Which gender faces tougher challenge these days? Men or women? How does your experience contribute to the way you answer this question? Coevally of two extremely different individuals as man and woman has always been a challenge since the existence of civilization. Nevertheless, it is not improbable. Animosity ensues when society’s viewpoint on how the opposite sex’s response for different situations that arise. As a female, and from personal experiences, I cannot say that I had it that hard as opposed to my brothers. My father has always been very protective of the girls in the family and more lenient when it comes to physical punishments. Family plays a monumental factor of the gender differences structure in our society. Growing up in a third world country like the Philippines is a difficult place for a female. I was raised believing that my merit in life is to cater for the family; therefore, at an early age, I had to learn the household chores and care for younger siblings as preparation to become a good wife and mother when I have my own family. Expectations of how a woman must behave and dress in a respectful and conservative manner to portray good moral and conduct myself in a way that will not embarrass the family’s reputation is crucial. I can still remember my late father asking my ex-husband if I was being a good wife to him after being married for a month. Committing sexual relationship before marriage was a very appalling conduct of a woman. Some
In my culture, rigid gender roles are enforced from the moment a child can communicate. Sex and gender in the Haitian community are used interchangeably. Men are expected to fulfil their duties as the “strong breadwinner” while women were expected to be submissive to their husbands and tend to the home and children (Benokraitis, 2015). Girls are taught to cook, clean, and care for the home, while boys are taught to be independent, vocal and financially stable. A husband does not feel the need to help in the domestic realm, as he is socialized into believing that it is not his responsibility. Religious affiliation plays an extensive role on many of the beliefs held by my family and culture. Many of the views I’ve previously held regarding gender roles have changed over the years.
As a country, we have come a long way to reaching equality between women and males. During the 19 centuries women fought for their right to vote. When talking about gender, there are a lot issues that continue to be present until this day. Women had to fight for equality during the 19 century which lead up women in today’s society to have a voice. Despite of all the improvement close to gender equality, society still expect particular things from females and males.
Tannen (1994) suggests that the two sexes have very different modes of communication, and she suggests that in fact, communication between man and woman should be viewed as inter-cultural communication. She also has given set of differentiations: (1) Men live in a world of hierarchy; women live in a world of connection. (2) Men require individuality and freedom; women require intimacy and familiarity. (3) Men live in a world of action; women live in a world of feeling.(p,67) The issue Tannen tries to address is that sometimes women and men don’t understand each other because they come from different cultures. These findings on gender stereotypes offer a great help to them for understanding each other and thus enhance their relationship. Women
As we all know, gender codes for women have existed throughout history and even in today’s world. These codes are in many countries and my home country, Vietnam, is not an exception. The most common gender codes for women include doing housework, taking care of children, economic of a family, and always obeying the head of the family, which is usually the husbands. After I read the questions, I suddenly realized that my mom is a good example to write about. My mom has been following the women’s gender codes, in which the book about the mother and the daughters was talking about. In order to enhance the ideas of this problem, it is important to consider the negative and positive impacts of gender codes.
In her book “Can’t We Talk” Deborah Tannen compares the manner of which males and females react to each other in diverse circumstances. Early in the reading she states that men are raised in a world in which a conversation is a competition that they should never loose, and women are taught to listen, confirm and offer support to other people. She supports this with when she stated that she saw it in her own husband when they worked in two different cities and how he “approached the world in a way to achieve and maintain status” (Tannen). Also, stated in the article, Tannen was talking about how ways to avoid fighting with their significant others, people tend to give in to
From what is described above, the culture is seen as favoring the sons and males more. Nevertheless, the parents still love their children equally and the daughters still play an important role in the household (Cha, 2010). The daughter usually cleans and cooks in the house. The sister-in-law who marries the brother can only lighten this burden for the daughter. Cha (2010) points out, “It is said that the daughter is the guest and the daughter-in-law is the caretaker,” (p. 25). The daughter-in-law starts to bear the responsibilities once they enter their husband’s household. They take the lead
The article concludes that conflict will arise in relationships and that men and women typically handle conflict in different ways. Furthermore, it examines the various approaches each gender takes when dealing with conflict. For example, females are taught at an early age to discuss issues, “value relationships”, and be adaptive when confronting conflict (Wood, p. 212). Males , on the other hand, are socialized to not talk about conflict, be more aggressive, and try to fix
Gender roles are learned through socialization and family behaviors. Different societies construct different stereotypical behaviors for women than they do for men. This creates conflict internally among women who move from one society to another and are therefore forced to balance the often conflicting gender roles placed on them. Migrants who grow up in one country, then are refugees elsewhere, or settle in another country, have to delicately balance the gender roles from each location, each society, and each group. This creates behavioral issues highlighted in the book We Should Never Meet, where the main character Kim is lectured by the store owner about her manners, and how her behavior would not be acceptable back home in Vietnam.
