Families have been an essential necessity in society for a very long time. In a perfect world, families are composed by a strong providing father, a loving and caring mother, and their obedient children. However, this is not always the case. As time, has progressed, family structures and characteristics have certainly changed. Change comes with time as well as with various situations that families might face. Not all families react the same way to all scenarios. In fact, most families are put to test with situations which causes stress in the family. Stress is a common, yet harmful thing to deal with at home and/ or at work.
Stressors are obstacles that people go through that causes stress within. Stressors can affect families in many
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In the textbook Kunz says, that woman’s economic status declines whereas men go through a smaller reduction in economic status if any. The reasons for this difference are unequal wages, gender division of labor, and low level child support. In today’s world, we see that typically, unless proven unfit to take care of the child, the mother usually wins custody all the time. Woman’s economic income is less than a men and therefore she has to work harder to provide and maintain stability for her child. This can be a hard task when you are seen the weaker sex.
As children of divorced parents, coping can be very difficult This is why personal adjustment can be a hard task. According to Kunz, there were recaches that have shown that children from divorced families have a higher tendency to have more psychological problems than whole family children. An example of this could be when thinking that the child was not enough for both parents creating psychological problems within. On the other hand, it is also important to know that those situation can also force and make children to mature fast than anyone else would. Adjusting can be harder for children who do not see their noncustodial parent with the same frequency as children who regularly see the other parent.
These are all strains that cause stress in a family and make it harder to juggle, daily
Parents that are going through a marriage breakdown, divorce and separation can be stressful for all involved particularly the children/young person. They can become emotionally withdrawn and suffer a lack of confidence which can create low self esteem. Due to family upheaval, they may lose focus in their own abilities and suffer mentally. Similarly, children
Divorce can be very difficult for the parents, but even harder for the children involved. Children of divorce often feel caught in the middle and have to choose between their parents. A lot of the time Parent Alienation Syndrome is a huge result from a divorce. A divorce isn't something that is short-term. Children of divorce face more obstacles than other children.
Divorce is is already a messy situation but the second a child gets thrown in the middle of this situation, it gets even more complicated. It is the end of a marriage for the couple but it is the end of a family for the child. Not every child is affected the same. There are a list of things that change emotionally for kids of divorce. They withdraw, they have a stronger temper, they doubt love, they deal with guilt, and having different coping mechanisms with loss (What). Children of divorce miss out on things like family dinner, which plays a bigger role in childhood development than we think. Statistically, according to the CASA report, Children “who eat with their family fewer than three times a week, 20% get C 's or lower on their report cards (Klein).” Children of divorced parents never
The 10 dimensions of Family Stress are a way to describe a family stressor. Lipman-Blumen created a list of 10 dimensions that family stressors are based on. These ten categories are: internal vs external, pervasive vs bounded, precipitate onset vs gradual onset, intense vs mild, transitory vs chronic, random vs expected, natural generation vs artificial generation, scarcity vs surplus, perceived insolvable vs perceived solvable, and substantive context. Some of these factors may seem obvious and others may not. Some may have a direct influence on the stressor and others may not. But, each of these can lead to a crisis if not taken seriously. For all of these categories, I think it all depends on the crisis and each situation.
The story brings to the forefront on how parents need to anticipate the family needs and take proactive steps to ensure healthy family dynamics during any stressful or critical situation. A family that has functional dynamics has the ability to offer support, concern and love to each other when a chronic conflict or
Although families may not always feel this connectedness, it is always there. The emotional climate of the family is interdependent of what is going on in the family as a whole. If one unit of the family is distant emotionally, it can have a great affect on the whole family. These attitudes are reciprocated throughout the entire family. It is important that most family members are able to stay healthy emotionally and have that ability to communicate their feelings to one another. Problems arise when individuals don’t fulfill their roles that are needed from all family members. Michael Kerr, explained this idea in an article he wrote to explain the family system theory. He explained that “heightened tension can intensify these processes that promote that promote unity and teamwork, and this can lead to problems” (Kerr,
From your perspective, what are some of the stressors your select family is experiencing? With your select family in mind, complete the 71 life events Family Inventory of Life Events and Changes scale (Bomar, pp. 416-417). What additional stressors did the scale help you identify, if any? Explain why you consider the pile-up level of stress your select family is experiencing to be high, moderate, or low.
