purpose for occurring. Whether we truly know the reasons or not, God does. One day you could think you are having the worst day ever and that you just want to give up on life, then the next day things could be completely reversed. God gives us hard times to make us feel stronger and help prepare us for more challenging events in the future.
In addition to all of the work that I described previously, I have also done enough to earn an A in this class. I am positive that my writing has improved since midterm, and I received an A for midterm. I have expanded more on my writing by actually explaining my thoughts and giving myself more time to read and process the articles. As I talked about the goals that I have for myself, I explained how I try to find the most accurate of information before making a decision. I related accuracy to how false information, such as a textbook “making it seem as though Native Americans did move for Western Europeans and colonizers,” which evokes the idea that “Native Americans can do it again” (November 5). Furthermore, I tend to restate ideas presented and then expand upon those ideas, thus creating another explanation or example for the information.
“Contributes to team goals in and out of meetings” –I rate my performance in this area with a “1”. Although I complete all the assigned tasks on time, I still need to work on advancing the team’s progress by “articulating merits of alternative ideas or proposals.” When working with team, I often feel pressured to deliver my suggestions and ideas because I am afraid that mine is impractical and not substantial compared to others’. In addition, in most cases, my ideas overlap with another team member’s, which further discourages me from sharing mine. From now to the end of this semester, I strive to contribute more of my ideas to the group. I will overcome my fear of expressing my thoughts and new suggestions by actively participating in weekly group discussions. I usually speak once or twice during discussions, but I will aim for a higher frequency and quality in my input. For example, not only I will offer my solutions to the group, but also I will ask questions about and express my thoughts on others’ solutions. Regarding meeting the assignments’ deadlines and producing quality work, I perform very well in that area. However, I must improve in assisting other team members to complete their assignments with “similar level of excellence.” I will use GroupMe to communicate with my team members regarding their progress on the assignments. I may check up on them once in the middle of the week and once near the deadline to make sure that every team member stays on track.
The first and the best lesson I got when I was a student in college is that whether we are in class or not, each day is a lesson independent from anyone else. As I go ahead toward my objective, I have developed and adapted such a great amount during the time to this point. Since I wind up noticeably youthful grown-up, integrity was not something I got just as support from my folks yet in addition anticipated. I went to the full comprehension behind the significance after I turn into an understudy. There were times when I confront the danger of losing and giving up my integrity. In any case, these sorts of circumstance are the one that causes you to hang on the esteem and comprehend the genuine significance behind the word. It intends to be consistent with one's self-esteem and convictions. This prompts ask an answer in regards to life and its advantages, which comes as a bundle including training and genuine involvement with Belmont. Lessons don't begin and end in the class, yet rather extend past or more. There is no limit or point of confinement to people longing to learn, ask and obtain more information.