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Essay about Anticipatory Grief

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Grief is a universal reaction experienced by all of us at some time in our lives. The capacity that makes each of us capable of warm, satisfying relationships also leaves us vulnerable to sadness, despair, and grief when such relationships are disrupted (Carr, 1969). Regardless of the actual relationship that might have existed prior to the death, we have the tendency to idealize the relationship once death has occurred and we expect expressions of normal grief. Unfortunately, "normal grief' is what society expects, but the needs of the individual prerequisites putting a label on grief. Because society influences our behavior through the secondary reinforcement of social approval during this time, we are not looking at the primary …show more content…

When examining whether anticipatory grief hinders conventional grief, Clayton, Halikas, Maurice, and Robbins (1973) found more depressive symptoms in the first month of bereavement in women who had experienced anticipatory grief. This would coincide with the theory of learned helplessness. If we cannot control our environment (death of a loved one) then we are at the mercy of the environment. For this reason there is no contingency between our response and the consequences. This leads to associative, motivational, and emotional deficits. The individual has no motive for anything, is under extreme stress, and becomes depressed, all leading to learned helplessness. In other words, our world has turned upside down and we have no control over it. Researchers also found that after one year these widows were no better off than widows who lacked such preparation.

In a study done by Gilliland and Fleming (1998), three groups of spouses, were looked at to see if anticipatory grief and conventional grief were similar. The groups consisted of group one - Palliative Care Group (PCG), spouses of the terminally-ill, a control group (CG) consisting of individuals with healthy spouses to account for the level of grief symptoms associated with stress and loss in a normative sample. The second control group, a chronic care group (CCG) was

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