Healthy Grief
Grand Canyon University: HLT-310V
Healthy Grief Grief is a process that most everyone will go through at some point in his life. A person who is experiencing grief may have suffered loss of a loved one, loss of a job, or diagnosis of a terminal illness. The five stages of grief as described by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in 1969 have helped in defining the steps one may go through after experiencing a loss. Every person has his own response to grief, so he may not go through every stage. This paper will examine the story of Job from the Bible and will compare his grieving process to that as defined by Kubler-Ross. The grieving process of the Jewish believer will also be discussed as well as this author’s thoughts on grief.
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Before the loss of a loved one, a person may bargain with God saying that they will do anything if only their loved one’s life would be spared. After the loss, the hope is that life will go back to what it was before, and may include more bargaining with God (Kessler, 2012). Bargaining is seen through Job when he is visited by his friends who point out to him that he is being judged by God. He begs his friends to tell him what he is doing wrong and then bargains with God, pleading with Him to tell him what he is doing wrong (Lyon, 2000). The fourth stage is depression. The grieving person may feel empty, withdrawn, and sad, and this stage may seem to last a long time (Kessler, 2012). Depression is seen throughout the story of Job. It is seen in several places including chapter three and chapter ten when Job is talking to God and asking Him why he was ever born; why did God not let him die at birth (Life Application, Job 3 & 10) The final stage in grieving is acceptance. Acceptance does not mean that the loss is now okay, because many people may never feel okay about the loss. Acceptance means that there has been a realization that the loved one is gone, that this is the way life will be now. Life must be readjusted in hopes of having more good days than bad days (Kessler, 2012). Job’s acceptance is seen in chapter 13 as he speaks and argues his case with God. He seems to have accepted the events that have taken place, but now wants to speak to God to find out how
The human experience is what connects people to one another. What we experience defines who we are and who we become. It also defines how we interact with others. The amazing thing is that not only do the events that bring joy, peace and happiness connect us but also those that bring anxiety, fear and despair. This brings to light the fact that God somehow in his sovereignty uses all things for the good of those who love Him. These ideas are brought to light in Jerry Sittser’s book, A Grace Disguised which is his personal journey of loss and the insight and experience that was gained in the face of great tragedy. In his book, Sittser discusses various insights he has gained, such as how Christian’s view sorrow, how families recover when
When one is faced with grief, an individual must go through all of the five stages, whether it is for a brief or extended period of time in order to reach the final stage of acceptance. Denial is the first logical stage that one feels when trying to cope with trauma because it feels safe to trick oneself into thinking that the event did not actually occur. Anger follows when the individual realizes that the trauma did occur and there is nothing to make it better. Depression is the third stage in the grief process in which one feels helpless and dark with nowhere to run. The fourth stage of the grief process is bargaining which is when one will try to find an alternative way to cope with or get out of the situation. Acceptance is the final
I think one of the first clear signs of the five stages of grief that we see in this film is right after Chris played by Robin Williams is killed and his spirit is walking around the wake. He keeps asking Cuba Gooding Junior’s character Albert why he can see everyone else so clearly but Albert himself seems to be blurry and non-distinct. The character Albert alludes to the fact that he simply does not want to see him. This is the first stage of grief denial were Robin Williams as character is denying the fact that he has passed on and cross over to the other side. Another section of the film early on we see the second stage of grief from the character of Anna Collins Nielsen played by Annabella Sciorra is writing in her diary and
The Denial and Anger Stage begins early in the grieving process (Manning, 2011). Denial is the way a person responds to disbelief or shock and is used as a coping mechanism. Anger is when a person gets mad at God or another person. The Bargaining Stage is a cycle that deals with grief, however, it can also be seen as an effort to reason with whom or what facilitated the loss, and it may be linked with denial. The Depression Stage is a psychological side effect of loss. However, grieving is a normal part of depression, but for long periods of time, it can result in long term depression. The last stage is Acceptance or Resolution Stage which is the end of your mourning period. There is no specific time frame to end grieving because every individual
Chapter 10 begins with Job wallowing in self-pity. Often when we face suffering in our lives, we tend to start feeling sorry for ourselves as well. We can become self-righteous and start to point at God for our misfortune.
Everyone at some point in life grieve over the loss of someone or something special in their life. The loved one can be a parent, child, friend, relationship, pregnancy or a pet. There are also times when people grieve over their failing health, loss of job, houses, finances, and even loss of limbs. Such people should not be ignored. At times people tend to deny grieving to avoid pain but it is healthy to accept the loss and go through the grieving process. According to Kubler-Ross, Grieving process follows a natural cycle of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance (Kübler-Ross, 1969). Hoping that with these stages making us better equipped to cope with life and loss. In the Bible, Job a wealthy man experiences
This first stage helps us survive the loss and grief. In this stage we find it hard to process the cause of grief/loss and often become numb. We also experience shock along with the grief/loss.
The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance all of which are displayed by Everyman as he goes along his journey. He shows denial with the quote “O Death, thou comest when I had thee least in mind!” (Line 119). He does not believe that he should be called to heaven as he is not finished living out his days on earth. Anger is displayed as he tries to reiterate to Death that he cannot purchase his life back from Death, “Alas, shall I have no longer respite?
Life is often eventful and it is hard to understand. Even when your life seems amazing for a moment, it can escalate fast. Terrible things happen to everyone, even those who don’t seem to deserve it. It is hard to stay positive and focus on God in these moments because the pain can outweigh the prize. I decided to do my paper on Job because I find Job 's life similar to mine. There is times in my life that I don’t understand what God is doing, times I 've asked what I 've done to deserve the suffering and the weight of catastrophes in life. Job is inspirational in these moments because he encourages the understanding that God 's power is so great, no person can justify his ways. Job taught me to trust God despite what we think is
One key assumption made by the author would be that the grief experienced from the loss of a loved one is of the same level as that of the loss of a job or organization. (Dean A. Shepherd, 2003) The loss of a loved one is more likely to impact one deeper, which will then lead to greater sense of grief, thus leading to a different length of time for recovery. Therefore it is not feasible to use these two instances to draw conclusions on how the workplace could serve as part of the healing process, in terms of providing meaning. In addition, there is also the underlying assumption that the provision of personal and corporate help to grieving employees translates to a “more successful organization”. Even though the provision of help may enable one to recover faster from the grief, it does not necessary improve the company to be more successful as the employee may just return to his original state of efficiency.
One thing all living creatures have in common is grief. All living things experience grief but copes with it differently. Grief affects every living thing in either a positive or a negative perspective. When an individual grieves it triggers a variety of emotions such as anger, sadness, or afraid. It is not always an easy moment to overcome, but sometimes having enough support will make things seem easier. This paper will explore one of the most sensitive losses I have experienced so far, how I handled the grief and my recovery process.
The “five stages of grief” is a model in which a person supposedly goes through when they are in despair. The stages are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, in that order. But, grief is a natural human emotion, and there are almost 7.5 billion people on earth, so does each individual person really follow this system? According to Grief Is the Thing with Feathers, by Max Porter, it appears not, as the book gives the readers three characters that are mourning, with each of them having their own way of struggling with the sadness. Porter portrays the three wounded characters’ grief through the use of disconnecting stories to suggest that grief is taken differently for each individual.
Job’s situation and God himself. Job did so; the friends did not, suggesting that, in
As the prologue drew to a close, Job acknowledged that all he had was from the hand of God, and that
This book is trying to teach us, the readers, that there are five main stages that help us cope with a death of someone close or somebody that is going to die.