How Do You Feel About Divorce?

Marriage is a relationship is about coming together in which two people have promised themselves being with each other. However, marriage in the United States has changed in the 1950s from what it is today. Marriage in the 1950s was different because there was no such idea of a divorce because women had to fix their marriage. (Tartakovsky). Yet, marriage that occurs today people can get a divorce in America. Marriage is better today in America than in the 1950s because of more freedom and not being pressured into marriage in society. This time period 2015 for me is more preferable to live in for marriages instead of in the 1950s. Although marriage is a union between two people, there is a

In “For better, for worse: Marriage means something different now,” Stephanie Coontz reveals the worldwide changes in people’s attitudes and behaviors towards marriage. According to Coontz, education and the social norms are the reasons why marriage has become nonessential. Being single and going through a divorce are more acceptable now. The motivations of marriage have turned from economic dependence into personal willingness. In fact, Coontz’s words make me wonder the true meaning of marriage. Even though the meaning has changed over times, I believed that I still hope to get married.

Kurt Gray Chapter 10 Jesus taught about divorce was that when marrying the create a bond so so strong that it is “one flesh”, divorcing breaks this bond. Also once a person divorces and marries again, this a form of adultery. Jesus prioritizes children they are the future and they understand God.

The modern family is a family who associates with each other but they do not spend an efficient amount of time with each other as a priority and often puts themselves before each other. According to Kingslover, “That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.” Kingslover is talking about divorce and he puts it into practical words that makes others think about what divorce is. In today’s world, divorce is very common and is sad, because according to the Bible when the decision is made to get marries, the two people have to work things out. Matthew 5:31-32,“It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” This verse is what most people today are doing. They are having sexual affairs with other people and then get a divorce and that is a sin. They also are looking to television shows as the fairy tale marriage and expecting marriage to be just like what is shown on tv. Divorce was something taken seriously but now it is a common way for people who want out. Sinning is very common today, from lying, stealing, adultery and murder. These are all sins that are becoming middling each and every day. What kind of world is the world turning into? It is scary to think about and to think about what the world is going to be like in 25

Divorce is viewed differently by many people. Sometimes this is due to experiences, what others have said, or looking at studies that are not always accurate. However, not everyone can have the same views about marriage ending in divorce. In the article, “No Easy Answers: Why the Popular View of Divorce Is Wrong” by Constance Ahrons she shows her view on divorce. Ahrons believes that divorce does not have long-lasting damaging effects on children (65). Divorce can affect children in the family but the way the decisions are made is what will change the way the kids are influenced.

According to Köstenberger and Jones, God, Marriage, and Family, the western civilization is confronted with the need to define the meaning of the terms marriage and family (. p.15). I do believe that we as people got away from the design God intended for marriage and family. I never grew up with my father in the home and my parents never were married. My mother did marry but I never saw their marriage the way God intended for marriage and family to be according to His Word. The home was so dysfunctional that I developed emotional problems that carried into my adult life. As an adult I never knew I had problems until I got married myself. Even in my marriage it was not geared to what God intended. My ex-husband grew up with his father and mother in the home but did not learn about marriage and family God’s way. His father was very abusive to his mother and it was carried into our home. Both of us has two different beliefs on marriage and family. He believed that the wife has no voice and she

Being married to one person for over twenty years is treated as a rare occurrence, something that has been rumored to be possible but is largely thought to be unattainable. Being in a relationship used to be seen as a prelude to marriage, and marriage itself had a certain sanctity that was protected by society in general. On the other hand, relationships can mean a number of things today. Two people will enter into a relationship because they are insecure, to avoid loneliness, to rebound from a previous relationship, or to simply enjoy the companion without any consideration of the future; beginning a relationship with the hope that it will lead to marriage is extremely uncommon. “[I]n earlier days going steady had been more like the old-fashioned 'keeping steady company.' It was a step along the path to marriage, even if many steady couples parted company before they reached the altar. By the early 1950s, going steady had acquired a totally different meaning. It was no longer the way a marriageable couple signaled their deepening intentions. Instead, going steady was something twelve-year-olds could do, and something most fifteen-year-olds did do. Few steady couples expected to marry each other, but for the duration of the relationship, acted as if they were married. Going steady had become a sort of play-marriage, a mimicry of actual marriage. (Bailey p.

