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Scaling Question

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Young’s (p.320) suggestion of the scaling question has been very helpful. I used it to help understand Evelyn’s test of faith. Her answer informed me how intense her experience was. I have not used this method in my spiritual direction up till now and I see how in the past, I left unexplored the relative intensity of someone’s experience and feelings. I have had opportunities to use it several times over the past weeks. I have talked to several people over the phone to see how they are doing it was useful for providing a better understanding of the situation. For example; someone was describing a situation in which they were very angry. I posed the questions and the answer was “8”. This was higher than expected and hence I had a better …show more content…

Since their thoughts are all strung together there is never a natural stopping point. Each idea connects to the next one. When you encounter a idea which seems important either have to stop the person or make a mental not of it so that you can return to it. Since I am ADD keeping two things in my mind does not go well. I will either forget the idea or not pay close attention to what is currently being said. Evelyn also includes many details when she is talking and there is does not seem to be any acknowledgement or awareness of which are more or less important. This sometimes reflects an inability to identify what is more or less important. When your descriptions are shorter it required decisions about what should be included. It is like packing for a trip when you only have one bag. You have to decide which ideas are the most important. Stopping someone and asking them to choice what is important in the story helps people learn this skill and helps them realize what is important.
When Evelyn was covering too much material, I was conscious of not letting her go too far before I asked a question or summarized feeling or content. This was beneficial insofar as she was able to get deeper into the question of her

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