‘Quiet’ The Introvert Being born and raised in a Muslim home is probably one of the main contributing factors as to why I am an introvert today. Although today I am no longer a Muslim and ever so proud of my choice of becoming a Christian when I started dating my now husband 6 years ago (Who by the way is quite the extrovert in every sense of the word!) I know being a quiet introvert isn’t a bad thing. But still, anytime someone points it out, it makes me feel anxious. In my mind, their words are dripping with judgement. I also recognize that they are probably commenting because they feel uncomfortable too. Many people can’t stand silence. Empty air space is something that is unfamiliar and unwelcome for them. They immediately seek to fill it with their own voice. If they’re really desperate, they will try to badger some words out of me, saying things like, “you’re very quiet. Say something.” To which I usually just end up giving them a shy smile while wishing I could somehow telepathically convey to them that telling an introvert she is quiet is like telling the …show more content…
That's not a label I would assign myself, but rather one that the world likes to assign to me. It's always hearing someone say, "Are you okay? You're so quiet," when the truth is, I'm perfectly content. I wasn't aware that you were supposed to announce reassurances every few minutes that you are happy, or that you are just enjoying the scenery, or that you like listening to music, or that you are glad you got to spend the day at the mall, so on and so forth. Sorry, I wasn't aware that not constantly narrating my every thought and feeling to the people around me was some kind of...defect. But apparently, that is the case, or so I've been lead to believe based on people's responses to my quietness. Quietness is never supposed to be a default in this society. It's something you deviate to, and if you go there, something must be
Growing up within a somewhat tight-knit family, I tend to keep my distance when it comes to large crowds. The feeling of my chest being compressed into any social interaction with someone I wasn't comfortable with needed to be over thought and rehearsed for my mind before I even attempted speaking. My off days ranged from not being able to give a presentation in class to over thinking the basic action of raising my hand to ask a teacher a question. However, I am the complete opposite with my family and close group of friends, since they are people I have gained an obvious closer relationship to rather than someone I just met. However, in the back of my mind I would always believe I had the potential to speak and gain the confidence to change
Introversion are traits where a person is more mindful of their own thoughts and feelings rather than their surrounding environment. Have you ever met someone that seemed to be more reserved than others? Someone who tends to keep their emotions private? Someone who is more of a social
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I have always been a quiet person in class, I did not like to socialize much because I have always felt that only pretty people can make other people interested in. With my crooked teeth in freshman year I have always carried that awkward smile around me, I was not confident of my hair clothes just my overall appearance. I’m always worried about how to look pretty at school and to attract my favorite guy in class, but never once i thought about my grade. Growing up in a typical asian family, my parents and my relatives always ask about my grades. Whether when we're eating or shopping. Of course I lied that im doing god in school and got a lot of compliments for being such a diloigent student but i was totally the opposite.
You had great difficulty expressing yourself properly, leading to your current predicament: social isolation. You often made a conscious effort to avoid conversation in case your voice refused to respond or you stumble upon your words or if you sounded utterly stupid, but you put the same amount of effort to make sure you could hide your loneliness with plastered smiles and the "I’m fine" lie you repeat endlessly.
Leading Quietly Leading quietly is the ability to influence individuals or groups toward the achievement of goals. Quiet Leadership, as a process, shapes the goals of a group or organization, motivates behavior toward the achievement of those goals, and helps define group or organizational culture behind the scenes. It is primarily a process of influence.
No two people are alike, and no two personalities are alike. A personality is made up of different characteristics, which help to define a person. Per the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator everyone has a four-letter personality type with 16 different personality combinations. These personality types affect everyone’s personal, social and work life. My four-letter personality type is ISFJ (introvert, sensing, feeling and judgment).
Me being an introvert as well, I can relate, where the absence of confidence has stuck. It seems to be really hard for me to openly share my opinions and my assessments to most topics. "Simon turned away from them and went the just perceptible path led him... Holding his breath he cocked a critical ear at the sounds of the island." (Golding 57) When wanting to be alone, Simon heads to a secret place to take in the silence. When I get frustrated or need calming down, I too find a quiet safe place for me where I feel comfortable to let out all the negative energy. While being in this mind set, there is a great deal of thinking and feeling happening.
Writing is one of the most important skills that I have learned throughout my years in school. I have learned that no matter how much I love or hate it, writing is a necessity; I might as well try to be good at it. Writing has been in my life for many years. There are many types of writing, educational writing and personal writing are two that I will mention in this essay. I have learned how to allow writing to help me in my daily life. When I began writing I hated it, however, I have learned the many uses of it, and it has become a huge part of my life.
As I have gotten older, some of the introversion has faded to a certain extent, but it is still present. Through my job as a Special Education Teacher, I have had to overcome a majority of my introversion so I can effectively do my job. On any given day, I will have to speak to not only my students but also the office staff, coworkers, and possibly some of the children’s parents. Conversation goes both ways, so to be successful at my job; I would have to be willing to be open and communicate with others more. I also have to realize that I need to make the first step sometimes. Not everyone is going to come to me; there are times I am going to have to go to others.
Public communication is very important when in a discussion with coworkers and such. The one weakness that some people run into is silence. The spiral of silence theory by Elisabeth Noelle-Neumann explains why certain people fall under the pressure and seclude to silence. Silence may not always be a bad thing, but according to a study by Lucy J. MacGregor, the fact is that silence during a speech or conversation is absolutely bad. With this, silence while talking to a large group negatively affects the listeners in a way in which some words in the speech will not be remembered. The point is that silence tends to destroy people’s speeches. Words are forgotten in the speech; Loss of the attention by the listeners happens and the
According to many psychologists and other social experts, there exist two major social behaviors that are widely adopted globally by a person as they mature into young adulthood: extraversion or introversion. Extroverts are expressive individuals who appear to be energized and enjoy seeking activities that involve socialization with others where as a reserved individual (introvert) prefers solitary pursuits where he or she often partakes in a favorite pastime. In her novel Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life is Your Hidden Strength, Laurie Helgoe statistically explores the fact that more than one half of the American populace claims to be reticent and encourages those folks to embrace their natural selves (“Book Details” 1). Introverts
Remaining silent is an essential component of communication based on listening skill. This skill encourage people to participate, giving attention to listen to other people when they talking without interruption (Hybels & Weave 2008). More over, as people they make an ethical agreement to listen to the other, they focused their attention on them without acknowledging competing thoughts (Gamble & Gamble 2013). It is widely recognized that, listening can be defined as paying attention to other people when they talk. In addition, as human beings
I believe that most people are neither introverts nor extroverts but are a mix of both. There are many people who tend to display characteristics of the introvert and the extrovert. For example: I myself have many of the characteristics of the introvert and the extravert. I am sometime considered reserved because I do not like to be the center of attention, especially in groups of people, this is a characteristic of the introvert. I love to be surrounded by people and to communicate with people, which is a characteristic of the extravert. I would rather email or text people instead of talking on the
When asked to describe myself I never know what to say, but I should know myself the best, right?