In the article “dangerous curves” by Eve Golden, she talks about five different categories of women that are distractive when matched together with any man. She uses expert advice from psychiatrist Dr. Pittman and gives examples from personal friend’s experiences. Out of the five dangerous curves the most lethal appears to be the damsel in distress because she is psychotic and will ruin your life. The damsel in distress is the girl that always wants to be rescued even when there is now rescuing to be done; she just wants to feel taken care of. They put it in their heads that something is always wrong with their lives; these women are psychotic. Golden describes her as “she’s the women you see on those made for TV movies starring Barry Bostwick …show more content…
He started stressing out and his grades started to slip. A year later he finds out that his damsel was cheating on him and one day she started packing her bags to move in with her new boyfriend. He felt so bad for the guy; he had no idea what he was getting into. When the whole ordeal was over Paul wish he never would have rescued that woman. She ruined his live by taking his money and delaying his education. He had hoped by this year he would be working for engineering company but now he has to wait two more years to finish school. In the article we learn these women are usually out for mature men who are already in relationships. Dr. Pittman says “These women are the sort of people who fall into affairs with married men”. The problem with damsels in distress is that they are too busy worrying about being saved and feeling taken care of, that they don’t realize the lives and family’s they could be hurting by steeling someone’s husband. These women are destructive and will destroy your life. While you think you may be saving her little do you know that eventually she will be weighing you down and taking to rock bottom along with her. No relationship should be worth your own life and future. We learn first hands from Rick one of Golden’s friend and he said “If there is a problem, get out early before it starts to affect your psyche”
Although Paul does not allow the accident to take over his life, he does change because of it. The accident leaves Paul to be a lot more cautious and more worry-some. Despite his cautious personality, he finds himself trying new things and taking risks because of Finnie. "...Without Finnie Walsh, I
Paul marries Rachel not too long after they meet and are expecting a child. The Revere's are living during the Revolutionary War. Paul has to make weekly trips to different places, and sometimes gets captured, an example is when he went to Castle Island. In the rain, Sarah waits in the rain, but Dr. Warren found her. Rachel sent him to look for her. Sarah has been suspicious of the relationship of Dr. Warren and Rachel, and yells at him about how he shouldn't be flirting with friend’s pregnant wife. He denies what
danger and in need of help, and she gives her help despite the risks that come with it.
the love and care he unknowingly needs. Paul takes on roles that disguise his own traits and turns him into what he believes to be a person nobody can say no to. When he takes on these roles, he
There are set expectations for women in a patriarchal society that portray them as someone who should be submissive and loyal to the men in their lives. In this society women are viewed as damsels in distress who constantly need a male figure to save them. It is a society where the male has most of the power and will constantly silence the woman if she tries to break free. Men crave power and to achieve that they treat women as objects. Although these stories start off with the men in command, they end with the women gaining power through their voice and agency. By gaining this power women can take control of their lives and make decisions without the male silencing or interrupting them. Love Suicide at Amijima and A Dolls House are two stories that show women taking control and using their voice to not only help themselves but to also help their families. Both women, Osan and Nora Telmer, step out of the submissive wife norm and overcome the obstacles they faced in a patriarchal society.
Paul is not able to perform his job well due to, in his opinion, being tired. The conversations with his wife that replays in his thoughts show how he is conflicted at home. He apparently does not have a strong, supportive home environment. The case study also shows that he does not receive
Such circumstances, causes the woman to fall into a deeper depression because she feels trapped and lonely.
“ ‘So you figured it would be better if I just hated myself?’ ” (265). This is important because he hates being blind, especially since he doesn’t know why he was blind. He’s not allowed on his school soccer team and his brother bullies him about it. She had good intentions, but now Paul has to go through the process of finding it out himself.
He understands the hardships of marriage by saying “I think it’s fairly well established by now that marriage is a challenge, a creaky, old institution that may not have fully adapted itself to modern life, one that now fails in this country more often than not. Put children in the picture and you have an exponentially higher degree of difficulty” (439). He also understands the troubles caused from motherhood by saying “Motherhood asks the modern woman, who has grown up seeing professional success as hers for the taking, to add the loss of a linear career path to an already considerable burden: child rearing, body issues, a shifting self-image and a husband who fell off his white horse long, long ago. I suppose this would make anyone angry” (439). So although he does not approve of her anger and is not pleased by it, he understands why she might have so much built up anger that she feels the need to take out on her husband. Again, it seems he is blaming society’s standards and stereotypes instead of taking responsibility for his part in the struggling
Paul is one of the main characters in the story and we see in full detail how he as an individual and in his relationship with his wife is affected by the storm. He is married to Ellen and they have a baby boy. As the wind storm rages on, as if it never sleeps,
She wants to please the man and is willing to put her own feelings aside to make sure he is happy. I feel like she is depressed and overwhelmed.
Eve Golden distinguishes women in five different categories called “curves” in which men should avoid at all costs. The first type of women Golden categorizes is the Damsel in Distress. The Damsel in Distress it the type of woman who thinks she is being consistently emotionally abused and is usually accompanied by many problems. The Smoother is the type of woman who takes the responsibilities of a mother figure in a male 's life. The Chameleon is the type of woman who evolves into having the exact same interests as her boyfriend. The Uptown Girl is the type of woman who is beautiful and sweet, but out of your league. Lastly, the Cruise Director is the type of woman who is always on top of all necessities and likes to be in charge. Golden distinguishes these women as being lethal and precautions to men who want to find an “ideal girl”. Although these five types of women are dangerous, the Cruise Director is the least harmful. The Cruise Director is the most innocuous of Golden’s “Curves” because she is organized and a dependable partner.
As humans begin to pursue their passions, there often comes a time when that pursuit becomes detrimental to their life. This is true in the cases of the characters in these stories. As Paul
Every person is entitled to his or her own personal ways of life to become his or her own individual. However, some people have unbalanced roles in life between themselves and their couple. The women in the relationship tend to be the persons who get manipulated into just providing and satisfying their significant other’s needs. This ongoing unbalance between the sexes, has been happening since forever and women feel secure when being together with a man. Mrs. Ames from Astronomer’s wife and Jig from Hills like White Elephants are both women who have depended on a man for secureness but with ambiguous communication, these women are finding affection elsewhere.
help of another person (This stoic male' ideal has lead to the downfall of many