Children 's Child Entitlement, Dependency Irresponsibility, Disrespect, And Potentially Poor Relationship Skills

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

The article “Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids” by Mickey Goodman appears on the Huffington Post, an online news aggregator and blog. The author focuses on explaining that children who are allowed to make choices and decisions on their own should be a thing of the past. He also touches on the idea that children learning valuable life lessons in our generation are not getting things done. The article tells the reader that the parents of the children today should prepare their kids for failure in life, and show them how to actually succeed in life without handouts.

Therefore, this lack of maturity leads children to believe everything they hear, stripping them of their independence, instead of independently thinking of something by themselves. Because everything is made more convenient, the demand for items, and more accessible, the kids are easily trained to become consumers by always wanting more.

Children become aware that their feelings and desires are essential and must be accounted for. Growing up in a supportive environment enables children to form open and trusting relationships with their parents. However, sometimes parents fail to meet emotional or physical needs of their children. Through the failure of meeting the child’s need, eventually, leads to a more dysfunctional relationship.

It is good to spoil your children however, things should always be a way that they have to earn what they want and not let things get to a point where these young children are getting pleased with every single thing they want just to impress those who they call their friends and that also don't have the possibility to buy any of the items they have brought to school or to a party. Buying things to impress others isn’t what is going to make you a better person because, all this whole situation does is continue the daily materialistic competition. As I had mentioned before this whole thing can always come down to bullying, discrimination, neglecting, mental issues and can also be suicidal. These are the types of things others don't keep in mind that can end up happening when saying all these rude things or posting all of these rude comments and they don't see the harm they are causing. Having the big obsession of being better than other as well as having better things than others doesn't make anyone a better person but in most cases that is what they think. This just helps prove that people have insecurity problems, and by buying all of these expensive things and being able to go around and show them off to impress others makes people thing they are popular and not put aside by others. The reality of all of this really isn't what ignorant people think of it, everyone should keep in mind that money doesn't buy happiness and having money won’t make us better

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

Letting your child take control is never a good thing. Children’s spoiled behaviors is a very commonly discussed problem amongst parents because children seem to be out of control when it comes to discipline and listening. However, children in America seem to be particularly more spoiled than children in other parts of the world. Why is that? “Spoiled Rotten”, an article written by Elizabeth Kolbert, explains this very issue. American children are spoiled compared to other children around the world because, they take away the authority from their parents, lack discipline, and very little is expected of them.

• Uninvolved parenting: children of uninvolved parents develop a sense that other aspects of the parents’ life are more important than they are. The child often attempt to provide for themselves, sometimes halt dependence on the parent to have a feeling of independence and mature beyond their years. Child from this environment often withdraw from social situations, this also impacts there relationships later on in life and they show patterns of truancy and delinquency.

Kids go off to college, move out and become adults, and some, not exactly. Many adults now are growing up, but still living at home and are dependent on their parents. There are some circumstances with that, but it’s not always the child who is at fault. They are lazy because their parents never taught them responsibility. Some of these “adult children” carry remain dependent on their parents throughout college. An article, “The Why-Worry Generation”

Lahey is correct about how children will be stuck in a “state of helplessness”, which I see every day. Every day at work I witness how children are not able to answer a simple yes or no question without their parent there to guide them. This has caused them to believe they are incapable of being in control of their own lives in a way. Many parents come in asking me if their child did their homework instead of asking the child and holding them accountable for doing it or not. I have witnessed children that know all the answers to a math worksheet but go to their parents for the answers instead of even trying. Children who grow up unprepared for the world are unable to deal with the emotional hardships of not having their parents to lean on every step they are unable to cope with not getting their way. Similarly, Lahey explains how “parents who raise their children in a state of helplessness and powerlessness, children destined to an anxious adulthood, lacking the emotional resources they will need to cope with inevitable setback and failure.”(Lahey 3) If a child is unable to master what I call thick skin when they are young then in the future every little thing will hurt their feelings. Thick skin is made when your parents give you chores and hold you responsible if they are not done. Future adults that had helicopter parents will be unable to put up the dishes without needing reassurance that they are doing it correctly. These parents are ultimately giving their children a false sense of protection for

Expressing love and affection is the most important way to be good parents. Many parents say they love their children more than any parent does, however, their kids complain about less affectionate and less loved parents. Love and affection, when they are not expressed, are worthless.

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to

There is a trophy for everything nowadays. Kids can win an award for being in last place, for doing average in school, for anything really. It’s come to a point where every kid must receive the same treatment, there can’t be any special kids no matter their achievements. With this mentality, parents are setting their kids up for unrealistic situations for when they get older. They won’t be showered with praise once they enter adulthood, they’ll be told to get a job instead. Since children are constantly receiving continuous reinforcement from adults, unrealistic expectations and a sense of entitlement will develop because of it.

Throughout life you will have many relationships with many different people. None of these however are as important as a parent child relationship. A bad experience could ruin it and affect you through the rest of your life. Tension alone between a father and son could make life so miserable that you'd do everything in your power just to avoid that person. This can be very stressful and really affect you in the long run. A good or bad parent child relationship can deal a great impact on the person you become.