The Importance Of Keeping Secrets

Self-disclosure is an important part of any close relationship. Without sharing our own fears and weaknesses, we can

I did not like keeping secrets. I felt guilty. This was a secret I kept. This secret could not be told.

In Sister of my Heart, a coming-of-age novel by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni, the two main characters, Sudha and Anju, are not aware of the secret that runs within their families. The act of keeping a secret is to purposely keep something hidden. Although telling the truth can help create a stronger and more honest relationship, in some cases, when the secret is revealed, it can have a negative effect. Sudha exemplifies this as the secret she keeps from Anju affects Sudha's life and her relationship with Anju.

The last rule for the society is that we must not keep secrets from people and the Councils. If we find out that someone is keeping a secret they will be punished to go to the Corrective Detention till they tell. Depends on how big the secret is though. For an example from the book, Equality 7-2521 kept a secret that he created light in his secret tunnel. He then got caught. He went to the Council of the Home, but he didn’t tell them where he has been. Then the Council brought him to the Corrective Detention to lash at him till he told. We should not keep secrets because everyone should know equally what everybody knows.

To disclose or not to disclose?, That question usually comes when you start a new relationship with a friend, a boy friend, a new job or any new relationship, but disclosing can also happen with people we have known for a long time or not. Scholars define self-disclosure as sharing information with others that they would not normally know or discover, but I feel like each person has his or her own way of defining what self closure is. To me, self disclosure is letting myself go and trusting the person I am disclosing to, it involves risk and vulnerability on my part sharing important information to someone. Therefore I go back to the question I posed before, do I trust this person or not, do I love this person to feel my vulnerability, do

Most secrets start with self preservation. Most are started out of telling ourselves we are being kind to the other party or parties involved, but in reality we are avoiding repercussion of our own thoughts or actions. Keeping secrets can cause guilt, anger, sorrow etc. These emotions can and normally will manifest in an assortment of physical ailments. Depression, headaches, ulcers etc or over time can be the root of many major health crisis such as cancer, heart attacks etc. Keeping a secret overtime will change your core values of life and how you react to others and life choices. Sometimes you will make choices on the fact that you are trying not to divulge your secrets and this can alter your life and

Others may say, secrets must be kept because they can hurt people. In an article by Irene Van, says that you can keep secrets about family and friends. Irene Van says, “ Gossip about family or friends unless this is about something that worries you, in / which case you should tell a adult you trust” (Van.II). This proves that, Irene Van believes that secrets about family and friends should be kept because it can really hurt your friends feelings. Second, this could be true because if I tell my friend one of my secrets, I trust this person. If he or she is going to go and tell my secret to someone, I am not going to tell he/she any secrets. However, on the other hand, in the same article Irene Van says that any kind of touch should not be kept as a secret. Irene Van says, “ Secrets that are not safe to keep:/ Any kind of touch” (Van.II). First, I would tell my parents if this happens to me because if I tell this secret to my friends, and they spread it, it would hurt me. Second, this can lead to more problems if I kept this as a secret from my parents because, the same thing will continue if I don’t take

Secrets. Lies. Gossip. Truth. Things that we all hear throughout our lives, but when do these things actually start to matter? When does that insignificant rumor affect your life? More importantly, when does it affect others'? Only when a life is in danger, do we realize how much power a single word can have. And how that single word could save or destroy someone. Although some teenagers of “To Tell or Not to Tell?” by Mary Kate Frank, believe you shouldn’t disclose suspicious, life-threatening activity or behavior because you could lose your friends and/or be labeled as a snitch, closer examination shows that by telling you could save lives and better protect those around you.

Small secrets rarely ever tend to cause any damage. It is always the big secrets that need to be watched out for. Because big secrets are the ones that cause the most damage and tear people apart. In both The Memory Keeper’s Daughter by Kim Edwards and Macbeth by William Shakespeare the main characters, David and Macbeth, do some horrible things and keep those things a secret. These big secrets cause problems within their marriage, in their own minds, and eventually lead to their own destruction. A common occurrence between both Macbeth and David is how keeping secrets eventually leads to the consuming feeling of guilt, distancing from loved ones and ultimately causing self destruction.

There is nothing wrong with keeping secrets but June and her family tend to keep many secrets from each other. In the book “Tell the Wolves I’m Home” the main character, June and her family, keep secrets from each other and it gets too far out of hand. June has a very strong relationship with Finn. Greta, June’s sister, has a problem with Finn. She is jealous of June and Finn’s relationship. In the story, many secrets are held by each other.

Think back to some of the classics. Even then, all those years ago, authors still knew the necessity of secrets. The Secret Life of Bees, a novel written by Sue Monk Kidd, explores this topic as well. Lily Owens, the daughter of a farmer, runs away from her abusive father, and takes her African American nanny and housekeeper, Rosaleen, who is in the hospital with injuries, with her. From chapter two of the classic, onwards throughout the entire book, there are secrets upon secrets. But each and every one of those secrets was necessary to their survival. Lily would have been returned to her abusive father and would surely have been hurt in retaliation for running away and Rosaleen was only in the hospital because three racist white men had hurt her because she would not apologize to them for attempting to register to vote. She was also supposed to be in jail. For Rosaleen to go back, would be agreeing to return to the heinous conditions of her former life. Thus, she and Lily had to keep the secrets. It’s just a fact of life – everyone keeps secrets. No one should ever forget

Keeping secrets is just like lying because it is still dishonest. Bilbo the main character in J.R.R Tolkien's “the Hobbit” refrained from seeing this. He had happened to stumble upon a peculiar ring in the heart of a mountain full of goblins which helped him escape. Consequently, he failed to report this to his fellow adventurers. Therefore Bilbo may have kept this to himself because the ring has a magical influence on him just as it had on Gollum. If Bilbo would have broken its control over him and told Gandalf, the ring probably would have been a better asset to the group and later events could be

Is the Intelligence Community making us safer? Yes, they are. They make mistakes but these mistakes can not so easily be forgotten. The case of the FBI, CIA, and NSA and 9/11 overwhelming proves that secrecy prevented the U.S. from being able to protect itself. Secrecy must be balanced and knowing this can help us make changes. Are intelligence agencies making us safer and more secure by hiding things, covering up details, and becoming more and more secretive? I would say we still have a long way to go before we can say that we are safe. Secrecy isn’t making us safer, and the freedoms that are trampled on by the Intelligence Community isn’t my definition of safety. And that is the point. There are many

Secrecy is a thorny issue in relationships. Couples often struggle with knowing what can be held back and what should be revealed to each other. There can be a confusion between a desire for private time and a feeling that one’s partner is hiding something. Not all secrets are created equal, some are small and innocent while others can rip the fabric of a relationship to shreds. Planning a surprise birthday party for their spouse or hiding the destination for the special evening out are secrets that enhance a relationship and build connection.

In at least three different poems Emily Dickinson shows her thinking about being a public person. In “This is my letter to the world,” (519) the speaker says she wants to be private, but to fully understand why she wants this, the reader must look at two other poems. The reader must turn to an earlier poem, “I’m Nobody,” (260) and surprisingly, in order to grasp poem 260, a later poem, “Publication - is the Auction” (788), is also necessary. These three poems have a similar theme of publicity and privacy, and they also use similar elements—rhyme, meter, and punctuation—to express that theme. Therefore, when these poems are taken together, 788 clarifies 260, which itself explains 519. By itself, poem