There are varying types of relationships that occur in our lives. These relationships can be with our friends, family, coworkers, classmates, and acquaintances. Not all of these relationships are good relationships. Even the relationships that we think are good can quickly or gradually change and fall into a bad relationship. Many theories have been established to help people navigate their way through it. Better yet by improving their relationships or terminating it. I will explain my own relationship that appears to have digressed to more of an acquaintances. My relationship is based on friendship that I have had with a guy named Ryan since I was 3 or 4 years old. We first met each other as little kids at the church nursery. As we grew …show more content…
We both wanted to be Fire Fighters. That fact that there was a group of us who didn’t want to go to college at all, but wanted a form of a trade, which only increased our friendship. It seemed like within this small group of friends we would hang out together forever. However, everything changed when my brother and I moved into our own place in High School. We developed this independence that most kids our age didn’t get to feel yet. Ryan happened to be the only other guy among our friends of achieving financial independence and leaving home. Once we graduated our class went on their senior trip while my brother, Ryan and I immediately attended PCC EMT certification program. We bonded a little more during that because we were the only three that didn’t go. But things didn’t seem to take the course that we thought that it would. After the first month (honeymoon stage) we started to notice things about each other that we never knew about. Tom and I enjoy socializing but we truly enjoyed our privacy and isolation. Ryan turned out was a very socially needy individual. After class we would go home and we would study and eat something. He always liked to cook, and made bizarre dishes. He would always ask us to taste. I would always decline because in my mind if I wanted it I would ask for some. He would say he was insulted in a jokingly manner but later he would say that it truly bothered him. After EMT school we were all working during the rest of the
We only wanted to spend time with each other, making social relationships outside ours difficult. Spending so much time together brought our first conflicts. I soon learned topical boundaries when bringing up other guys or discussing our different religions made John angry and uncomfortable. Conversations ended abruptly and we did not revisit the sensitive topics until much later. As our relationship moved beyond involvement, his protective instincts overpowered everything. I initially welcomed this protection as a sign of caring since I always wanted a boyfriend to protect me from conflict, just like in the movies. However, this overprotective trend stifled me whenever my communications with another guy made John jealous and upset. He tested my feelings for him by manipulating guilt when I looked in the direction of another guy, for whatever reason. At the time, I ignored his jealousy because my strong feelings for him overshadowed my needs as an individual. Looking back, I realize our involvement intensified throughout this period of our relationship, for better and worse.
Biological factors are something that contributes hugely to the formation and maintenance of relationships- whether it is romantic, friendly or family related. Many researchers have conducted studies in which they have attempted to try and explain the link between biological factors and human relationships. I am going to specifically focus on Bowlby’s study on the role of hormones in bonding, Buss’ study on women jealousy and its relation to estrogen levels, Fishers study on the brain and its role in romantic relationships, and Marazziti who studied the effect of serotonin on love obsession. These studies will help me show the role that biological factors have in human relationships in both the development and maintenance of them.
It is often said that all good things come to an end. Relationships come and go, and some mean more than others. In fact, there was even a relationship model developed by a communication researcher by the name of Mark Knapp. In his model, he goes through what seems to be presented as a smooth step transition from each stage in which a relationship eventually evolves into. As I studied this up then down ladder model, I began to realize that I ought to build up some strong calf muscles, because my relationship sure has climbed up and down a few flights of stairs. Mark Knapp believes that relationships go through multiple stages, the uphill stages being initiation, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding, then relational maintenance. On the flip side, Knapp believes the descending stages to be differentiating, circumscribing, avoiding, and eventually, termination.
In a developmental perspective of relational dynamics, communications researcher Mark Knapp, developed a model of relation stages. In Knapp’s model, he included 10 stages, within 2 broad phases, “coming together” at the beginning of the relationship and “coming apart” at the end. The first phases encompasses the first 5 stages, the last phase includes the last 5. However, other researchers have suggested that a third phase, “relational maintenance,” should be included. This stage encompasses the fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh stages. These ten stages are as follows.
Things were going great for Colton and me and then I received the shock of my life.
The most common relationship problems are those between couples. Having intense feelings for another, being deeply or passionately in love with someone is sheer joy. However, when troubles arise, is can be devastating. Whether the relationship is strong because of passion, comfort or admirable qualities such as commitment towards each other, it leaves a feeling of disappointment when there is a disturbance that appears as a flaw in this perfect affair of the heart. Depending on what the problems are,
Relationships are hard and can be very painful sometimes. But, why? Are we just unlucky when it comes to making relationships? Or is the second party of the relationship at fault? Dr. Gary Smalley remarkably explains key concepts that could solve many relationship issues in his book The DNA of Relationships.
