Crying Is The Companion Of The Spirit And The Cure Of Soul

Society and culture have created scripts (i.e., social norms) that dictate the ways in which we are to grieve. These scripts also prescribe the unique ways in which men and women are expected to respond to grief. Specifically, men’s grief scripts suggest that men will resolve to grieve in solitude as a demonstration of their self-reliance. Men may also have muted emotional response and expressed emotions are typically in the form of anger or guilt (Martin & Doka, 2011). Comparatively, women’s grief scripts suggest that women are more emotive and seek support from others to help cope with loss (Martin & Doka, 2011).

Males are taught to be tough, and if they do cry they are seen as soft. When Lord Voldemort and his army gather at Hogwarts, Draco Malfoy is seen crying and shuttering among other Hogwarts students at the idea of returning back to the dark side. Malfoy is yelled at by his father for disobeying him and acting inferior when he was asked him to come forth. The scene when Voldemort and his snake kill Snape, Snape is seen crying which generally sparks a lot of emotion for the watcher when seeing a man crying since society makes it a rare occurrence. There should not be an issue with any male expressing what they feel in a moment.

This angered Odysseus, so he decided to participate and show off his masculinity. “Now you have stirred up anger, deep within the breast within me by this disorderly speaking, and I am not such a new hand at games as you say, but always, as I think, I have been among the best when I still had trust in youth, and hands’ strength…”(126) This illustrates the ancient Greek male expectation that is that men are expected to not be weak, but brave, powerful, and strong. The ancient Greeks also had the thought that men had no feelings, meaning men weren’t allowed to show emotion such as crying in public because that was looked as feminine. This ancient Greek male expectation can be seen in “The Odyssey of Homer” by Richmond Lattimore, when Odysseus weeps while listening to a song of the Trojan war. As he is weeping, he is compared to a woman weeping, because weeping publicly is apparently feminine to the ancient Greeks. “So the famous singer sang his tale, but Odysseus melted, and from under his eyes the tears ran down, drenching his cheeks. As a woman weeps, lying over the body of her dear husband, who fell fighting for her city and people…”(134) Odysseus weeps publicly, and because of that he is seen as feminine.

People deal with loss and grief differently. However, such behavioral patterns could differ between different gender groups as their collective norms and values may differ. As dealing with loss and grief is an inevitable part of our experience, we must acknowledge those differences and learn to work with our partners in life. In the short story “Marzipan” the author Aimee Bender examines the roles loss and grief played in the two genders. While loss and grief usually cause passive and incommunicable emotions among men, women opt for disguising their emotions. Those stereotypical views about gender distinction, are supported and enforced by the traditional family structure reconstructed by the

We see a silence in several women today by looking at their swollen eyes and their cold and startled behavior that they are traumatized by their own husbands. Solnit expresses, "Every woman knows what I’m talking about. It’s the presumption that makes it hard,

Although Barry and Tannen have taken different approaches to examine the differences between men and women, as Barry’s point was based on housework while Tannen’s discussion mainly focused on communication, it should be noted that both of them agreed on the opinion that men and women are quite different from each other, especially in terms of emotions and feeling. Barry and Tannen pointed out that women are more inclined to share their feelings and emotions while men are not. In Barry’s article, he has been quite specific about this point by saying that “some women (and here I am referring to my wife) can share as many as three days’ worth of feelings about an event that take eight seconds to actually happen. We men, on the other hand, are reluctant to share our feelings, in large part because we often don’t have

Inference: Character is crying at the thought of not crying because he fears he has no compassion or emotions.

As a therapist, having self awareness can help to determine if crying may be helpful or harmful in specific situations. While crying may be helpful for the therapeutic process, it could also potentially cause more damage.

The lessons began at his mother’s funeral when he was nine. Real men don’t cry. As he stood over his mother’s casket, tears glistening on his eyelashes, he pleaded with them to remain there, prayed that his father would not notice his weakness in this moment. Standing above his mother, he realized how, if he ignored the preacher and his surroundings, he could pretend she was merely sleeping, blissfully dreaming. At his side, his sister sniffled while

For example, when Ponyboy’s friend is in the hospital, he thinks to himself on page 129 “We couldn’t get along without him. Don’t start crying, I commanded myself. don’t start crying, you’ll scare Johnny” Ponyboy tried his very best to hide his emotions and stay strong for his dying friend, not wanting to make him sad at the sight of him crying. Also when Eadlyn’s mother got a heart attack, on page 340, “I let myself cry, not concerned with pride”. She was incredibly worried about her mother, she naturally ignored her pride that she normally put every ounce of energy into keeping, because she was so afraid that she may lose her.

“The best time to cry is at night, when the lights are out and someone is being beaten up and screaming for help” (Myers 1).

These weeping scenes all convey how crying is a human sensation caused by suffering. Monica “wept for [Augustine] before [God] more than mothers weep when lamenting their dead children” once Augustine announced his lack of faith in Catholicism (Conf. 3.19). She wept because of the lack of spiritual guidance her son was receiving from God. Monica used this mortal emotion in an attempt to get God to listen to her and grant her prayer, which was to see her son follow Catholicism. Monica also “wept and lamented” when Augustine left for Rome by deceiving her (Conf. 3.15). She was suffering because “she loved to have [Augustine] with her” and Augustine left her in Carthage. Again, this act of weeping illustrates a mortal suffering created by physical or spiritual loss.

“The woman kept on crying” (10) – this ability to experience and express emotions is shown as something both the protagonists in both novels - The Metamorphosis written by Franz Kafka and The Stranger by Albert Camus – lack. Women are usually portrayed as the element of society who are more likely to show this ability which connects them to the world surrounding them and keeps them (and men) from being “strangers” to society. The protagonists have especial difficulties relating to women in a profound level because of their lacking this ability. Their relationship with women symbolizes their relationship with

In a romantic relationship, it is easy to have miscommunication between a man and a woman. “Most researchers agree that 70% or more of the meaning of any message is communicated through nonverbal channels like eye contact, facial expressions, posture, hand gestures, etc.” (Stinnett, 2015). Verbal and nonverbal messages are like a relationship, they work well together that way the message is sent and delivered appropriately and that there is no miscommunication. Women have their way of expressing themselves to their boyfriend, fiancé, and or husband and vice versa for men. This paper will focus on the varying behavior of gender in expressing the different type of emotions using nonverbal communication in a romantic relationship. Following

The Great Heros from Homer’s epics can be easily separated in their ways of emotional responses. Looking solely at emotional responses, one can see that the Iliad’s hero Achilles displays his’ emotions far stronger than Odyssey’s hero Odysseus. A perfectly illustrated example of how fiercely emotional Achilles is can be located on the first line of the Iliad, where it states “ the anger of Achilles son of Peleus, that brought countless ills upon the Achaeans. Many a brave soul did it send hurrying down to Hades, and many a hero did it yield a prey to dogs and vultures” (Iliad line 1). Achilles rage will send many a brave soul to Hades... The first line states the Achilles is unable to control his emotions at all. The first line almost suggests that Achilles is emotionally unstable. While Achilles is emotionally unstable the other Greek hero is almost in complete control of his emotions. This article named “Where does Odysseus show Emotion” and by