In the dictionary divorce is described as the following: A judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part; one that releases a husband and a wife from all matrimonial obligations.2 Although, divorce in the Bible is described as something that God detest, it is also something that God does allow under special circumstances. In the Old Testament, men abused those special circumstances and obtained divorces from their spouses under ridiculous circumstances. In the New Testament, Jesus makes it very clear on what are the circumstances that God does allow a divorce to take place, but He does not say that it’s a mandatory issue.

As human civilization advances, the more tolerant society has become to behaviors that used to be regarded as appalling and immoral. One of these behaviors is becoming divorced. According to a recent guidebook for couples who are in the midst of a divorce or considering divorce, 70% of Americans believe that divorce is a morally acceptable choice (Hawkins, 2009). This new understanding of divorce has played a significant role in the choice that many Americans have made to separate from their spouse. According to researchers in the United States 40%-50% of first marriages and 60% of second marriages will end in separation (Hawkins, 2009). Married couples in the United States are finding it difficult to remain committed to their spouses and it 's resulting in many failed relationships. Unless American citizens have a major epiphany about the foundation of marriage, the high divorce rate in the United States will continue and could escalate even higher in the next few decades for a variety of reasons including religion, finances, and adultery.

A quote from a famous American author, Mark Twain says “Love seems the swiftest but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.” The definition of marriage varies with cultures and views. The most popular and idealistic notion is that it’s a result from the unconditional love of two people wanting to share it for the rest of their life, in a committed and long bonding way. For some, however, marriage is more of an economical arrangement, a pact for two people to help and catch each other when the other one fall. And for others, it is just a paper that one can throw away if not needed, or by simple saying, marriage is not important.

Looking at Marriage today, as the age of enlightenment has hit America, Timothy Keller says in his book The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God, “Marriage was seen as a contract between two parties for mutual individual growth and satisfaction. In this view, married persons married for themselves, not to fulfill responsibilities to God or society.” Although marriage is only between two people, the concepts can be applied to any community, as God ordained marriage as the holy community, sealed by and through him. Marriage is supposed to be all about serving one another, and growing spiritually and morally through the years, not about feeding off of sexual gains and other individual desires. This is why divorce rates are so high, and why so many fights happen. It is because America has lost the definition and beauty of marriage, as it is often portrayed as a trap, or a “settle down” type thing. Not at all, because marriage is all about spiritual growth through each other and the

There are fundamental differences between a God-made marriage and a man-made marriage. Marriage is a reflection of God’s love and Christ’s relationship with the church is likened to a marriage. You cannot take God out of marriage because marriage was His idea. It is difficult to manage what you did not create. Just as a car cannot run without an engine, a marriage cannot work without God and His principles. He is the only One able to help you manage your life and your marriage effectively. God started by saying “It is not good for a man to be alone…” What God intends for every married couple is a marriage of unending love, joy, peace and fruitfulness. God never intended for marriages to fail. His plan is for marriages to last until death do us part. Marriage is God’s idea and divorce is man’s idea. Since marriage is God’s idea, He alone has the power and tools to keep it. God says He hates divorce, not the people getting the divorce. Why? Because Divorce is devastating for everyone involved, especially the children and the consequences often last a lifetime. God hates to see what Divorce does to lives and families which is the opposite of what He wants for every family. Let us take a look at some of the differences between a man-made marriage and a God-made marriage.

Why does divorce have a negative connotation? Is it because of change? Change should not be looked at dishonorably for the great Winston Churchill once said, “There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction”. Now I ask you; Is this divorce headed in the right direction? Are all the sacrifices and hardships we endured, and will continue to endure, for the greater good? I belive you think so, that you believe that the outcome will be brighter than the past. On the contrary, I may be attempting to be an optimist, but I am also a realist. As stated in the title, divorce does suck. To see my two parents who once lived and loved each other, to suddenly separate, is no easy task for my 16 year old self, or for any family member.

I believe that divorce is derived from many different reasons that may be controllable and uncontrollable. Although I do not believe, divorce is the only options for a couple I think they should weigh their options very clearly for a lengthened period to make sure that they have not made a mistake. I also believe that Christian laws for divorce are very detrimental, they do not allow for many other reason that cause divorce. Furthermore, I believe that one can only be held accountable for their own actions and that is why marriage is depicted off faith. However, I think Christianity should broaden their thoughts on divorce, as I do not believe that God would command that his followers live an unhappy life.

Saint Paul interpreted the word of Christ on divorce and wrote “To the married I give charge, not I but the Lord, that the wife should not separate from her husband, but if she does, let her remain single or else be