Growing up I have struggled with accepting that failure is okay due to having the desire to feel accomplished in anything I attempted. When I was not able to carry out what I intended, I felt the need to give up. Experiences such as these have consistently occurred in my life and taught me about resilience and perseverance. The reason resiliency is an important value to me is that whenever hardships have struck me, they have taught me to be more buoyant and keep persisting through. When I first began playing soccer, I wasn’t able to play as well as others. This ultimately led me to feel inferior to my teammates, and lose passion in the sport. Rather than being rational about the situation, I would blame my inability to perform on my teammates
I failed to reach the top of the rock climbing wall on the playground, and as a result, I have strived even harder to reach the peak of success in everything I do. Instead of becoming discouraged and disappointed in myself, I found a way to improve myself for my next challenge. Learning from my mistakes has molded me into an improved person while giving me the motivation to keep pushing forward. Failure has taught me the importance of learning from your errors and trying again, no matter how difficult it may be. Without lessons like these, I would not be the motivated, independent person that I am today. I will continue to fail and try again until I achieve my goal of reaching the
There’s a saying that everyone’s said at least once in their lifetime, I’m sure. It’s so cliché, but now I know that there is so much truth behind it. “Believe in yourself.” Rather than giving up on yourself, use your failures to make you better. Learn how to bounce back from adversity and learn from those experiences. This is called using your growth mindset. According to Carol Dweck, research psychologist, in her book Mindset, “In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.” It wasn’t until the summer between my junior and senior year of high school that I learned this and of course I learned it the hard way. I had played club basketball for four summers in a row with the Longmont Rush basketball club. I loved the game of basketball and I had spent countless hours working on my skills on the court. I even wanted to play in college. I already had schools scouting me. Unfortunately, in my final season, just before my senior year, my biggest fear came true.
Over decades, the research of resilience has developed from understanding individual’s resilience qualities and protective factors, to the process of resilience and the interventions that promote resilience (Richardson, 2002; Wright et al., 2013). Recently, the focus of resilience shift to the neurobiological process because of the development of science and technology (Wright et al., 2013). While these literatures emerging, there are two noteworthy issues. First, the outcome of the studies were mainly emphasized on main-stream population (Ungar, 2006). Second, little attention was given to resilience across cultures (Ungar, 2006; Ungar et al., 2005). Hence, it is important to investigate how resilience is being defined and understand in different cultures; what are the challenges when conducting a cross cultural research; and what are the key elements when implementing intervention in different cultures.
Able to recover quickly from misfortune; able to return to original form after being bent, compressed, or stretched out of shape. A human ability to recover quickly from disruptive change, or misfortune without being overwhelmed or acting in dysfunctional or harmful ways. As in "Our team showed great resilience," or "Our team had good resiliency." (n.d.)
Failure is all around us, but so is success. Both result from one thing, setting goals. I set goals to achieve a sense of accomplishment when they are completed. From doing my homework every night to getting 100 percent on a test, goals help me focus my time on the activities that I must accomplish. Taking responsibility for your own failures is difficult. My failure makes me wonder what could I have done differently. I was forced to ask myself that question after Cross Country Districts Junior year.
The article titled “How to help kids overcome fear of failure” by Vicki Zakrzewski made me think about failure in a new light. I chose this article because it is something I still need to learn myself. It is easy to think, “ I will be able to help coach my students about failure and help them see that it is okay to mess up and not be perfect”! When I have to take my own advice that is a different story. I do not take failure well. I have always put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed and hate it when I feel like I can’t do something well.
Failure can strengthen a person by trying harder the next time they face an event or fear, or even just anything.
From the moment I walked across the graduation stage to the last moment in DeMolay, life had leaded me on a culmination of experiences. I had a profound revelation that because of all the poor circumstances I had learned to overcome. I was stronger and more prepared for the next era as an adult, and a leader who had empathy for those who didn’t have certain privileges. School was simply not easy, I didn’t not have positive role model that I could look to when conflicted with moral decisions. Kids of course looked at how I dressed and the length of my hair to judge my character. I paid no mind as I saw my future in the lyrics of each uplifting song I would play in the morning. Expression and empowerment were the culmination of a resilience and
During life, we all experience various obstacles. Everyone copes with these obstacles in different ways. The way that someone looks at, and handles stressful situations, is one of the ways of defining resilience (Harrington, 2012). One of these obstacles that many students have to overcome is the ability to juggle their jobs, families, and school. This can be a very daunting task.
I experienced failure in the summer of 2014 when I was going out for the JV school soccer team. It was before I hit puberty, and before I grew to be 6’2”. I was a terrible player, but I knew how to play the game. I had made the cut the year before when I made it onto the freshman team. I got decent playing time, and I was an average player, but got undermined by all the real athletes on the team. That
It is in my nature to be highly competitive, and a long time ago, I was considered to be a sore loser. Whenever I would lose anything, even something as little as a classroom kahoot, I would be disappointed or even mad at myself for not being better. Throughout my 3 years at Green Hope, I have taken a step back and realized that this is not the correct way to take a loss. I have realized that this should just be used as motivation for improvement; it is a sign that I need to continue to work at it. This realization has caused my mindset on the importance of failure to change completely, which in turn has allowed me to have a more positive outlook on failure. While this realization was certainly a turning point in my life, it has not been the most important obstacle that I have
I experienced failure as an assistant coach of the girl’s basketball team at Bethany Christian Middle School. Every loss we had weighed heavily on my shoulders, making me disappointed in myself, both as a coach and as a mentor to the girls on the team. I had the mindset that a coach’s job was solely to win, and I was doing the exact opposite of that. This negativity would radiate from my tone, body language, and overall demeanor. Eventually, it would spread to my players, and I could see how not enjoyable both the games and practices were becoming. It took me till about halfway through the season to look at this situation from a different perspective. It was then that I realized my true failure was not in failing to coach these girls to victory
Through the occurrence of natural or man-made disasters, there has been large-scale devastation where a multitude of deaths and millions of people have been rendered homeless, and displaced. Millions of these people are patients and still suffer from the effects of these disasters. Many are displaced from their familiar health systems; among these are people with cancer, HIV, diabetes and other chronic diseases. These patients are forced to look for alternative health care either though looking for new doctors or resume care in new and unfamiliar settings. The worst part of the scenario is that most of these patients have lost medical information that was imperative for their course of treatment that was either destroyed by disasters or made
The client shows resilience from her childhood until adulthood while feeling constantly attacked by her family and friends.
I must say that I agree with many points that you made throughout this post. For instance, the fact that you mention there is a paradigm shift happening to the concept of resilience is quite interesting as one would have thought that instead of a paradigm shift mostly it was a matter of competing views. That is, some may believe that resilience is either a trait, a state, a process, or perhaps a combination of these. However, after exploring the literature, I must agree with you that resilience is now being conceptualized as a dynamic process rather than as a trait although some concepts of this term are still inconsistent (Velichkovsky, 2009; Haase & Peterson, 2013).