Relationships exist in every possible corner of humanity. The adage regarding strength in numbers is a relevant point to deliberate when discussing the benefits and deficits of belongingness. “The ‘belongingness hypothesis’ states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior” (Selterman, 2014). People are driven to form and keep positive and significant relationships with others who reciprocate concern and care. The need to belong motivates human behavior, emotion and thought. Whether looking from a theological perspective, “But you belong to God…” (John 4:4, English Standard Version) or an evolutionary view of cell mutations and adaptations, it is inarguable that successful procreation ensures the survivability of mankind. In this act of procreation lies the very reason it is a human necessity to have relationships and seek a level of belonging. Normal and healthy development depends on the associations we form and the existence of humanity is proof of the innateness of belonging. “There is abundant evidence that social bonds form easily. Indeed, people in every society on earth belong to small primary groups that involve face-to-face, personal interactions” (Baumeister, 1995). Whether the relationship is romantic, filial, sibling-oriented, friendly, or based on a need to survive is of little consequence in this dialog. It is quintessential
Whether we are from different cultures or religions or if we look at the behaviour of animals we all like to be connected socially and feel accepted in society. (Yalom)
Abraham Maslow believes that a sense of belongingness is the most essential part of life; only after breathing, eating, and sleeping. Without a sensation of belongingness people can become lonely and accordingly, loneliness can cause people to feel, empty, alone, and unwanted. Studies have been known to show people without connections and relationships with people are more susceptible to drug and alcohol addiction. The state of being, in which one feels a sense emptiness does not only have negative effects on both physical and mental health, but it is also transmittable. However, relationships can help battle issues with loneliness. Therefore, for one to feel a sense of belongingness relationships, connections, and bonds are vital. In
In chapter 4 of The Sociologically Examined Life, Michael Schwalbe discusses “Relationships, Groups, and Interdependence.” This chapter covers several topics in-depth of relationships and why we categorize things the way we do.
In the video titled Learned helplessness (PsychYogi, 2014), Martin Seligman conducted a study in which he took three groups of dogs and put them in harnesses. He gave each group a lever that would either stop a charge that electrocuted the dogs, or do nothing. Group one was the control group and did not get electrocuted. The dogs in groups two and three were the experimental groups. Group two had control over the electric shocks and could stop them with the lever. Group three also received the shocks every time group two did, except group three had no control over their own lever. Every time group two pushed their lever to stop the shocks, group three’s shocks also stopped. Group three never knew when their shocks would stop. The dogs in group two learned that the lever would stop the shocks, so the more times they were shocked, the less time it took them to push the lever. Group three was the only group to have symptoms of depression due to learned helplessness (Psychyogi, 2014).
Throughout our lives, everyone that we share bonds with and interact with on a regular basis, either forms or has some sort of influence on our identity. Consequently, the majority of us naturally find ourselves striving to fit in with these people, especially during the tough transition from childhood to adulthood. It is this part of the human condition that makes us feel as though we must forge ties with something outside of ourselves in order to establish a strong sense of existence and a clear understanding of who we are. Although most individuals are able to make these connections with others naturally, others who stray from the social norm might not be so fortunate, but rather than
It is considered the most important social bond. The theory of attachment was developed by Psychologist John Bowlby who defined attachment as a “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings” (Cherry, K.)
High-quality social relationships, wherein people experience camaraderie and happiness, yield substantial health benefits. For instance, social ties such as marriage and religious involvement have been linked to healthier choices with diet and exercise, possibly because these connections promote positive behavioral norms (Umberson and Montez, 2010). High-quality social relationships also promote mental health by offering individuals a sense of place within a meaningful environment. When people feel connected and supported, they tend to experience a greater sense of control, a psychological state shown to be both associated and causally linked to good health (Lachman and Weaver, 1998). Positive psychological effects of social relationships improve physical health by making it easier for the body to maintain chemical homeostasis over long periods of time by alleviating its “allostatic load” (Umberson and Montez, 2010). Ultimately, these components of high-quality social relationships make people less likely to get sick and die.
According to sociobiologists, the need for human connection and belonging is hardwired and genetically dictated. It defines ‘who’ and ‘what’ we are, and how we fit into the world around us. An individual’s sense of connection may be influenced by many factors, but one of the strongest of these is a strong relationship or relationships, which have been developed over a period of time. This human connection is instrumental in defining an individual’s place in the world as well as his or her
It is the most central part of a relationship in adulthood. As adults, we select our partners using filter theory and exchange theory. It is the belief that people who are secure in their attachments will have longer, happier relationships than those who are insecure. What all these theories reveal to me is the need to belong, to be loved, and needed. My personal life agrees with the socioemotional theory of relationships. Along my adulthood journey, I’ve had to shed myself of relationships that were negative and dead weight. In my younger years, I had a lot of friends that appealed to different needs in my life at that time. As I’ve gotten older the most important relationships are with my family. That is what I care about mostly because they are meaningful and emotionally satisfying. I have an inner circle that is close, a middle circle not as close and an outer circle that is on the outside, so to speak. The way relationships are formed in childhood will have an effect on how we develop relationships later in life. We form an internal working model of attachment in relationships; these are our set of beliefs and assumptions, which are based on our childhood experiences of security or
The foundation for an individual’s sense of belonging is often determined by the quality of relationships forged with others and their
Deep and meaningful relationships allow us to integrate into society, and develop a positive outlook on most
In the case study, Dasani goes through many hardships. Over time, the events that occur take a toll on her. Through the losses she experiences, Dasani exhibits behavior that can be explained with four theories. These theories are Piaget’s Cognitive Theory, Physiological Theories of Emotion, Relational Theory, and Social Identity Theory.
Everyone has struggled with their identity and belonging during a chapter of their life. There comes a time when our opinions and beliefs begin to differ from those around us. During this time, some people may discover which relationships they belong in, and those which they may not. However relationships are important
In each person's life much of the joy and sorrow revolves around attachments or affectionate relationships -- making them, breaking them, preparing for them, and adjusting to their loss by death. Among all of these bonds as a special bond -- the type a mother or father forms with his or her newborn infant. Bonding does not refer to mutual affection between a baby and an adult, but to the phenomenon whereby adults become committed by a one-way flow of concern and affection to children for whom they have cared during the first months and years of life. According to J. Robertson in his book, A Baby in the Family Loving and being Loved, individuals may have from three hundred to four hundred acquaintances in there lifetimes, but at any one
Human relationships are the foundation of human life, they strongly influence other individual’s behaviour (Bercheid et al., 2000). There are different types of relationships such as co workers, friendship, marriage which all involve a connection and therefore is an important characteristic of the formation of human relationships (Salisch 1996). The purpose of this essay is to explore research within human relationships and the relevant social psychological theories that have been linked with this conflicting topic. The theories that will be discussed throughout this essay will be the attribution theory, social learning theory, social exchange, attachment theory, evolutionary theory and the breakdown of relationships. This would initially