I have never been in a situation where my actions could prevent someone from being hurt. However, if I were faced with that scenario, I imagine that I would be an active bystander. What I mean by that is I would not ignore them, I would do my best to help that person. Factors that could influence my choice would be the people nearby. If there are others around me that see the situation, I may wait to see if someone else will confront those that are bullying. Or, if I see people who are close to the person being bullied, I may let them handle it instead. However, if no one does anything, I will step up and help. The setting may also influence what I do. For example, if we were in a school and I saw someone being bullied, I would likely
Everyday humans are presented with new opportunities and situations. These events can change the way they think and make decisions. But it's the way it can change ones relationships that can really hurt one's ability to care. There is a total of 7.442 billion people alive today. Yet only a small portion of that are people one truly cares about. For many people, a specific setting, situation or emotion can alter the way people can think rationally.
If you happen to be the bystander, your success comes from knowing not to get involved or not to get too involved, lest you yourself become an actual bully or a victim. You may even be blessed with the cherished gift of self-denial, and in such case, you are able to dismiss any vague notions that your inaction makes you complicit in the bully's trespass. Still you are human: you have an opinion, you have feelings about the matter. Maybe you sympathize with one of the sides. Maybe you wish you had the guts to be that way. Maybe you're just afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe you have something to lose; maybe that something is so valuable you're not willing to gamble it. Maybe you simply feel guilty for not getting involved. Or, maybe all you feel is relief -- relief that it's not you. Makes no difference, the bystander just stands there. Hence the name. Oh, you may be emotionally conflicted, but being a bystander is really the safest place to be. Consequently, bystanders often opt to remain bystanders.
The year is 1961 at St. Louis University and Sister Rose Thering is in the process of examining how Catholic lessons disrespect other religions, specifically Judaism. She strongly advocated a world without prejudice, challenging her own faith to consummate change. Sister Rose’s work sets a precedent for getting involved. Throughout life individuals are challenged and put into difficult situations, in which they are given a decision of reaming a bystander or becoming an upstander. However, the choice they make might not always be the preferred one because most individuals do not fully understand the reason or by what method they can get involved.
In the book Bystander, Eric, the protagonist, was a bystander, who noticed about bullying but, never did anything about it. Eric learned to take action for what is right to prevent from bullying and not be a bystander. As Eric realized that he was a bystander, he learned to stand up and confront the bullies.
In the book “Bystander by James Preller the main character Eric is a thirteen year old 7th grade boy who faces difficulties that change him as a person and how he views things. Eric’s parents get divorced causing his little brother Rudy, his mom and himself to move to Long Island from Ohio. Eric’s mom then enrolls Eric into a new school in which he does not fit into and he when he eventually fits in he finds the wrong friends.
In this same journal researchers found that 41% of students say that they would step in and help a fellow classmate in need. However, in reality only about 1 in 4 actually do intervene (Flanagan and Stout, 2009). There is obviously some discretion between intention and behavior. Researchers are not sure what makes children decide to help or not to help. These young students are demonstrating the bystander effect. This journal also talks about bullying and why students will not tell teachers when a student is being bullied. Not much study has been done on this, but researches believe that it has much to do with the bystander effect.
The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the
To begin with, bystanders choose not to help the victim. According to Source 4, they just stand by and watch. They usually do this because they are afraid to get in trouble or become bullied too. This tells the victim that they don't matter and that this is okay. Making the victim feel upset may cause them to harm their self or even become a bully. If someone does decide to help the bully out, the bystander will exclude them from their group of friends. That is how bystander choose not to help the bully.
Bystander. What does this word mean? Bystander is an individual who witnesses an event that place. There is active bystander and a nonactive bystander. An active bystander is an individual who witnesses an event take place and steps in to help. That stepping in to help could be calling 911, defending an individual, checking up on an individual who does not look okay, etc. A nonactive bystander is an individual who witnesses an event take place and ignores it and goes on about their day. I recently had the opportunity to participate in an scholar-citizen initiative engagement called Bystander Training, which was presented by a representor from the SAVES office at Radford University.
In the book "Bystander", written by James Preller, it talks about not just the bully and victims but the other roles, such as Bystanders and allies. In chapter 20, a gathered group of boys discuss their responses to Griffin's unreasonable and illogical behavior. Their reasons for doing nothing include "The unreliability of authority figures to respond", "The threat of retaliation", "The victim, at least on some level, deserves it" , "It is human nature, the law of the jungle, and it will always persist", "It's better to stay out of it", "No one should rat out another student". These are ridiculous and absurd reason to be a bystander to such a unspeakable act. The main idea I would like to another reader to consider is advise others to not
Throughout my years in Carolyn Clark Elementary School, teachers and parents taught us how to be active bystanders. I knew that we had the power to make decisions about how to respond to whatever we see or hear. The choices we make can make a positive or negative impact on the people experiencing the event. When we stay silent, do nothing, or look the other way while witnessing someone being hurt verbally, physically, or mentally, we are participating in something that allows discrimination and
Currently in the United States, there is no legal requirement to help others who are in need. This lack of a law requiring bystanders to help someone who obviously needs help has sometimes resulted in the death of the person in need. For example, in the cases of Kitty Genovese and Andrew Mormille that we have studied, bystanders have watched and done nothing to help as others died. Often the consequences of not helping are not so drastic, but the situations are still appalling. In one case I know of, a handicapped student fell down a staircase. Other students stepped over her, ignoring her pain and fear. Also, it was obvious they noticed her lying there, but none of them were willing to take the time or effort to help her up or make sure she was not seriously hurt. Should U.S. citizens be required by law to help those in need, especially
StepUp is an interactive workshop that talks about how to intervene in situations with problematic behavior either intentional and unintentional. In the workshop, I learned how to assess challenging situations and determine how to safely intercede and still be protected from or not exposed to danger or risk implementing the 3Ds- Direct, Distract, and Delegate. I also learned about “Bystander Intervention”- a philosophy and strategy for prevention of various types of violence, including bullying, hazing, harassment, sexual assault, relationship violence, discrimination, binge-drinking, and mental health concerns. How these are of great importance was addressed as well- why these prevent the pre-mentioned harmful situations and how we can use them.
Bystander-a person present but not involved; chance spectator; onlooker. Victim-a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action. Perpetrator-a person who perpetrates, or commits, an illegal, criminal, or evil act. What Does This Quote Mean?
Although many people say, yes bystanders should be able to intervene when there is trouble, a lot of people also believe they shouldn’t be able to intervene when there is trouble. The people that think they shouldn’t intervene when there is trouble is because it isn’t as easy to stand up for someone when they are being bullied, and they may be overwhelmed with something they are already going through and they can’t deal with one more thing. Some people think things like, ‘Someone will surely step in’ (Whitson). It is normal for kids to just pass by thinking that, and someone else truly actually might step in to help. Intervening for young people is very difficult especially when the young girl or boy are shy in some way. For shy kids that are