Social life expectations is also a huge stressor, people want to feel the need to be popular and pressured to fit in. Another major source of my stress is financial issues, fortunately my parents are able to provide me with necessary needs like a car, school books, food, home, clothes/shoes and money. At the point where I need be dependent on my own rather than on my parents which causes me a lot of stress. Another major source of my stress is seeing my parents hurt whether it be physically, mentally or emotionally. My parents worked so hard and became successful which inspires me and seeing them hurt stresses me out when i’m unable to do anything. My last source of my stress are certain lifestyle choices. I tend to make poor choices that affect other situations in my life in a negative way. For example, staying up late on a school night or skipping an important event to hang out with friends. Some of my internal factors are being insecure or feeling worried. Feeling insecure on how I look or even how I dress and feeling worried about others opinions or other situations. Other internal factors are being confused with what I’m doing with my life. Some external factors include, school and work. Being overloaded with work causes a huge stress on me along with not sleeping at night or having family issues.
their friends , parents and their relationship partners. The lack ack of trust is also
There was a time when the families of America seemed to resemble their TV counterparts, such as The Cleavers from Leave it to Beaver, or the Seavers, from Growing Pains, with a totally intact nuclear family, with a happily married parents and 2-3 cheerful children, all of whom seemed able to overcome their problems in the time span of thirty minutes minus commercials. Of course this is an overgeneralized, oversimplified view of the families of the past but at least on the outside families did resemble this mold. Today divorce, single parenting, economic situations causing adult children to remain in the home, are just some of the ways that families of today have strayed from the typical norm portrayed in the past. The purpose of this paper is to demonstrate how a family stressor, such as the added responsibility of raising a grandchild, can adversely effect its members, but at the same time, how a family can still succeed by utilizing the strengths that come from within.
These include academic deterioration, antisocial and delinquent behaviors, anxiety, low self-esteem, and depression. Early promiscuity, relationship difficulties, and illicit drug use are also noted. Other studies correlate resiliency in adulthood as one product of living in a conflictual family system”(Rich et al., 2007 p.164). The effects of divorce vary depending on the situation and the child. “Hess and Camara found that many children of divorce suffer severe emotional consequences such as depression, anger, anxiety, and withdrawal, any of which, if prolonged, can have a negative impact on the child’s overall emotional development. It is also reported adjustment problems in the area of cognitive, emotional, and social development among children of divorce as well. In addition, parental separation has been found to be particularly stressful for adolescents”(Bornstein and Walters, 1988 p.248).
As shown in table 1, most of the seven dimensions of Family Functioning showed a statistically significant relationship with stress, except Roles and Behavioral Control which turned out to be not significant (p=.076 and p=.053) which indicated that the following dimensions have no relationship with the level of stress. Moreover, there was a strong positive relationship between Stress and Problem Solving, and General Functioning (r=.434 and r=.439); and a moderate positive relationship towards Affective Responsiveness and Affective Involvement (r=.340 and r=.325).
To define a stressor, it is a major life change event that affects the person in a positive or negative way. Individuals tend to be affected by stressors over their surroundings as they are growing up. According to Kunz (2013), more stressors come from within families. From my perspective of growing up, parents are the cause an economic stressor to themselves and to a child.
How do kids suffer from different problems during their life after their parent’s divorce? Even though more than sixty percent of couples with kids stay together, around forty percent of the marriages with kids end in divorce. These children are affected by divorce more than it is often talked about and they all handle it differently. Parents may first consider the impact of divorce on their child but they can still not be the best support systems for their kids. Sometimes they do not behave in a proper manner when it comes to their ex-spouse which shows the kid that they have a damaging relationship or might even make the kid hate the other parent based on these behaviors. Someone that has first hand experience at this is Lilly. She has been experiencing negative parents and step parents since the age of eight. These kids everyday lives are impacted greatly as well as their mental and physical health.
Stress is also linked low fertility in one’s reproductive organs, and can cause problems during pregnancy or one’s menstrual cycle (www.everydayhealth.com). This happens when one is overwhelmed with the stress he or she is going through in their lives. No one person is the same, meaning stressors as well as stress levels differ for each individual. This is why it is hard for scientists to reach the core because it is a subjective sensation related with a variety of symptoms that differ for each of us. Because of this, stress is not always a synonym for distress. Situations like a steep roller coaster ride that cause fear and anxiety for some can prove highly pleasurable for others (www.stress.org). Each person also responds to stress differently. There are numerous physical as well as emotional responses to stress. Stress can cause an ocean of different emotions that are often times unpredictable. It can have wide ranging effects on people’s emotions, mood and behavior (www.stress.org). Stress has said to have been America’s number one leading health problem. It has been shown that stress levels have escalated in children, teenagers, college students and the elderly for reasons that of which have lead to: increased crime, violence, and other threats to personal safety; pernicious peer pressures that lead to substance abuse and other unhealthy life style habits; social isolation and loneliness; the erosion of family and religious