Love in Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

Parents usually have the best intentions – like protecting their children from life's hardships and preparing them for adulthood. However as with many other aspects of parenting, the results do not always match the intentions. Overprotective parents generally want to protect their children from harm, hurt, pain, failure, unhappiness, bad experiences, rejection, and disappointment (Lindsey 1). However, parents must realize that overprotective parenting has certain side effects. Parents believe that they are doing a favor for their children by keeping them safe without realizing that this parenting style can have severe effects on children such as robbing children of the essential life skills that they need in order to have a healthy

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

She let Sophia, first daughter, play the piano. Louisa, second daughter, is the “wild one”. She is very “willful … obstinate … and fly[s] into a rage…” (Chua 11). Amy Chua wants her children to be successful in the future and drills many useful aspects of life, as well as the Chinese traditions.

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

The further down the path to success the higher the costs get, placing more stress on parents to prove everything they’ve put into their kid being successful has been worth it. Parents have to pay for their kids to travel, their equipment, their entry fees, private coaching, and eventually things add up. This film shows that parents are driven by their own need to be recognized and sometimes this can get in the way of doing what’s best for their own children. One of the scariest truths this film shows, is that the path to becoming an overly involved parent is one that is easily

In the New York Times essay, “Raising Successful Children” by Madeline Levine. Levine begins her essay by asking the reader, “ Does overparenting hurt, or help?” The problem Levine identifies is, many parents rush in too quickly, to shield their children from challenges in life. Doing so deprive them of the tools necessary to handle the inevitable, difficult, challenging and sometimes devastating demands of life. Levine believes that the optimal parent is one who is involved and responsive, who sets high expectations but respects their child’s autonomy.

Department of Education called the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study (ECLS); ECLS sought to measure the academic success of a randomly selected group of American schooled kindergarten students through the fifth grade (162). From this study, Levitt and Dubner came to the conclusion good parenting “techniques” have to do more with the parents themselves and less with the parent’s actions (177). Data collected from this study suggests that the success of a child is more dependent of who the parents is than what the parent does for the child. Even though it may seem parenting is not fully in the parents control, it is actually the

Is our future generation being set up for failure? Are kids going soft? Ask yourself these questions as you remember the first time you looked at your beloved bundle of joy, and you knew, he or she was going to be great. The children of this world are guided by adults, and are the future. Many children have parents that will hover over them, and take their hand each step of the way so they will never fail. It’s the hardest thing as a parent to watch your little ones fail. Nobody wants to see someone they love to be disappointed or hurt, but overparenting could be doing more harm than good. Mommy and Daddy aren’t going to be there all the time, and kids need to learn to accept failure, and grow as an individual. Our future generation is going soft, and won’t be able to succeed

Amy Tan is not bound by traditional rules; in any event, she demonstrates an individual in society exceptionally well. In the first place, Amy chose not to listen to authority figures. This is proven when she offers that “my being disobedient and staying out past sunset, catching a chill at night, which turns into feverish pneumonia as punishment, which indeed happened to me.” Use of the term “disobedient” implies that she refused to follow the rules outlined to her by an authoritative figure. Additionally, Amy did not feel influenced to follow the career path encouraged by others. When she speaks of the few Asian Americans enrolled in creative writing programs, she states, “…perhaps they also have teachers who are steering them away from writing

I won’t be what I’m not” (Tan 91). This showed that the daughter had her own beliefs and goals she did not want to be put in a box where she would be forced to be what she’s not. Nevertheless, the mother wanted to help her daughter but she did not approach the situation in the correct way. The mother pushed her daughter to the breaking point where she rebelled and became the opposite of what her mother demanded her to be. When the mother realize that her daughter is not what she pushed her to be, she shouted “Only two kinds of daughters,” and continued with “Those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind!” (Tan 98). The mother made her feel insecure she made her believe that her goals are worthless. Because her mother was so arrogant and didn’t realize soon enough that her daughter is not a prodigy so her daughter failed at mostly everything in life, like showed in the text, “In the years that followed, I failed her so many times, each time asserting my own will, my right to fall short of expectations. I didn’t get straight A’s. I didn’t become class president. I didn’t get into

In Four Directions, a story by Waverly, one of the four daughters that quit chess because of her mom’s pressure and expectations. Waverly played chess since she was ten years old and she loved it but her mother talked about her trophies and wins as she has planned her strategies, showed off Waverly’s trophies to her friends and hovered over her as she practiced.When Waverly was tired of her mother’s constant pressure she stopped playing for a while but then came back. However, she lost some of her skill and was not as passionate about chess so she stopped playing it. “And my mother loved to show me off, like one of my many trophies she polished. She used to discuss my games as if she had devised the strategies” (187). Her mom did not treat her like a daughter, but a trophy. When Waverly uses the word “trophies” to describe herself, she feels like her mother does not love her and she is just a trophy to her. Using the word “devised” Waverly illustrates her dislike and annoyance when her mother shows her off and treats her trophies as her own like she had a part of Waverly’s success. In Two Kinds, June a daughter of Suyan also portrays the pressure and expectations that her mom

Amy wanted to fit in and be "perfect", she chose

The Strict Father Method views the world as a complex and unfriendly place; however, competition is encouraged. Strict parents who love their family feel like they are doing injustice if they send their family out into the world, unprepared for all that it holds. Their children are taught to be tough and self- reliant. What’s good is what’s strong. The Nurture Method takes on an empathetic approach. Parents are open and honest with their children, two way discussions are vital in the act of raising and preparing children for whatever their future holds. Participants believe that society benefits from when people are willing to care for and support/ nurture others, just as their parents had done for

Amy Chua’s. Structured, strong willed, strict, and overbearing. This parenting style is practiced by many, and results show it to be effective in creating successful children soon to be adults. Not all would agree with the rules of the “Tiger Mother.” A columnist for the Los Angeles Times Meghan Daum wrote while many agreed with Chua’s ways so many others felt disrespected and upset about it. Those who agreed said that they were applauding her for her strict ways and agreed that some American parents would rather be their child’s friend verses their parent. Daum brings to attention that after extreme conflict and death threats were made to Amy Chua from those who disapproved, she softened the message. She said her passage was a bit badly portrayed, and was meant to be comical. Chua made sure to stand her ground on her parenting ways though. Meghan Daum relates to Chua’s plead of the article being misleading she mentions New York Times digs deep and can be tough. Another Los Angeles Times columnist Patrick Goldstein writes “I have no beef with Chua’s parenting code.” (Goldstein). He further explains that he doesn’t feel it is any more gruesome then those of the parents living on the Westside of Los Angeles. Goldstein says, “The truth is that if you have a particular talent and the will to succeed, you don’t really need education.” (Patrick Goldstein). He refers to the life of Holly Wood. Half of the famous don’t have any college education and some without high-school, but very successful. A staffed writer for the New Yorker Elizabeth Kolbert says, “Yes you can brute force any kid to learn to play the piano but you’ll never have a Jimi Hendrix.” (Elizabeth

This story focuses on the role of what a parenting is and how in parenting constant requires hard work through dedication and perseverance just to support the family without expecting a reward from the rest of the family. In parenting, the parent is not just a caretaker but they also the provider simultaneously and continue to do so. Parenting the hardest type