In the typical Indian family, gender construction manifests itself especially in the roles of men and women in the household. As Judith Lorber so aptly put, “gender is a process of creating distinguishable social statuses for the assignment of rights and responsibilities” which in turn, creates the social differences that define a “man” and “woman” (Lorber). It is these differences that are used to construct and maintain an established gender order within the family. In the conventional Indian family, the order is such that the roles of the women in the household revolve around the roles of the men. This structure was something that I saw from an early age in my parents’ marriage. Though my parents defied the Indian norm of the arranged marriage, they still represented the quintessential model of an Indian couple in many other ways. My mother left her job to become a stay-at-home mom when I was about six years old. However, even before she left her job, she was implicitly expected by my father to shoulder most of the housework including cooking, cleaning, and caring for my older brother
Throughout their whole lives, men and women were treated differently and they had very different
This joint family, like any social organization, must face problems such as acceptable division of work, relationships and specific family roles. These familial relationships are managed on the basis of a secular hierarchical principle. In fact, all Indians owe respect and obedience to the head of the family, who usually is the father or the oldest man of the family community. In The Gift of a Bride: A Tale of Anthropology, Matrimony and Murder by Nanda and Gregg, it is explained that, “females [are] placed under the perpetual guardianship of first their fathers and elder brothers, then their husbands.” (Nanda & Gregg 22) Thus, all the spending decisions, studies and profession, or marriage, are exclusively the responsibility of the father after the possible discussions with the other men of the family. Age and sex are the basic principles of this hierarchical system. The eldest sons enjoy greater unchallenged authority than their cadets. Of course men have more authority than women, but older married women have an important role within the family. In fact, the authority of a woman depends on the rank of her husband inside the group. Traditionally, the wife of the patriarch rules over domestic affairs and has considerable power over the other women in the community, especially her daughters- in-law.
Girls, young women, and mature mothers. Society has consistently given women strict guidelines, rules and principles on how to be an appropriate member of a man’s society. These rules are set at a young age and enforced thoroughly into adulthood. When not followed accordingly, women often times too many face reprimanding through means of verbal abuse, physical abuse, or social exile. In the midst of all these strict guidelines and social etiquette for girls, a social rebellion started among girls and women and gender roles were broken, however the social rebellion did not and does not affect all girls and women. For instance, in less socially developed places, young girls on the brink of womanhood are still strongly persuaded to be a man’s idea of a “woman”.
Have you ever thought of who is more afraid, men or women? Are men or women more afraid? Who is most likely to be afraid when watching the same thing? If the women are more afraid, than their heart rate and blood pressure goes up.The women are more afraid.If I find out who is more afraid then I will know why their heart rate and blood pressure goes up.This is important because this will help me know who is more afraid.Other people would want to know what gender is more afraid. Who is more afraid, men or women? Who follows directions better, men or women? How does fear affect people?
8). The traditional views of gender roles are indeed quite different from the modern views. The men in society are the bread-winners where as the women take care of the children and home. There are basic and common work roles, however in terms of behaviour and involvement there are gender role distinctions. The sex roles generally play out in modern society as well, some sex roles and stereotypes for girls are that they are “nonaggressive, nonathletic, emotionally expressive, tender, domestic, and nurturing. Boys on the other hand are “aggressive, value achievement, attain goals through conflict, and work towards monetary success” (Whicker and Kronenfeld, 1986; pp. 8). The males in the society are “emotionally anesthetised, aggressive, physically tough and daring, unwilling or unable to give nurturance to a child” (Lewis and Sussman, 1986; pp. 1). These traits are carried out by this particular gender mostly outside the society to demonstrate their strength. Those individuals who ignore to carry out these personality traits are seen as weak and unmanly. The women on the other hand are given the responsibility of looking after the family and are supposed to have the opposite personality traits. For instance a woman can show emotions but not outside of the family because of the shame that would bring to the
It is clear the ideal of gender conflicts is one that is universally noted. It is seen in many instances throughout history, causing much of society to recognize such differences. In this recognition individuals are only understanding how men and women are being treated differently, rather than further exploring where the conflicts lie between genders. It is important to understand why and where these differences in gender stems from, as it helps to further understand the progression of