The summer between our sophomore and junior year of high school, we started officially dating. After junior year, Theo dual enrolled in college and that was when everything changed. I went from seeing him every day to then only seeing him once a week. Once we graduated high school we both ended up going in different directions for college. In high school, Theo became very interested and involved in the welding program. After taking a few classes, he decided that he wanted to get a certification. Unsure what I wanted to do, I decided that going to a small school close to home was the best option for me. The adjustment was anything but easy for both of us.This was all a huge shock for our relationship because we went from talking online, to seeing each other everyday, then to never seeing each other because we decided to go to different colleges and pursue our dreams.
”(O’Hair 5) There are many different types of relationship, relationships between parents and children and relationships between friends are
Just as self concept seemed a vicious circle, where this affects that and that effects this; relational development is the same. Relational development can alter our lives and our communication, while communication issues can alter our relational development and our lives. The relational perspective is a pragmatic one and focuses on the continuance of communication processes through relationships. (Rogers, 2004.) Relationships go through a series of stages. The initial and first encounter to a relationship is called the initiating stage. While in this stage, two people attempt to create favorably impressionable first impressions. In this stage you will look for cues about the other person’s personality, attitude, beliefs, and values so that you can progress the relationship. If the relationship continues and impressions are favorable than the two people move to the second stage, also known as the experimenting stage. In this stage people reveal themselves further but not completely since the stage is still a precarious one. If a common ground and understanding of each other is obtained then the relationship moves to the next stage, the intensifying stage. In this stage shared experiences becomes common and self disclosure is open. The next stage is the integrating stage, this is where the individuals usually become a couple. They have shared interests and attitudes, and sometimes talk or act alike. The other individual becomes like your other half. If things go awry than relationships often shift to the circumscribing stage. This is when couples start to self disclose less and less to the other person. Then comes the stagnating stage. At this point there is no communication and no activity between the two people. Sometimes there is an
There is a variety of relationships that a person experiences in a lifetime. A relationship is something that connects two or more people emotionally, mentally or physically. Relationships can be with family, friends, a significant other, and co-workers. Some relationships can help boost self-confidence and self-worth if the relationship goes well or ends well. Although some relationships can tear a
Mark Knapp developed a theoretical model to which identifies the stages of interpersonal relationships which explains how relationships begin and grow, as well as how they deteriorate and end. This model defines ten separate stages of relational development under three different interrelating categories; Coming Together, Relational Maintenance, and Coming Apart. An analysis of a personal relationship through the use of Knapp’s stages of relational development leads to a better understanding of that relationship and our role within it. In this essay I will be analyzing a personal relationship of my own using Knapp’s stages as a guide. However, these stages are subjective to each individual’s unique situation. Therefore, I will only be examining my relationship in the “coming together” stages. Furthermore, it is possible to pass over or amalgamate stages, as these stages are closer to a guide rather than set rules. For this analysis I will be breaking the “coming together” stages into initiating, experimentation and intensifying, integration, and bonding.
Knapp’s Relational Model is the holy grail when it comes to interpersonal relationships, whether they be new or old. The model defines different stages of a relationship and at which one’s the relationship is coming together or falling apart. Furthermore, many things in life can bring two people together, it can be a positive experience in life or a negative one. My best friend Kenna and I met in eighth grade, we both loved the band One Direction, from there we were inseparable. Now we can know what each of us are thinking using nonverbal communication, which happens a lot in our relationship, the interpersonal attraction towards one another also had an effect on if maybe we were meant to be friends or not.
After our relationship moved beyond involvement, his protective instincts overpowered everything. I actually welcomed this protection as a sign of his caring for me since I always wanted a guy to protect me from conflict, just like in the movies. However, this overprotection stifled me and made me feel guilty whenever my communications with another guy made John jealous and angry. He tested my feelings for him by making me feel guilty about even looking in the direction of other guys. At the time, I ignored his jealousy because my strong feelings for him overshadowed my own needs as an individual. Looking back, I realize our involvement actually intensified, for the better and the worse.
Some relationships are fleeting, some long; some are intense, others comfortable; some are explosive, others