Being able to find a first-person account, which provides explicit details on the mental health of Ruby Wax has been unequivocally challenging. However, after much research, numerous resources have been sought, which include her autobiography, How Do You Want Me? (2002), Ted talks and more recently, her appearance on BBC One Who Do You Think You Are? (2017), which contain accounts of her mental health issues and her recovery.
How Do You Want Me? (2002) is an autobiographical memoir by Ruby Wax, which details a brutally honest and touching account of her personal life, including her upbringing, fame, marriage, children and some details of her breakdown and recovery. Not only is the book an honest account, it is funny and irreverent.
Ruby Wax is well-known for being a comedian, actress, author and recently a campaigner for mental health. Ruby is an only child, who descends from Jewish Austrian parents; her father was called Edward and her mother was called Berthe. Her parents escaped from Austria in 1938, due to impending Nazi threat. They set up roots in Evanston, Illinois. Her father set up his own business, and became a wealthy sausage maker, and her mother was an accountant. Ruby is married to Ed Bye, who is a British television producer and director. They have three children, a boy and two girls.
In the book, she speaks candidly about how her parents were violent towards her during her upbringing, and how negative her parents were towards her. She explains
her father trusted him. It makes her sad and fearful of the power that her father possesses. She is
With each thing her father does including punishing her for her owl, and losing his temper frequently, she finds her self more independent because she has her own thoughts and beliefs that are different from her father.
her life demonstrates her fear and in the end what fear can do to a
her household she resorts to outside sources, making herself a victim to boys, which creates a
Her father,Rex, was a horrible person. He slept around, abused his wife and kids, was an alcoholic, and had his family on the run. He made excuses for everything he did and made his family and everyone else believe him. He was a manipulative person. One good thing I can say about her father is that he was a smart man. He taught his daughter calculus at a young age. And he was good at using his resources. As for the mother, she was a lazy human being. She stayed home and didn’t have a job even though her family was broke. She knew the father was an alcoholic and abusive but still stayed with him. The parents was horrible to put their own children in
Her life was not easy, her husband got shot and was left alone yet she came back to care for him. That didn’t stop him from verbally abusing him. But when push came to shove, she just left because she kept expressing how she felt. She could have killed her husband if she let her anger pile on inside but she let it out and it made a lot of space in her heart to forgive her husband. Writing and other forms of self-expression have helped many others alike so this says a lot about the usefulness of the literary arts.
She also talks about how she meant to be unimportant to the families so that she can to be treated as guest. Eventually when the author and her team get used to within the families they were studying, they have literally got the real life scenarios and
Lastly, her family betrayed her by not listening to her side of the story after her sister told lies about her, and they betrayed her when they acted as if they did not care if she moved out of the house. In all of these actions, the family itself and certain members of the family are portrayed as uncaring, unsupportive, disrespectful, conniving, deceitful, and hateful to Sister. Through every action of the family, Sister is treated harshly, and she tries to not let this bother her. Yet, anger and bitterness build up inside of her until she cannot take it anymore. Consequently, it built up so much inside of her that it severely affected Sister so profoundly that she moved away from her home to get away from her family.
Jeannette talks about how her parents at times were ignorant at how they were parenting. For example, Jeannette states countless situations in the book where she felt excluded or neglected. There was a situation in the book where she was cooking or preparing herself hotdogs and she got her dress on fire. The flames grew on her rapidly and the injuries became severe; soon after that her mother and father expressed to her that they were little to no concerned about their daughter. In the book it states, “Mom, in an unnaturally calm voice, explained what had happened and asked if we could please have a ride to the hospital. The woman dropped her clothespins and laundry right there in the dirt and, without saying anything, ran for her car” (9-10). This just shows the mother wasn’t the least bit scared for her daughter’s life, she didn’t even panic or react the way a mother should. With that being said, we can even notice that the neighbor was more affected by the situation than that of the mother. This is the earliest stories Jeannette can recall, which is mentioned in her book, and all the stories and memories after that only go to show the neglectful lifestyle she had to endure. It is really a sad reality of this woman’s life. However, Jeannette Walls is now a successful author, and journalist in New York, is one of the few people in this world that has made a successful life from a horrible and neglectful
Jeannette had a very challenging and awful childhood. Jeannette is forced to be independent and take care of herself in ways most children should not. She realizes at a young age that her life is unpredictable. Early in the memoir,
She even believes that she shares in the blame for her abuse, for she shows an apologetic attitude others (Allison 116). Through her feeling of isolation, she learns to depend on herself, especially on her imagination. She imagines herself with strength enough to fight back against Daddy Glen with “hands…a match for his” (Allison 109). She also visualizes other
When a child is forced to make decisions alone at such a young age their innocence is robbed from them and their development is lead down a path which they are not yet ready for. Her actions are a classic example of this and the path which she was lead down was paved with boy after boy.
Even though she writes this in the book due to peer pressure, she realizes that her actions are wrong and her superego makes her feel bad for behaving in this manner.
The mother begins to rebel against tradition by taking an active role in educating and freeing herself. Through her radio, telephone and trips out with her sons she develops her own opinions about the world, the war, and the domination and seclusion of woman. She loses her innocence as a result to her new knowledge and experience.
The resentment within the young girl’s family is essential to the novel because one can understand the young girl better as she makes her decision.