Mindful Listening by Rebecca Shafir
In our first discussion board post, I listed one of my greatest qualities as being a worthy listener. Learning more about interpersonal communications has challenged my self-concept, the relatively stable sent of perceptions that each individual holds for him or herself (Adler and Proctor 63). Honest personal reflection shows that I could improve the way that I communicate and in turn enhance interpersonal relationships. Wanting to improve my quality of communication and valuing my listening abilities, the title “Mindful Listening” jumped out. Understanding that western cultural values discourage mindfulness, Shafir wrote this article to promote the value of mindfulness and the positive impact mindfulness
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While preparing a presentation, I make sure that I give myself some time to focus on the project because I know that with all the distractions around, I can easily miss something on a PowerPoint or meeting notes. I have learned that rushing or not giving my full attention usually ends up with mistakes that I later regret. Almost all corrective actions and performance improvement plans that are put in place are due to mindlessness or multi-tasking. A partner, while on a personal call, misses a step in the process and ends up having to start the whole process over again. Another partner wasn’t paying attention during a meeting and subsequently is filling out paperwork incorrectly. Both instances could have been avoided if the partners had been mindful during work and meetings.
Shafir offers insight on how to overcome mindlessness. Challenge the distractions and focus on the process. (Shafir 222). Choose a task that you usually rush through and slow down, don’t rush through it, be present while completing the task. (Shafir 222). Practice staying present in a conversation (Shafir 223) When you learn to listen mindfully, your perception is heightened and you experience multilevel awareness (Shafir 223) As your ability to concentrate improves, you will become more efficient. Tasks done mindfully are done right the first time. (Shafir
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Adler and Proctor define listening as the process of making sense of others’ messages (Adler and Proctor 245) and mindful listening as listening and giving careful and thoughtful attention and response to the messages we receive (Adler and Proctor 247). This is very similar to Shafir’s description of mindful listening. The elements in the listening process as described by Adler and Proctor, closely correlate to Shafir’s wide spectrum of listening skills that are used by good listeners. Shafir notes that good listeners have the ability to receive the spoken word accurately and interpret the whole message in an unbiased manner (Shafir 220). This relates to Adler and Proctors elements of hearing, the physiological dimension of listening that happens when sound waves strike the ear at a certain frequency and loudness (Adler and Proctor 247) and understanding, occurs when we make sense of a message (Adler and Proctor 249) because the listener must first hear what is being said and then interpret it. Good listeners retain the information for future use (Shafir 220) correlates to the element, remembering, the ability to recall information (Adler and Proctor 249) as the listener must remember the conversation in order to recall it at a later date. A good listener will sustain attention to the spoken word at will; listening is a process that occurs over time. The element of attending, the focus of
This source provides a description of the pedagogical revolution that is occurring in our universities regarding mindfulness. University curriculums are now being implemented with mindfulness. This will for a greater dissemination of mindfulness and I want to discuss this specifically in my
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In chapter 4 it talks about how we can practice being mindfulness with connecting mind and body together. To able to take in every moment in life one needs to enjoy every moment without our mind wandering off when we are doing an action. The body is great to practice being able to be mindfulness because it is something that will not go away. The author explains in the chapter that sometimes a way to came back to the mindfulness state is by breathing in and out, which leads to concentrate again. Another point made is that mindful attention to sensation requires you to take the time to actually experience the sensation. An example is when cooking you can practice mindful attention by smelling the different faces the food you are cooking goes
Mindfulness practice has received immense attention in recent years. Specifically, mindfulness practice has been explored by professional athletes, from organizations attempting to improve productivity, and even politicians for stress reduction. Nevertheless, educators have begun to explore mindfulness practice effectiveness for enhancing educational, emotional, and behavioral outcomes for students. Fundamentally, mindfulness practice is established on spirituality principles that teach attention focusing. Moreover, the technique facilitates open communication regarding emotions and feelings. Thus, mindfulness practice aims to silence distractions of the mind while enhancing awareness. As a relatively new practice, it is
On our first day of eighth grade, we were introduced to the word mindfulness. According to Jon Kabat-Zinn (the founder of modern day mindfulness), “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; On purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.” Mindfulness involves a conscious direction of awareness about everything that is happening around you. But, there is a difference of being aware of something to being mindful about something. To be mindful, you have to be purposely aware of something, not just vaguely aware.
