“I thought this every hour of every day for a very long time: I want my mother. My mother is dead.” (Strayed). Cheryl Strayed was flooded with an overwhelming amount of grief when she lost her mother to cancer. In her mind she was too young to die, which left Cheryl angry at her mother for dying. She lived under the guidance of her mother all of her life, and suddenly it was gone. Many people find themselves crying in bed for days or months, leaning on their family and friends, or exercises more in order to find some outlet for their grief. However, Cheryl found the best coping mechanism to be repeatedly committing adultery on her faithful husband Pete and becoming addicted to heroin. Throughout her book, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail, Strayed expresses remorse, but she does not write as though she is ashamed of her infidelity or drug addiction. The lack of shame towards her errors is a weakness and reveals a serious flaw in Cheryl's character.
In order to accurately understand why the lack of shame is a character flaw and not a strength we need to briefly look at the difference between shame and remorse. Shame causes an individual to feel not only sorrow for their action, but also humilation. The embarrassment helps prevent a person from repeating their mistakes. On the other hand, when someone experiences remorse they feel regret but they do not feel embarrassed by their actions. Since their pride is not affected with humiliation, the person is
The audience Cheryl Strayed is addressing in her book Wild, an adult audience who in their past had experience some type of grief that led them to conduct a series of events that they would have never done without living through that one life
Straying away from life as a whole only to be alone, some may say is the strong way to heal themselves when dealing with extreme grief or a major crisis . In the book Wild, twenty-two year old Cheryl Strayed thought she had lost it all. Dealing with the loss of her mother, her family torn to pieces, and her very own marriage was being destroyed right before her very eyes. Living life with nothing more to lose, lifeless, she made the most life changing decision of her life. Strayed never seems remorseful on her decisions to up and leave everything behind while deciding to flee from it all. This being her way of dealing with life, it shows her as being strong; a woman of great strength and character. She shows personal strength, which is
In Cheryl Strayed's Wild, she gives readers vivid exposure to her turbulent and harsh past. She tells her journey from the beginning of what was the turning page in her life- her mother's death. Strayed goes through a roller coaster with unfortunate events both in her control and out of her control. She makes several poor choices, and she shares all her triumphs with pure honesty. Strayed speaks of her past with a distant remorse, as if she is looking at her past in a movie. She doesn't come across as ashamed of her past, but why should she? As all humans do, Cheryl Strayed makes mistakes and suffers their consequences as well. Everyone handles situations differently, and the best anyone can do is learn from the mistakes and apply it to
Nowadays, it seems that we are too busy making a living that we tend to forget how to make a meaningful life. We are all dreaming of some magical things will happen instead of enjoying a beautiful little thing happens around us. The main thing is we don’t know if we will wake up tomorrow when we go to sleep tonight. Therefore, rather than hardly put off a living, reminds ourselves to enjoy every minute of our live as if it is the last minute. Denise Levertov, the author of the poem “Living”, illustrates the philosophy of living a simple life is to live entirely in the present without thinking about what will happen next in the future. The reason for that philosophy is because happiness is not what you have but how you feel toward what you have and how you accept it.
Have you ever felt so ashamed that you have become ashamed of who you are becoming? Shame is always reminding people it is a soul eating disease. For instance, in the book The Kite Runner Baba and Amir are so caught up in their shame they can hardly stand each other. In the beginning of the novel Baba pays no attention to Amir and by the end of the novel Amir realizes why his father paid no attention to him. We can become a changed person by facing our shame and allowing it to remain in the past while we move on to our future.
Wild is the story of Cheryl Strayed and her solo hike on the Pacific Crest Trail. During this 1,100 mile journey from the Mojave Desert to the Bridge of the Gods in Washington, she comes to terms with her mother’s death, and becomes her own person. Much of the book is devoted to instances that occurred before she began to hike the trail, including the disintegration of her family, her affairs and eventual divorce, and her heroin addiction. She decides to hike the Pacific Crest Trail almost immediately after her husband discovers her infidelity and divorces her, despite the fact that they still love each other. She discovers early on that she is unprepared to hike the trail and almost quits, but she meets many people along the way who are willing to teach her and inspire her to keep going. She suffers many injuries, but she continues on, and along the way she makes her peace with her mother’s death and lets go of her anger and grief. Strayed relies heavily on several rhetorical strategies, but most specifically she focuses on chronology,
The memoir Wild, by Cheryl Strayed focused on a woman whose whole life was in turmoil. From the passing of her mother to the divorce of her husband, Cheryl lost sight of her values and viewed her life as one ruined by failure and loss. In desperate need of something new to believe in, Cheryl decided to begin the journey with herself by taking an epic journey on the Pacific Crest Trail. Her beliefs and values transform over the journey from the victim of a bad situation to her belief in herself, rebirth and forgiveness.
Four years before she embarks on her journey, her mother unexpectedly dies of cancer, and in her troubled state, Cheryl decides to divorce her husband even though they both agree they are still in love. She is damaged even greater by her four year fit of self-destruction through drugs and isolation. For example, “The wanting was a wilderness and I had to find my own way out of the woods. It took me four years, seven months, and three days to do it. I didn’t know where I was going until I got there,” (283). One her journey she realizes that her mistakes have guided her to where she was supposed to be. She reveals to readers how lost you can feel without ever actually being lost, because everything happens for a reason. The biggest impact that her story had on my life is that if she can hike over a thousand miles alone, without any training, then anything is possible. By going deep into her past, readers are able to understand Cheryl more and fully comprehend the reason for her journey as she literally reinvents herself, and choses to go as far as changing her last name to better represent her
The final literary element that is principle in the writing of “Shame” was the use of language. The passage begins with him claiming that “[he] never learned hate at home, or shame.
Cheryl Strayed author of the book Wild unfortunately loses her mother to the tragic disease of cancer, which left her with many emotional distress. Aside from losing her mother she also loses her marriage due to her promiscuous behavior, and falls into a drug addiction. While her mother was sick and helpless at the hospital Strayed is drowned in her sorrow and pain. After her mother’s death Strayed decides that she needs to spend some time alone to reflect on her own issues spiritually, and to learn how to cope with the loss of her mother. Strayed decides to take a trip to the PCT. As she executes the Pacific Crest Trail in California, she comes to realize that in fact she has grown internally and that the time that she has spent alone hiking has greatly empowered her to slowly learn how overcome her internal emotional wounds. In this essay we will analyze Strayed’s rhetorical appeals, and we will perform a rhetorical analysis on how successfully Strayed
What can you tell to someone who has many problems and reach their deepest point of life? What can you do when your wrong decisions have bring you down; as a result there is no hope. Cheryl Strayed knows better what is to be there. Her problems, causalities, dead and wrong decisions destroyed her life, but Cheryl Strayed has to change and conquer her problems.
Cheryl felt bad for the ways she treated her mother before she gotten sick. Cheryl did drugs, which could have damaged her body physically. Cheryl also walked on the PCT not having no experience of backpacking at all which could have damaged her physical and mentally. Having sexual contact with so many people, she could have caught a illness. The lost of her mother effected her the most through out the journey on the PCT itself.
In the time after the passing of Cheryl's father, it was a time for family to come to grips with what had happened, to reconnect and to treasure. For Cheryl, this meant that she could see her mother in a light like she's never seen in quite a while. After working, Cheryl would go to her mother's house and invite her for supper and, during the weekends, going to Mass and then out for supper. I would prepare good meals that were satisfying. The menu sometimes got changed because it was fun to go out and eat. Cheryl's mom and I would see who's got the fastest wallet in the
In the book Wild, Cheryl Strayed removes herself from society in order to travel the PCT alone. She faced