Jeannette Walls Parenting Style

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

It is said that there are many different versions to a story. There is one persons story, then there is an other person’s story, and then, there is the truth. “Our memories change each time they are recalled. What we recall is only a facsimile of things gone by.” Dobrin, Arthur. "Your Memory Isn't What You Think It Is." (online magazine). Psychology Today. July 16, 2013. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/am-i-right/201307/your-memory-isnt-what-you-think-it-is. Every time a story is told, it changes. From Disney movies to books, to what we tell our friends and colleagues. Sometimes the different sides to the story challenge the

This memory was based on the suggestions of a therapist who molded her memory based on suggestions. Loftus argued that Franklin’s daughter, Eileen, has unreliable memory for her claims of actually “seeing” her father act out the process of murdering her best friend were false since she also later read about it in the newspaper articles. From this incident, Loftus went on to attempt to prove that one cannot only just modify a memory but can “implant” a totally untrue memory in a person’s mind. Some therapists were telling traumatically repressed patients to imagine deeply, causing many modifications on one’s memory of the actual incident as it merges the imagination with the memory. She criticizes abuse laws of being sentenced to five years of imprisonment from the time that someone remembered in rather than the time of the actual incident occurrence by saying these false memories change with time, and these memories cannot be counted on solely when neither the police nor anyone else could get any form of evidence to support the

She may have imaged some parts of her memories to coincide with her adult mind. However, it is the action of trying to get those memories in the first place that shows that her past is affecting the present. She is unsure of what is the truth. During the story she makes it clear that in the sessions she only allows herself to remember what she wants to. This furthers the fact that her memories may be unreliable.

The book states, “your memory is only as good as your last memory. The fewer times you use it, the more unchanged it is” (Myers & Dewall, 2014). This means that to some degree all memory is false. When continuously exposed to misinformation it is called the misinformation effect. The misinformation effect is when a memory has been corrupted by misleading information (Myers & Dewall, 2014). When exposed to misleading information, we tend to misremember. Hearing a vivid retelling of a story or event could implant false memories. Misinformation and source amnesia happen without our awareness. Because of this it is hard for people to scrutinize false memories from the real memories. For example, as adults some often tell stories of their childhoods. They might not actually remember everything that happed so they fill in the blanks. By filling in these blanks the more they tell the story the more the filled in parts become false

“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings” Ann Landers. When it comes to children there are many ways parents raise their children. The way that parenting style that parents may be practicing may not be the most efficient. Briana Rackley is looking at the positive effect of the authoritative parenting style.

Memory does not work like a video camera, smoothly recording every detail. Instead, memory is more of a constructive process. We remember the details that we find most important and relevant. Due to the reconstructive nature of memory, the assimilation of old and new information has the ability to cause vulnerable memories to become distorted. This is also known as the misinformation effect (Loftus, 1997). It is not uncommon for individuals to fill in memory gaps with what they assume they must have experienced. We not only distort memories for events that we have observed, but, we may also have false memories for events that never occurred at all. False memories are “often created by combing actual memories with suggestions received from

It is a common belief that memories are important, but why is that so? Is it because memory can be a marker for a person’s level of intelligence or does it have to do with the effect memory has on person? Memory can be thought of as a recollection of an event that has been pieced together from information by the mind. These collections of memories that a person possesses are what define their identity, assist in future decision making based on past experiences, and describes life experiences. But memory can be a tricky. The tendency to distort one’s own memory can be a way to make the world more understandable and allows a person to place these experiences in terms better fitting to their own needs. The Yellow Birds narrator, Bartle, presents the connection between truth and memory in an interesting way. Through Bartle’s memories the idea of personal truth stems from a distorted account done for his own peace of mind versus the acceptance of the factual truth.

Although the memory was false, Elizabeth still experienced emotion, and could even visualize the false memory. (book)

Brittani’s parents divorced when she was three-years-old and her father remarried soon after. She described their parenting styles as very different. She lived with her mother during early adolescence and recalls that her mother was very demanding and described her as neurotic. Her mother worked long hours so she was not around much indicating low responsiveness. From Brittani’s answers, it seems that her mother would fall under the category of being an authoritarian parent (Smetana, 1995). She moved in with her father and stepmother during middle and late adolescence and she recalls that she felt like she had more structure there than at her mother’s house. She described her father to be encouraging and supportive,

Elizabeth Loftus is a psychological scientist who discusses memories, specifically false memories, in her TED Talk “How reliable is your memory?” Ultimately, Loftus explains that it is possible to not only have false memories, but it is also possible to feed people misinformation that in return alters one’s memory. This concept of false memories, and more broadly one’s remembered past, is evident in a few films we have studied in class. In both Solaris (Soderbergh) and Memento, improving one’s self knowledge was dependent on dealing with regret and guilt about one’s remembered past.

Remembering is an inalienably dualistic action. One part of the mind recalls while another part watches, reacts, listens, is reminded, responds, in some cases denies the memory raised and rejects it since you know or believe it is in some way fabricated. There is not just one line of association or one clarification for how the remembering self relates or makes connection with the recollected selves. The remembering self is dependably on an individual in a particular circumstance with emotions, recollecting for a specific reason. Engel(2000) indicated how one individual's memory may affect and shape the way others recall certainty. While not attempting to be complete, Engel pointed out a number of the courses in which informal and private memories

It’s 3:30 pm; school’s out for the day, and the day care program begins watching children until their parents come to pick them up. All the elementary kids are free to roam on the outside jungle gyms to their hearts desire. On the playground, three young children are playing a game of tag. Each child, Timothy, Margret, and Rex, are squealing with laughter, having the time of their lives until it’s time for their parents to drive them home from school. The part time teacher 's assistant, at the age of 57, loves these children eternally but feels at a certain distance with Rex. He’s a good kid: quiet, obedient, bit of a class clown, but the assistant can’t help but pity the child. The three children see their respective minivans with their father’s at the wheel, and whine at the thought of leaving. The children bid their goodbyes to their friends, and run down the steps to check out with the teachers assistant. Timothy runs to his mother 's open arms, and gives her the biggest bear hug he could muster. Margaret runs as well, and clings to her mother’s left leg. As Rex runs to open arms of his two fathers, the teachers assistant shakes her head in disapproval. Of course, she supports the equality of marriage amongst all people, but she cannot understand the concept of two gays fathering a child. In her predictions, Rex will never understand what it’s like to have a maternal figure thus hindering his ability to live a fulfilling and happy life.

People are often astoundingly confident in their distorted or false memories, often going on to describe the pseudomemories in substantial detail. Sometimes, the memories persist even

In the article by Loftus and Bernstein (2005) demonstrated how people can be lead to believe in details and events in their events that never happened. For instance, participants were given photographs of themselves as young children and encouraged to recall the events that were portrayed in the photographs. Although, all photos were genuine there was one photo that was fake. Although, family informants insisted that the event in the photograph never happened to the participant 50% of the participants still reported having memories of the experience and some even reported a background story on what happened the day. False