Emotional Couples Therapy
Shannon Grosshans
BSHS/385 Interpersonal Communication and Interview Skills
October 6, 2014
Instructor: YVETTE MORELON
Emotional Couples Therapy This is a paper on a video named Emotional Focused Couples Therapy, it is about a couple that is talking to a counseling professional about issues they are having, the biggest one being the husbands anger. Throughout the videos you see how the professional uses the three stages in interviewing to support the couple. She also does a great job on summarizing and paraphrasing what the couple is saying and feeling. The professional uses both open and closed ended questions during the session. There is also a lot of body language happening by everyone involved, some
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Scott do you think that you wife knows how you feel?
11. Do you feel that she does not care in the heat of the moment?
12. Have you ever tried to explain to her how you are feeling?
13. Can you help her understand the feeling of rejection?
14. What is it like to tell her how it makes you feel when you feel rejected?
15. What would be the worst thing that would happen if you told your wife your softer feelings?
16. Would you like to be able to trust your wife and be able to talk about your softer feelings?
17. Would you like him to be able to talk about his softer feelings?
18. Do you let the feelings touch you at all?
19. Do you hear her and find that comforting? (The feelings)
20. What do you think about what he did today? (Opening up during the session.)
This professional has a way that when she is reflecting what the clients are saying and expression she is asking them if she is right and they add to the conversation. Above are some of the separate questions that she was asking during the session. There were very few closed ended questions. She would reflect and they would open up even more.
The professional summarized and paraphrased what the couple was saying many times during the session to make sure that she understood what they were saying is what she was hearing. The professional was very effective in summarizing and paraphrasing the relationship and the feelings that both parties were talking about and
My goals for the session were to introduce myself to the client, understand the client’s concerns, learn her background and current situation for several areas relevant to her life and her concerns, such as medical, family, legal, educational, and vocational. I
During this initial session, the client stated she is seeking counseling to "help find herself" due to some concerns she is dealing with in her personal life. When asked "to describe what does finding herself mean" the client was unable to answer. The client struggled to provide her view or a meaning to certain issues she identified as concerns. The counselor then assesses the client's family and her interactions with her family to find a correlation in her family interaction and what changes she wants to make in her personal life. Initial impression from the counselor is the client is aware of herself and her family and what she views as a positive and negative interaction which has or could impact the way she views things now. The client
I also expressed to her that in my opinion, intimacy is something to cherish, it's showing a level of yourself that no one else has ever seen. It's a beauty that should only be shared between you and your love. I think by upholding myself to these standards in relationships really helped me to excel and succeed in my personal life.
However, she also said that open communication, being professional, and showing empathy were paramount as well. Next, I asked what she considers her strengths to be when working with clients. She stated, that her ability to show empathy and sympathy have been crucial in helping her clients. She also stated, that her life experiences have proven to be beneficial as well. However, she stated, that she does not self-disclose any personal information to clients. She will say, “I have been there too”, or “I know how that feels”, but she will not give personal details or experiences at all. On the other hand, she identified caring too much at times as being a weakness.
6. On Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. (she is wondering if you are a person that needs lots of attention)
of it. She is in full blown rotten teenager mode and has no problem fussing about
By trying to help counsel Sujay and his parents, as a counselor, my first I would take the approach by having them clarify to each other what they anticipate from each other have them to listen, and hold their remarks until the end of each statement. Counselor will have the parents of Sujay to talk about their culture and beliefs to their son, so he can have a clear understanding of his heritage.
Emotionally focused therapy is designed to be short-term in structure. Developed principally by Dr. Susan Johnson, the main target of this type of therapy is couples and is focused on expressing emotions. The primary goal of emotionally focused therapy is to create a safe and long-lasting bond between romantic partners and family members while expanding and restructuring significant emotional responses. Partakers in emotionally focused therapy are emboldened to express their thoughts and emotions in a safe environment without fear of judgment. In this paper, we will discuss a therapy session between Sue Johnson and a couple, Leslie and Scott.
These thoughts/reactions are going to impact my supervision approach in a way that I am making sure that Alan is providing the best services possible to the client and her family, while also making sure he is confident in his abilities in approaching this case.
He spoke about his friend being in relationship and wanting to help her. The pt informed him of the violence his friend experienced. The writer spoke to him about anger management support groups. He was interested in attending.
The case that I will be presenting today is comprised of a married heterosexual couple seeking couple’s therapy. Lisa, 32 year old, Caucasian, female and Cody, 32 year old, Caucasian male have been married for 10 years and currently have two twin boys of the age of two. The couple bought their first house and moved to Turner Falls, Massachusetts from Santa Cruz California a couple of years ago. The move was due to Lisa’s pregnancy, as the two of them wished to be closer to Cody’s family for support.
cover up. Until she is ready to accept everything she fears will happen, her main priority is
I've pictured telling her ever since we were young. This may be the last few times I spend with her until we go off to college and go to different schools in a few months after we graduate in may. I
However, he communicates by using questions with no direction. In the beginning, he asked the client to tell him a little bit, but does not specify what he is wanting to know. And, after listening to this client she could have a wide range of things to talk about. He does not finish questions before changing direction and causing the session to become rambled, for example at one point saying “And, how do you, the reason I would do that.” At another point the client is asking why she should let him in the house and the professional starts with a sentence “Well, that’s a good question because I suppose that you have, it’s good protection for you….”
I particularly like in part two that Rogers discusses the idea of empathy. I have learned that empathy is not just a valuable quality to possess, but that in some ways it is the quality which will make or break your relationship with your client. Empathy to me shows me that you actually "get" what it is that the person is trying to relay to you, it does not mean that you are feeling sorry for them or that you want to know exactly what it is that they are going through, but instead you are willing to look at experiences through their eyes and to see the world as they see it in order to understand their perspective and point of view. Part II also discusses some of the challenges to the helping profession as it was known to him at the publication of this book. Rogers in particular discusses his desire that future psychologist will be born not so much with a standard university idea of what is to be expected in a uniform ideal way, but that they will possess the ability to think on their own and with their own ideas they will be able to reach to a larger population of persons.