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Reciprocity And Kawelka Relationship

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The act of reciprocity, the mutual act of giving and receiving; giving more than you are taking. A quote that really captures the true meaning of reciprocity is, “People gave with the expectation of taking and took with the expectation of giving” (Harris 1989). This is seen across many different cultures and time periods. Nevertheless, they are not all the same, and may not generate equivalent types of relationships, for social and personal value. In this essay we will look at two separate acts of reciprocity; how they work, and what they provide. First, a look into the Gebusi sister-exchange, and then into the Kawelka’s moka ceremony. Everyone desires connection, whether that be through friendships or sexual relations.
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Among the Kawelka tribe, reciprocity serves as a way of “gaining prestige and shaming rivals” (Cronk 1988). This form of exchange serves as way of social superiority. Their ritual is called the moka; this is a very important ceremony to their tribe. “The reason why Ongka so wanted to give his big moka, is that only by giving can he earn fame and status for his tribe and for him” (Niarn 1974). The moka ceremony is a formal interaction in which one man gives more than he received from another, as a pay back of debt, as well as a trump to their social status. However, the return of the moka cannot happen after a long period of time, doing so immediately would serve as a desire to cut the strings and end the relationship. It is expected that the debt will be repaid when the time comes, if it is not the one who has not repaid the debt will lose their support and status as a ‘big-man”. The goal of the moka is to eventually become a “big-man”, also known as a tribal leader (Cronk 1988). After one big moka was thrown by Ongka, that included several hundreds of pigs, a truck, thousands of dollars and more, he told the recipient of his moka, “I have won. I have knocked you down by giving so much” (Cronk 1988; Nairn

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