Nobody is born with a sense of what is right and what is wrong. Morals vary from person to person and each person develops their moral stance in their own way. I have always felt like a new soul in that sense, as if I were born a completely blank canvas, fresh for every experience. Where others had a clear idea of what is black and what is white, I always found myself sifting through the gray. Watching how others react, taking in emotions and ranges for every type of situation. My own innate process felt like it was being built from a basic foundation. I wasn’t always sure if I could trust my moral standing. It has taken a lot of life lessons to build a confidence in my distinguishment between when to be passive and when to be righteous. In life, a friendship can teach you a lot about boundaries and just how much courage it takes to do the right thing. Even if it means risking the loss of a friend in the chaos of the code of ethics.
I had moved every four years of my life from the time I was two years old to fifteen. By the time I had finished elementary school I had developed a less than permanent outlook on how friendship works. You meet someone you like, you get to know them long enough to become close, and then your family moves to a new town, city, state, region of the country; and you start all over again. It wasn’t until tenth grade that I would gain my first “full-time” friend. She liked to read, mostly stayed under the radar, but was known for being very
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Before I came to Baker Middle School, I attended elementary school in Laytonsville. I had a group of friends that consisted of five people, Olivia Fink, Olivia Pallas, Mason LeBlanc, Kody Johnson, and Stefan Jacob. The Olivia’s both attend this school alongside me, but sadly the other three attends a different school. I became friends with those three because we all had common interests in multiple categories such as cartoons and humor. I still keep in touch with them, but I know we aren’t as close as we used to be. With the Olivia’s we all became best friends in the first week of Kindergarten and we still have been by each other’s side since. We became friends because we all sat next to each other on our little chairs, and talked about anything
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The experiences that we go through throughout our life can influence our moral growth as well as help us depict right from wrong. Based on what has gone on around you, and how different situations have affected you, your mind can rewire to think differently about what is considered right and wrong. I’ve had moral growth and the change in what I thought was right and wrong, by watching the mistakes made by other people and myself , and learning from them. People in my life have shown me exactly how not to treat people, and that the way they are living their life is wrong, so when I feel that I may be headed in the same direction, I think differently. Also i have seen people act differently in different environments, and they change themselves
There is a picture on my fridge of my two best friends and me on the last day of Kindergarten, rosy red cheeks, smiles that could light up the night on our faces, the innocence of being five years old beaming from our bright eyes. An image that might outlast our friendship, but will forever be in my mind. All through Elementary school these two remained my best friends. Our little circle of friendship slowly grew as more people started to enter our lives for different reasons and we developed small friendships that threatened to pierce the bubble of our little trio. Nevertheless, our friendship didn’t falter. I believed this was the way friendship would always be: a tight-knit group who would alway be by each other's’ sides, through thick and thin. And then came middle school.
Having friends when you are in middle school and younger are exciting to have, but when you get older you realize you don’t need friends to keep you happy. I had numerous amount of friends back then. When I finished 7th grade my mom decided it was best to move away from the city. It was so heartbreaking to hear that we were moving. It was the end of the world because we didn’t know anything about where we were moving to. All of our friends since we had in kindergarten were going to be gone.
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Imagine your sole confidante, childhood playmate, personal comedian and physiologist disclosing your secrets to a stranger. Unfortunately, this stranger happens to be the person who enforce a form of punishment for the actions that were once a secret. Furthermore, this confidante is considered your friend. Does an instance of this friend disclosing your secret of immoral activities to a person of authority violate the success of the friendship? In fact, this act is not a violation of the laws of friendship. The ideas of friendship are subjective, and thus where you might think your friend’s actions are unjust, your friend is actually looking out for your best interest and security. Also, a good friend would not desire