Arm Wrestling with My Father

In Robert Hayden’s poem “Those Winter Sundays” tells of an individual reminiscing about their father and the sacrifices he made to provide for them. In the poem, the father was not appreciated for his contribution but the narrator seems to now acknowledge the hard work of the father. As the poem progresses the tone of the narrator is one of regret and remorse. The relationship of the parent and child is often one of misunderstanding and conflict until the experiences life more and come in grasps of the parent’s intention. So, the relation between a parent and child evolves as the child emerges to adulthood.

The first passage reveals the parallel suffering occurring in the lives of different members of the family, which emphasizes the echoes between the sufferings of the father and the narrator. The narrator’s father’s despair over having watched

In these two stories, both authors depict the condition of his/her parent/child relationship in spatial terms and their perception of gradual changes by expressing the hardship of understanding affection from each of their father during their childhood. Although these two are connected, each author has different conditions in terms of relationship with their own father and ways of describing to depict their stories. After analyzing each story, I believe that Brad Manning’s “Arm Wrestling with My Father” wins over Sarah Vowell’s “Shooting Dad” in terms of sharing with the readers about his relationship with his father more vividly.

Bragg’s dejected tone when addressing his father’s latest demeanor is satirical as the Father’s past behavior is anything but celebratory. The author’s conscious decision to compare his memories of the Father to that of a “man” and a “monster” depicts the two emotions Bragg intended to invoke from his readers through the use of tone: contentment and fear. He wanted his readers to share his contentment with his father’s past demeanor, though distressing. In contrast, Bragg hoped his readers share his fear of his father’s past demeanor, despite his innate urge

The author’s melancholic, yet, optimistic tone arouses mix feelings from his readers. Bragg clouts his readers’ perception of his father with harrowing, however, coveted recollections of the past. In the author’s comparative recount of the Father’s demeanor, he paints an unsettling, yet a hopeful life of his father:

Have you ever been separated from your dad for a while? We already know that the dad’s love cannot be compared with another thing in the world. The relationship between a father and his son is one of the most important things in life. In the novel “When the Emperor Was Divine” by Julie Otsuka shows the relationship assists in making a boy recognize the love of his father while he is in the internment camp for a long time. We may see through the third chapter as the father and his boy encourage their self-confidence to overcome their own experiences of being separated from each other. We are able to see how this relationship become strong and how it is linked for the boy’s feelings. Through this essay I would like to prove the importance of the father and his son, and how they illustrated this love in the novel “When the Emperor was Divine”.

Brad Manning’s “Arm Wrestling with My Father” he indicates that the physical contact between himself and his father is a representation of their relationship. When Manning is a boy his father, and he participates in arm wrestling regularly. Of course, Manning being a child loses but all he does is giggle. Manning’s relationship with his father as a boy is playful and fun. In his teenage years, he did not laugh around his father anymore. His relationship with his father is never emotional, like a bond a mother and a son has. The relationship is strictly physical. Mannings father helps him with lacrosse but never goes to any of his orchestra concerts or helps him with homework: “But at those times I could just feel how hard he was trying to

Junior is very observant and he describes his mother in a detailed way. He deposits emphasis on his mother’s hands. “One thing about Mami, her palms never sweated.” (27) Junior’s mother is a very lovely person, pretty and knows how to take good care of his sons. In contrast, the Puerto Rican woman is described oppositely of his mother. “She had papery hands, and when she rubbed the towel on my chest, she did it hard, like I was a bumper she was waxing.”(35) According to Junior, the Puerto Rican woman is careless and is not lovely as his mother. This increases his disgust towards his father for being with such a woman that will never be like his mother. This fact supports the idea that his son-father relationship is related to the Freud’s Oedipal Conflict.

The relationship between father and son changes over time, and molds along with the people in encapsulates. As in real life, the father and son who inhabit Li-Young Lee’s poem “A Story” experience sudden changes within their relationship as the time passes on. The son’s cries for a story that slowly change into adult conversations throughout the poem indicate that with maturity and age comes both understanding and hostility.

paper’s view on the parents and describes their progress through the snow from a distance as “effortless and unimpeded, [but] up close, the gliding through the snow made them sweat”(1). The author juxtaposes appearance to reality when she represents the child's view of her parents as viewing them from a distance, while reality is

In their recent work, Brad Manning and Sarah Vowell have written about more than one way to have a close, but different relationship with their fathers. There is has always been a belief that to get along with someone you would have normal conversations, enjoy each other’s company, or share a common interest. In the story they love their father as any other child would, but their ways of communication are not the same and are different from a common father-child relationship. Both authors use rhetorical devices as a framework for differentiating their relationships with their fathers by characterizing them.

My relationship with my father has been different. He used to drink a lot while when I was younger, but although he would come under those conditions, he still would have the time and dedication to play with me. When I was younger I used to spend lots of time with my father, he would try to show me how to repair cars, I remember getting all greasy by trying to help him, but after a while I was sent to live with my grandmother, so our

In conclusion a father is a significant figure in a daughter’s life. In which he should influence, encourage, and empower their daughters. In the poem My Father in the Navy, Cofer shows her father positive relationship influences her life. In contrast the poem Daddy, Plath shows disastrous relationship negatively impact her life. Both of these poems examine the convoluting relationship between fathers and

Even though my mother was affectionate, my father was quite different in terms of sensitivity. He was active duty military for most of my early childhood; so, I barely was able to see him. However, whenever he retired, I was so excited, because I was hopeful that we could catch up emotionally. Although I was hopeful, my father became fairly distant and showed signs of insensitivity whenever I expressed any concerns to him. For example, I was crying because I fell down the stairs, and my dad just told me to wait until my mom got home so she could comfort me. It was as if he did know what to do. This did not mean that my father was completely insensitive; but, he did possess low levels. I was glad that my mother was more amorous because I was able to cling to her for emotional support and outstanding sensitivity.

Although everyone has a father, the relationship that each person has with his or her father is different. Some are close to their fathers, while some are distant; some children adore their fathers, while other children despise them. For example, in Robert Hayden’s poem “Those Winter Sundays” Hayden writes about his regret that he did not show his love for his hardworking father sooner. In Sylvia Plath’s “Daddy,” she writes about her hatred for her brute father. Despite both authors writing on the same topic, the two pieces are remarkably different. Sylvia Plath’s “Daddy” and Robert Hayden’s “Those Winter Sundays” have different themes that are assembled when the authors put their different uses of imagery, tone, and characterization together.