Matsumoto & Juang theorize “there are three components of mindfulness that can affect intercultural effectiveness; motivational factors, knowledge factors, and skill factors” (2013). These three factors play a large role in the amount of certainty in a situation. If people were to be able to effectively use this knowledge to increase their awareness of other cultures, then they could pass the information along, and maybe sooner or later there would be no more “cultural misunderstandings.” There are just so many things that could be misinterpreted during the communication process between culturally diverse people and “a high degree of mindfulness can reduce some of the uncertainty and anxiety, resulting in more effective communication” (Matsumoto & Juang, 2013, pg. 254). If people were to take conscious and deliberate step thinking through their own and other’s behaviors and plan to interpret the interaction as it occurs.
In chapter 1 Cochran and Cochran discuss the twelve concepts that ground counseling and therapeutic relationships. These concepts help give the basis of counseling skills needed to help clients achieve healthy thinking for a long period of time. Chapter 2 goes into detail about therapeutic listening, the dos and don’ts of therapeutic listening are listed and discussed in this chapter. Skills given help counselors reflect on the understanding of each client’s communication. The primary skill objectives at the beginning of every chapter help me focus my reading and reflect on the important meanings presented in the chapter.
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The articles main focus is to research the processes involved in leaning to listen therapeutically. Listening is a key tool when learning how to become a counsellor; Lee & Prior (2013) aimed to study the accounts of students in their development of therapeutic listening. Seventeen students in total agreed to participate in the interviews but only fourteen were able to participate, their ages ranged between 25 and 60 years of age. From the 14candidates only ten interviews were transcribed, and only six were analysed further. Six first year counselling students who had just finished a post graduate certificate in counselling skills were interviewed and analysed. Due to the nature of study, the researchers elected to use qualitative techniques
"Mindful listening involves giving careful and thoughtful attention and responses to the messages we receive. You tend to listen mindfully when a message is important to you, and also when someone you care is important to you" (qtd. Adler et al. 207). What this statement means to me is that we tend to have hectic lives and we must learn to slow down when a person is speaking to us. Mindful listening requires a person to be fully aware and attentive to the person that is speaking. I am currently employed in two occupations that require my mindful listening. My first, employment is at a restaurant named Perkins, to be able to achieve my requirements at work I must be aware, present, and attentive to my customers. During my shift I must be present
The type of listening problem I have is, Mindful Listening. I tend not to listen to conversation mindfully when I am not interested. As a teenager, I never fully listen to advice from adults, especially my parents. when my parents tried to give me advice about school or my friends, I wouldn't mindfully listen to them. Instead,I would try to tune them out by thinking about other random things. I would pretend to listen, but I would really give them my full attention. My reason for this is because I felt like the conversation was really boring, or that it was not really beneficial.
Values like generosity (kindness to self leads to kindness to others), patience, and trust, provide a solid foundation for mindfulness practice (Kabat-Zinn, 1994). It cultivates a loving attitude towards oneself, accepting one’s limitations and weaknesses, and realizing own potentials through the beauty of giving to others. Langer & Moldoveanu (2000) found that awareness of different perspectives in problem solving is enhanced when one practices mindfulness. Other benefits of mindfulness include having a greater sensitivity to one’s environment and more openness to new information.
You have probably heard the phrase “to be mindful” at least once or twice in your lifetime. As familiar as it sounds, mindfulness is a concept many people seem to overlook despite it being an attribute they should seek. In everyday tasks, therein lies an array of small, subtle technicalities that highlight a significant moment. When we are unaware of the meaning of mindfulness is when we need to be mindful the most, because to be mindful is to be aware of all thoughts, all actions, all of the world— and if you are aware then you are able to view the world with vigor and perspective, encourage study and knowledge, and experience bliss and wonder.
Brownell (1987) found in her study of listening behaviors that there are five factors. The factors included sensitivity and considers emotional component of a message; understands and recalls information accurately; objective and nonjudgmental; concentrates and encourages information sharing and provides