Every now and then, we hear worried parents give a call to university officers, asking them to take care of their children. Additionally, some of them compel their children to make decisions based on what the parents want, believing that children are not mature enough and that it is the shortcut for their children to succeed. Whether helicopter parents should be a serious issue has raised a wide of variety of debate in society. In my viewpoint, helicopter parents have become a severe problem nowadays. The first reason is that parents are more apt to intervene in their children’s lives than before due to circumstance, so there are more helicopter parents than before. The second reason is that those children with helicopter parents are inclined to have mental problems, rely on others more, and are vulnerable compared to normal children. Once they leave their parents, they are not capable of solving problems by themselves, and hence, cannot adapt themselves to the competitive environment and lose the opportunity to succeed. There is a controversy over whether helicopter parents are prevalent. In the articles “Kids of Helicopter Parents Are Sputtering Out” by Julie Lythcott-Haims, the author believes helicopter parents widely exist owing to the fact that she has met numerous students who did not show interest in their study or activities, while serving as a dean in Stanford University. They did so not because of their own will but because of the requirement from their parents.
Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.
This effect of helicopter parenting dominates the others, because it has been studied most recently, and is a common issue that colleges are having to act upon on a regular basis. Parents, helicopter or not, should be addressed of the matter, because it is a parenting style that is becoming more and more popular, yet parents often struggle to understand the serious effects it could have on their children, or even themselves. In terms of future research, scholars should consider completing more scientific studies on the effects of helicopter parenting, because many college level sources base their data off of previous investigation results. Specifically, more scientific data should be collected to prove the effects of helicopter parents on college students during the transition from high school to college. The concept of helicopter parenting will most likely continue for many generations, and it is imperative that parents recognize the effects of it, both positive and
Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A
Helicopter parents hyper-involved in their children's life negatively affect them. A concerned mother’s letter explains why she disagreed with the new parent involvement policy of her son’s middle school. However, I oppose her position because, constant supervision results in hindered independence of children . Most importantly, preventing children from learning to manage their conflicts or learn from mistakes means they lack the skill to deal with them. Hovering parents disrupts the classroom, despite the appreciation of parent volunteers on the campus.
Throughout the history of mankind, one thing has separated us humans from animals, which is parenting. In today’s world, you will not find any other animal that will take care of it’s offspring for 18 plus years, well except for bonobo monkeys. Now it is normal for parents to keep their kids from childbirth till the end of their education. However this brings up the question on where to draw the line, and what is the right way to raise a kid. There is one type of parenting that goes beyond the call of duty and it is called helicopter parenting. A brief description of helicopter parenting is basically a parent who is over protective and pays extreme close attention to their child’s life. Although helicopter parenting has some positive
Regardless of who you are or where you come from there’s one instrumental factor we all share. We all were raised by a parent, parents, or guardian that was key in who we became. While like many things Americans cannot seem to agree on which stratagem is best in child rearing it is indelible that the common goal of every parent is for their son or daughter to succeed and find happiness in life. However, this has given rise to some extreme forms of parenting producing helicopter parents and tiger moms; Parents that feel the need to control every aspect of their child’s life to either keep them safe or make them the “best” when compared to others. In the end everyone wants to be a good parent, but helicopter parents and other groups like them are, in the long term, hindering more than helping their child towards a successful future.
A parent who takes an overprotected or excessive interest in the life of their child or children are known as “Helicopter parents.” With so much going on in this world there is no question why helicopter parents exist. We have school shootings, police brutality, jobs being outsourced to other countries and sexual violence. Parents want their children to be safe and make sure they will make it in this world but it’s hard when you’re not prepared or you don't know what can happen. Millennials face many challenges and these are just a sum of some of those many challenges
There are two type of Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children. Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting. Begin helicopter parenting is not easily because you have to keep your child’s safe from harmful according to the “Psychotherapy Networker Magazine’s article”, “BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN “by Michael Unger, and “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By (Don Au coin). Unfortunately, there are two families don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of them too much overly involved in children's life and overprotective. Moreover, why is helicopter parenting harmful?
