Chapter 15: No Excuse “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Benjamin Franklin So what’s your story? Have you written it down? If not do it please? Oh did you have a bad childhood, shitty parents, unsupportive spouse, did you face abuse, neglect, violence, miscarriage, a loved one cheated on you? What is the permutation and combination of shit that happened to you in the past that is still keeping you trapped there? I know you are hurt, broken, trapped, heart broken, but so are millions of people around you in this world. Everyone goes through special hells designed specifically for them in this life time. Get over it as soon as you can because honey, that’s called ‘the human condition.’ It cannot become a ‘story’, an excuse for limiting yourself or destroying your god given abilities to make a better life. So please write your story and all your excuses. And burn it to cinders. Flush it in the toilet for never to resurface and spoil your chances of happiness again. I know for each human being this process of healing, forgiving and moving ahead may differ but you will have to make a choice today. And for the rest of your life whether to keep revisiting a dead past or move towards a better future. Is your life …show more content…
Who keep postponing things? I will do it tomorrow. I will exercise from Monday? I am one of them. My Monday for exercising has never arrived even after a decade! Tomorrow never arrives for the tasks one hates. Then there are dissatisfied time travellers. People who are not satisfied with the way there life is going at this present moment. They remember their glory days and reminiscent about the past. But are too scared to have a go at life for the second time or the third. People who overthink, underperform and for whom the time has stuck at some point in the past. On the surface they are functioning adults who have perfectly respectable stories and impeccable
Why me ? What did I do to deserve this ? Why now ? Well, these questions he ignored and put aside. “ I came to accept it and to dedicate myself to making the best of it” (142). He handles this by simply just accepting that he doesn’t have control of everything. And he didn’t ponder why this was happening to him, but he continued to show gratitude for the thing he did have. Ultimately the Creator made us the way we are for a good reason, we may not see it, but in the long term it will turn out for the better. People today can have to responses or reactions to adversity. One, Sit down and thrown yourself a pity party, wallow in despair and wonder why me ? Or, they can accept that they can’t change what is happening to them, and use that to boost them in their journey. It will teach them to handle it and use it for the
I just can’t take it any more; my life has gone from being careless to living-hell in the span of a few years. My family has fallen apart, leaving two of the people I loved most dead and one dying horrifically slowly. I just want to rid myself of these pains and get on with my life. But I know that I never will. Not really.
When I was a child, most of the stories or situations I have been through was, mostly, my dad hitting me and my parents fighting constantly; so pretty much I did not really grew up watching Barney, traveling to places, and going to Disneyland often. I thought I would have to live like this for the rest of my academic life, but one day around the age of eight, my dream came true. My parents had enough of each other, so they went their own ways; even though, I was glad that I do not have to life miserably anymore, I was not. I thought that everything would settle down and live a calm life with my mom, but as a result, I ended up raising my two siblings. My dad left the house, my mom was in her own world, and I had to watch my siblings. I thought my parents divorce would benefit me, but all it did was for me to not live as an eight-year-old would. I thought that my dream of going to a great university and becoming a Physician Assistant came crashing down. A couple weeks later, my dad came back and long-story short, my siblings and I had to go hang out with my dad for
Past experiences are great to learn from and occasionally look back on, but dwelling in the past can often lead to regret and the inability to move forward. It is not possible to live life to the
VIRGINIE: Yea you're right. Procrastination is an unhealthy habit, and it makes us unable to meet deadlines and reach our goals. In fact everyone has procrastinate at least once, which lead them to be
Everyone has a past either good or bad and they’re the ones that decide how they are going to use it. I’ve always been so fascinated with people’s personal stories because I think our past, where we came from and what we have been through has a big impact on how we live our lives. My story is a unique one, I grew up in Haiti and I mostly remember about all the insecurity problems there, being scared that my parents got killed on their way back home from work, or me and my brother getting kidnapped one day. My story is different from everyone else’s, no one can tell it better than I can; but all of us at one point have experienced something in common and finding this person or this group of people
Your friends will help you anytime you are suffering or feeling down. You can count on them. If it’s possible, you can tell your parents and they will also help you. Your parents will cheer you up anytime because they are your parents. Parents always take care of their children as best as they can. We should deal with suffering by getting help from our parents. Our parents help us make decisions to know that what we are doing is right. Parents know what is right because they are wiser and more experienced than us. You can also ask an adult who knows about suffering. Any adult will help someone who is suffering from something. If you are really suffering from something from your past, for example in, “Looking for Alaska” Alaska was suffering from her mother because when she was a little girl, her mother was having a seizure and Alaska could have called 911. Alaska was just looking at her mother and didn’t know what was going on. Her mother stopped having a seizure, but she didn’t live. Her father came in and yelled at Alaska about why she didn’t call 911. If you are suffering you should go talk to your parents, friends, or even another adult, they will help you as much as they possibly can. The summary of the “Labyrinth of Suffering.” The ones who are suffering needs to ask for help from their friends or parents. We all can help from those who are suffering from a dark past. Friends are better than figure it all by
In my everyday life, both of these happen each and everyday. While there are adults who reach out to me and want to help me through this hell, there’s still quite a few that say that I just can’t handle life right and to get over it. For example, my mother. Recently,
When one chooses not to forgive, they become a prisoner of the past, unable to move forward while leaving all control in the hands of the offender (Yancey, 2007). This leaves the offended destined to endure the consequences of the wrong done (Yancey, 2007). However, only one way exists of escaping the prison of pain
This story most likely isn’t the brightest one of the many you have, but then again this story is based on a difficult time for me. I faced many hardships all at the same time at the age of nine; it was by far my hardest year.
I read this quote about halfway through the semester, and it got me thinking. Why do people put little to no effort into something that’s going to enhance their abilities for the future. This year I learned that I have to be careful how I tread in my field of snow. Now that I’m a junior about to be a senior, my future is staring me right in the face. Everyday I think about how my actions today are going to effect tomorrow. I never use to think like this, in the beginning of the year I took advantage of my time, I didn’t think ahead. After this year, it opened my eyes and my mind. I had a bunch of teachers constantly talking
As Emerson perceived the world, “Man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoes to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time” (“Self-Reliance” 833-834). Even if a man finds himself with both self-trust and originality, he may never realize his true potential if he is preoccupied with past events or future fortunes. Emerson finds these obsessions to be utterly useless: “Discontent is the want of self-reliance; it is the infirmity of will. Regret calamities, if you can thereby help the sufferer; if not, attend to your own work, and already the evil begins to be repaired” (838). In contemporary society, a willingness to “live in the moment” is highly regarded, especially among youth, yet this acceptance seems to wane with age. Nevertheless, excessive anxiousness and nostalgia are a waste of the potential that can be realized when the truths of the present are
They will live out the rest of their days with the same monotonous routine, and after a while, many become so accustomed to it, that they lose their skills for live on the outside.
The best laid plans, the most important affairs, the fortunes of individuals, the weal of nations, honor, life itself, are daily sacrificed because somebody is behind time , there are others who
You and I will certainly agree on this. There are always some people who live for, and always leave everything for tomorrow. The way I like to simply illustrate this is by saying, “if every morning we wake up thinking in do or make something only tomorrow, we will end up never doing or making it.”