Why Don 't You Keep Your Room Clean Like Your Sister?

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“Why don’t you keep your room clean like your sister?” was one of the many things that Connie’s mom said to compare her to her sister in the story Where are you going, where have you been by Joyce Carol Oates. Going through the pages one can discover how Connie likes to be out of the house with her friends versus spending time with her family. When Connie was at home, her mother would always compare her to other girls and how she did not meet the same standards. Her mother would make her do typical household chores that were stereotypically for women. Connie’s mom sees society with women working as housewives and taking care of their families, while men go out and provide for the family. One day when Connie’s parents left for a barbecue,…show more content…
Thus what men and women see as gender roles can have an impact on their feminist views.
Despite being looked at in a certain way, Women are being portrayed as “going exactly where their mothers and grandmothers have already ‘been’: into sexual bondage at the hands of a male ‘Friend’” (Christle 1). This is showing how even though women are changing the way society works, some people still want it to be the same. In the story Connie’s mom wanted Connie to be like her and her sister, just the average, not overly pretty looking lady. Some people think that “women have been silenced,” (Spelman and Lugones 574) but Connie had other ideas, she wanted to be different from them. She was constantly looking at herself in the mirror and thinking about what others were thinking about her. When she went out, she would always wear nice clothes that would get her noticed. Looking through a feminist lens one can conclude that Connie’s family sees women now as they always were.
Arnold is a perfect example for showing how men take advantage of women both emotionally and physically. Throughout the story he uses his words to pursue Connie to come outside. He asks her five different times if she wants to go for a ride when he is trying to get her out of the house. While he is trying to get her to come outside, he is also sweet talking her. Within the last two pages of the article Arnold calls Connie “Honey” six times. He also uses other lines such as “you’re cute,” “Connie sweetheart,”
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