Helicopter parents may be amusing to watch, unless the child of such a parent. Helicopter parents are parents who have the “illusion of control over their children, who may rebel as they grow older and shatter that illusion” (Hewitt). Many parents believe hovering over their children’s activities will benefit the kids in the future. Instead, hovering parents only make the teenagers more likely to rebel than parents who knew when to be involved and when to give their kids distance. In other cases, kids may be left with no self-trust, as children of overprotective parents are often controlled by the parents. Overprotective parenting leaves children unprepared for life; parents should watch but not control their children.
“Just as our ancestors were left to their own devices to survive a hostile world full of wild animals, severe elements of nature, and a decided lack of vocabulary, we, too, are on our own when it comes to surviving today’s hostile world of wild bullies, fatal climate swings, economic stressors, and a persistent overload of information. These issues, along with many others, affect the way in which we parents our children but because we want the best for them and fear the worst if we don’t pull out all the stops, we sometimes succumb to unreasonable and extreme behavior. Despite our best intentions and an untestable desire to do our best for our kids, we can easily succumb to what we call overparenting” (Glass 3). Parenting; it doesn’t come with
Helicopter parenting has gained increasing awareness in popular media, academic literature, and the general population. For example, recently, several popular parenting books have raised awareness about parental over-involvement and how it may be associated with negative outcomes. The term “helicopter parent” was first used in a famous parenting book, Parents & Teenagers by Dr. Haim Ginott in 1969, by teenagers who described their parents as “hovering over them”, like a helicopter. This term refers to a parenting style that is over-focused on children; being involved in a child’s life in ways that are over controlling and overprotective. Lester-Smith defines “helicopter” or overprotective parents as having a “heightened surveillance of their children’s lives” (September 14, 2015), so that children are never allowed to experience risk. This term is commonly applied to parents of college aged or high school students who believe that their children are not capable of doing tasks alone, so they might call a professor about their child’s poor grades or manage their child’s class schedule for them. Schiffrin et al. (2013) emphasize children’s need for autonomy and explain how this need increases over time “as they strive to become independent young adults” (p. 529). Therefore, parents are recommended to “adjust their level of involvement and control to their child’s developmental level” (Schiffrin et al., 2013, p. 529). However, many parents do not make this adjustment, and this
Helicopter parents are no different than normal guardians in which they want to help their child succeed, though what differentiates helicopter parenting between normal parenting is apparent in a child’s growing process. One of the roles to play as a parent is to worry about their children’s potential to solve problems and thrive, though rather than watching their child apply these skills, helicopter parents act upon these concerns and perform the tasks their child should be completing as they grow. As Richard Hofstadter states, “The intellectual lives for ideas; the journeyman lives off them”, in this case, we see those without helicopter parents living as intellectuals. They are able to perform tasks and reach for goals independently with support from their parents encouraging them, but
Within the past several years, I have seen many new ideas and theories as to how children should be reared. One change that I have witnessed firsthand is the difference in the role a parent plays in their child's life. In the article called "Helicopter Parents" Stir up Anxiety, Depression, the ideas expressed were not the same my parents had when raising me. Some of the ideas expressed in said article I resonated with as a child whose parents leaned towards being helicopters while others I did not agree with as wholeheartedly.
The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to
The chosen article in option 5 “ Helicopter parents: An examination of the correlates of over-parenting of college students” researches and discusses the role of over-parenting and parental involvement concerning college students, especially in regards to the implications this has on their experience or potential experience in the workplace and college itself. This research was done by designing an online survey with an interval measurement, which was completed by 482 undergraduate college students of a large public American university. Through this online survey, researchers concluded partial truths in 5 hypotheses. The consensus of these 5 hypotheses included the relationship between parental involvement, over-parenting; and