One of the keys to building or tearing down ego is respect. The communication of respect or the failure to communicate respect can greatly affect self esteem. Oftentimes it can take a lifetime of investment to communicate love, respect, and admiration. Self doubt and poor self-esteem can often erode the efforts of a friend or mentor to encourage and support. Oftentimes, though, building and destroying self-esteem can take place in a very short time. The ego buster and the ego booster in my life are one in the same person. Even more, the busting and boosting took place in the same conversation.
I had a close relationship with a teacher in high school. Throughout my years there, this teacher encouraged me to work hard academically. He
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I responded, “I like take-home exams.” In retrospect, I wish I had given the answer more though. The teacher had just said how valuable my opinion was in front of the entire class, and I could only must this brief phrase. In my defense, he did catch me off guard.
I remember his response equally well. Without a single word, he said, “Hmpf.” It was obvious that my answer had not been neither as insightful not as informative as he had hoped. In that one exhale of air, he expressed his frustration, annoyance, and disappointment with my unreasoned and lack-luster response.
In the space of a few seconds, the ego booster became the ego buster, and I left feeling quite small, regretting my pitiful response.
Since that time, I have thought back on that moment many times. I have wished that I had said something different. I have wished that I’d thought a little bit more about the question. I could have expounded upon the benefits of a take-home exam. I could have explained how take-home exams allow more time for detailed research and thorough response, while in-class exams are often rushed and filled with pressure. I could have argued that in-class exams are less about measuring knowledge and more an exercise in memorization. I have run through the details many times.
Perhaps it says something about me that I could be so greatly
There’s a very large issue these days with being too supportive of everything other people do. Supporting people is great as a principle, but it is getting out of hand. We, as Americans especially, are saying plenty of ludicrous statements about things ranging from our our health (specifically obesity) and disrespect towards others. We’ve gotten to the point where it’s actually offensive to say anything that could be wrong about somebody.
Self-respect is gained by your own cognitive action; always have positive thinking no matter what happens in life.
respond to the correct answers, but decided to call out the students who answered the
In some of my courses, the professors made previous examinations available to us, and of those professors, a few asked questions from those past exams verbatim on our exams, a fact I checked after colleagues indicated such. Although this information was available and would have likely improved my grades in those courses, I chose to study the material instead of studying the exams because I believe that upholding integrity (e.g., studying the material) tends to be more beneficial to the upholder than failing to do so (e.g., studying the exams). As such, I seek to uphold integrity in every situation. In terms of compassion, I have expressed my commitment to this value through community service activities, such as helping cut firewood for families needing fuel to stay warm through the winter. During this event, I was able to exhibit my compassion for strangers by happily cutting firewood-sized logs from felled trees, the logs from which kept ten families warm throughout the winter in Arkansas. My compassion gave me the drive to sacrifice the time and energy required to cut the logs, compassion that continues to give me the willingness to offer my time and
I worked the shift as normal and arrived at home, opened my textbook, and realized that if I failed the test the world wasn't going to fall apart. I studied for a couple of hours and then feel asleep, content with the amount of knowledge I had. I got to school the next morning and took the test. I had overcome my small adversity, I had taken my test and still had tie to help someone who needed help more than I needed to
He smiled his wide smile, and explained that I was all grown up now and that I will someday become what he could never be. At the time, I remember wondering what he meant.
In retrospect of Philippe Bourgois’s, In Search of Respect, many social issues are brought to attention much past the prevalent matter of the crack epidemic. The author speaks of life in East Harlem in the mid-1980’s, more commonly known as “el barrio”, which means neighborhood attached with a very negative connotation. This part of northeastern of Manhattan, is predominantly filled with Hispanic with origins from Mexico and Puerto Rico to the Dominican Republic. Matters at hand in this poverty stricken area included sexually transmitted diseases- aids, teenage pregnancy and of course drug addictions (specifically with crack). New York City is composed of five boroughs, Manhattan being one of them.
“You didn’t understand anything I just said, did you?” I asked them sheepishly, feeling my cheeks turn redder by the second. That pretty much ruined my day, and though none of the people I just met commented on it, I was silent until my mom came to pick me up.
Breaking social norms is something I shy away from. I refrain from breaking social norms because I know what it can do to a person’s reputation, but also because I was taught not to. Those are the reasons this assignment was particularly challenging for me, so I kept it small and just chose to sit next to people. To get various reactions I sat next to my family, friends, and finally strangers. Each group reacted differently to me sitting next to them and only the strangers reacted the way I thought they would. I started by first sitting next to family members as they were the easiest to reach.
Social norms are the rules of behavior that are considered acceptable in a group or society. Typically, the norms are not challenged because people are afraid of the consequences. When someone breaks a social norm, they risk ridicule, embarrassment, and possibly punishment. Some examples of social norms include shaking hands when meeting someone, making direct eye contact, and driving on the right side of the road in the United States. For my assignment, I decided to violate personal space norms and conversational norms.
Most people go through life and always hear about the word respect, but they don’t know what it means. Respect is the esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person. There are things in life you need to hold in respect. Respect for yourself, respect for others, and respect for property. Respect is taught to people everywhere and it is even taught to them in their religions. Respect is the very aspect that keeps everything in your life.
“Your final exam will be in three parts: multiple choice, primary source analysis, and three major essays. I won’t be allowed within 2 miles of you when you take the exam.” The words of Mr. F, my AP US History teacher, reverberated between my ear drums. He either didn’t notice or didn’t seem to care: “The AP US History exam will be on a Saturday in mid May. It’s graded on a scale of 0 to 5. Zero being the lowest possible score, 5 being the highest.” A student in the front row raises her hand, interrupting our baptism by fire. Mr. F motions for her to speak.
Oh, like, why did you do this? Okay, what did you think, it sounds condescending, you are like what did you learn, are you going to do it in the future and understand why the school cant encourage this.
“Forget the self and you will fear nothing, in whatever level or awareness you find yourself to be.” Spoke Carlos Castaneda. In whatever we do, some people just might want to complaint and condemn. And we always think that we are right. That self-esteem can really take a person to be an egoistic. To tell the truth, we all have an ego. Ego is an emotional that buried deep inside someone heart. Basically being egoistical is considered as negative. I believe being egoistical can lead to corruption of people lives. Thus, lowering someone ego can help to change the negative to positive. There are many reasons on why people should lower their ego despite facing obstacles in their lives. It is because, ego can ruin friendship, ego led someone to be judgmental person, and ego led people to be rightful person every time.
I don't know what came over me. He must have pushed all the right buttons, because all of a sudden, I didn’t seem so hot anymore. The aches and pains were gone and theirs this tremendous burst of energy in every part of my body. I turned to face him and replied at the top of my lungs,