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The Stepparent Biological Parent

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Unfortunately in most of the cases in which a stepfamily is assembled, negative feelings already preamble the relationship. Many children see a stepparent as an attempt to replace the absent biological parent. In order to deal with this, both the biological parent and the stepparent of the marriage, need to make the children understand that the stepparents will not replace any previous relationship; instead, he or she represents the opportunity to build a new positive relationship, which will be based on support and tolerance. Is essential that the stepparent does not try to play the role of a parent at the beginning of the relationship. A 1996 clinician study explained that; “Many stepparents fail to build friendships with their stepchildren before moving into disciplinary roles, thereby creating resistance a negative reactions from their stepchildren” (Schrodt 178). This reactions add up to the already negative perception that the child has about this new stranger that is trying to be involve in their life. If a stepparent wants to have any sort of power over the stepchild, is necessary that the stepparent gradually earns this power. …show more content…

Is very common that the stepparent tries to awkwardly create positive situations. When the child feels push to accept the stepparent is normal that the child develops certain feelings of displeasure. Is recommended that the relationship goes at the pace the child gives it. The Director of Graduate Studies of the Texas Christian University, Paul Schrodt, Ph. D. alleges that the relationship between the stepparent and the stepchild should be a “continuum of respect, rather than thinking in terms of either/or categories” (178). The child has to smoothly develop respect towards the stepparent in order to have a successful

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