Jean Valjean And Genuine Dialogue

Talking, it is a form of communication that we as people do because it is our human nature to. AS humans “conversation is a ritual” (327), we speak without thinking of other meanings that our words could mean. We don’t think about appropriation, the way others may think, or take other feelings into account. WE as humans speak to interact because as mentioned earlier “Conversation is a ritual” (327). When it comes to talking there is no right way, the way society communicates it can “mislead, distort, inflate, circumvent, obfuscate” one another.

In the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication” reachers discuess how often times being close with someone, can have a negative impact on our communications skills with those we care for the most. According to the atricical often times we expect the person we are close to understand what we want or need without actually explaining it to them. The aritical supplied several examples in which I am personally guilty of. One example was when a wife made a statement about it getting hot in the room, she was impling that she wanted the air condiniter tempture adjusted, while her husband mistook the statement in a more sexual way.

Moreover, the basis of a relationships lies on the principle that it is a shared give and take between two people. Yet, what happens in a society that has slowly eradicated a person’s ability to question their surroundings and communication has been dumbed down to surface level discussions?

When I think about a recent conversation that I had, I think about the conversation that I had with my best friend Jamie. We were in the car discussing our relationships with significant others and how it has affected us. We both gave each other advice and our opinions on each of our situations. We are very open with one another, not holding anything back concerning how we felt about our own situations and each other’s situations. In this conversation, I felt that my way of being open and honest

Learn to look for when a conversation becomes crucial, for signs of silence and violence, and for your own style under stress. A large part of this is watching your actions and emotions, as well as the actions and emotions of the other person. Paying attention to both the content of the discussion and how people are acting and feeling is no easy task. But it’s an essential part of dialogue.

Another example of me being communicating well is once I found my friend Maniac is a buffalo pen at the zoo late at night in the west side of town. I had to convince him to come home. This is what I told him “ you do not have a choice. I am not asking you. I’m telling you. You are coming home with me, and you are going to sleep in my room, which is going to be your room- and I don’t care if you sleep on the floor or the windowsill or what-but you are going to sleep there and not here.” As you can see I am talking to Maniac about the fact that he will come with me and that he will not sleep in the buffalo pen. I spoke clearly stated my claim and told him what needed to be done. His shows that if I need something to get done I will communicate with the person. Finally I think I’m communicative because in my life I have probably gone through many stages. One of these stages was taking baths with my brothers. When I finally grew out of it I had to tell them, communicate with them. This is what happened “ Then came a day when Amanda entered fourth grade, and she decided she was getting too old to tub it with her little brother and sister.” This shows that Amanda decided to communicate with her

The book "Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a Time" by Susan Scott, is a guide to tackling challenges and help enrich relationships with everyone important to one's success and happiness through principles, tools, and assignments. Each component is designed to direct the reader through their first "fierce conversation" with themselves on to the most challenging and important conversations that could be faced.

The beginning of the book dives into what is critical communications? Does it make a difference and honestly who cares? Specifically however, points out that we as a society will avoid a conversation the more important and or critical it becomes regardless if this is in a personal, business and or health situation. If we decide to take on a

My husband and I are both two very defensive people always struggling to get our point of view across. We communicated just like to attorneys in a court room trying to win, as he described in his group. Instead of listening and trying to understand what each other is feeling we jump right into our own emotions.

All humans have different morals that change based on their environment and circumstance. Jean Valjean, in the novel Les Miserables(1961), changes from someone with confused morals to a man with more morals than most whom with respect learns to love and share.

Tannen points out that about fifty percent of divorces are due to conversation. Why does one really complain about conversations? Well women tend to complain men aren’t listening and men tend to be listening but get accused of not listening. “Women who expect a stream of listener-noise interpret silent attention as no attention at all,”

Places value on individualism, self-assertion, and competition. Not common in cultures that prioritize cooperation, keep others from failing, finding areas of agreement

This conflict affected Linda and Josh perhaps more so than another couple because it hit their primary concerns. Linda was hurt because she felt Josh didn't care as much about her as she did for him. And Josh was hurt because he felt that Linda was trying to control him, and limit his freedom. Many women feel that it is expected for them to consult with their partners at every turn, while men automatically make more decisions without asking their partners. Women may try to initiate a relaxed conversation by asking "What do you think?" while men may feel that they are being forced to decide. Tannen states that communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive we need to act with concern for others but also survive for ourselves.

Christensen, K. (2011, Spring). Difficult conversations: How to address what matters most. Rotman Magazine, 22–27.

A Prominent saying state – “Good Communication is the key to a healthy relationship or marriage”; whether it may be verbal or non-verbal. Many marriages end up in divorce, because of neglecting to communicate