A Child Called It By Dave Pelzer

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The Book A Child Called “It” written by Dave Pelzer who survived one of the most severe child abuse cases in history. He wrote about his life from the beginning when family life was good, and throughout the abusive years, until he was finally rescued. Before kindergarten Dave remembers his life being happy. He stated in the book that, “"My family was the 'Brady Bunch ' of the 1960s. My two brothers and I were blessed with the perfect parents. Our every whim was fulfilled with love and care." But in the years after that he faced unimaginable pain and abuse mentally and physically. First I am going to talk about Erikson’s stages of development and the potential damage of not going through each stage as we should. Recent research confirms…show more content…
He was often punished when his brothers weren 't, even if they were doing the same thing. He was able to be adventurous but instead was stuck with guilt. Throughout his years he also faced the emotional toll of abuse in many ways. One way his mother did this was by no longer calling him by his name, and not referring to him as a human. Dave states in his book, “that death would be better than my prospects for any kind of happiness. I was nothing but an “it”.” Children and adolescents go through a stage where they are trying to figure out who they are. With an abusive mother who takes away your identity it would be really hard to figure out who you are and you would be confused on what roles to play. Erikson’s stages emphasize family and culture. Erikson noted that psychological conflicts, especially in childhood within families, affect people lifelong. Daves mother changed drastically from a loving mother into the monster that abused him for so many years. The way she parented him doesn 't fit especially well with and of Baumrind’s styles of parenting. There are many different types of parents, and everybody believes in different ways of raising their children. Baumrind has identified three styles of parenting which include authoritarian, permissive and authoritative. Other researchers have found a fourth type of parenting called neglectful or uninvolved parenting.
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