Sex, Lies, And Hook Up Cultures

Across the U.S. college students on a variety of campuses have part taken in what is commonly known as the “hookup culture.” The hookup culture does not always have to include sexual intercourse although it most often does, but it is merely the idea of having physical pleasure with another person outside of an emotional relationship. College students, even at some of America’s most prestigious colleges realize hooking up has completely overthrown the idea of being in an actual relationship. Emily Foxhall a Yale student wrote an article for the Yale Daily News in 2010 stating that the hookup culture is so prevalent on Yale’s campus because students have enough stress to worry about, casual hookups are easy (Foxhall, 2010). The question becomes, is the college hookup culture vital and normal to the college experience or should it be condemned for being harmful to college age persons mentality.

In her article, “Sex, Lies and Conversation,” Deborah Tannen reveals how the lack of communication between couples are affecting their relationship, which is causing the divorce rate, in the United States, to be at an unimaginable rate of fifty percent. Tannen explains that it isn’t a particular gender’s fault for the failed communication between men and women, but it is the lack of knowledge of how the other gender communicates that’s at fault. She compares the expectations and styles of communication of both men and women to reveal how communication is truly “cross-cultural” between opposite sex. Styles of communication, body language, and the differences in listening styles are three main points that Tannen focuses on to demonstrate how

Of students who reported hooking up, 41 percent used words such as “regretful,” “empty,” “miserable,” “disgusted,” “ashamed,” “duped” and even “abused” to describe the experience. An additional 23 percent expressed ambivalence, and the remaining 36 percent said they were more or less “fine” with hookups — “fine” being the most common description.

Kelly transitions into his argument about why hookup culture should be concerning. Referring to his four main factors, he summarizes how each could be potentially harmful, especially to women in college. A lack of commitment takes away the emotions and connection made through physical contact. Future relationships are at risk due to this detachment. Ambiguous language creates a lack of trust between partners, causes classmates to make assumptions, and distorts risks. Alcohol impairs judgement relating to hooking up. This ends up in several undesirable scenarios, including rape and regrettable sex. Lastly, social pressure forces students into the hookup culture. Kelly stresses that there is a severe skewness against women. There is a fine line for them between participating in the culture and being known as a slut. There is a substantial double standard in hookup culture.

There is often an unhealthy stigma against twenty-something women for having casual sex. The excerpt “Is Hooking up Bad for Women?” in Skolnick and Skolnick’s Family in Transition, has much to say about the subject of millennials sleeping around. This section of the textbook was written by Elizabeth A. Armstrong, Laura Hamilton, and Paula England; discussing their opinions and findings on the subject. The three women discuss why women have been more prone to casual hookups, and the pros and cons of these decisions.

In the book, Hooking Up, the author, Kathleen Bogle, devotes most of her research to interviewing male and female undergraduates and alumni. Throughout her book, she uses various methods to expose the complexity of hookups and the actualities of the gender “rules” on college campuses. The techniques Bogle uses are: explaining the norms of the hooking up culture prior to the twentieth century, describing how the ambiguity of the term “hooking up” on college campuses creates misconstrued ideas about other college students, and comparing the difference between males and females in the hook up culture.

To start with, let's take a type of religion, christianity, and the United States’s society and see how their views of sex are. Since the christian religion is large , I will narrow it down to my christianity, Baptist, in order to avoid conflict with other christian

When concerns of credibility arise, Rachel Kalish uses several sources to prove her claim throughout her article. Kalish suggests there are more components that make up the definition of hook ups that just having intercourse. Using the Online College Social Life Survey, that states “kissing (61%) and nongenital touching (51%), oral sex, but not intercourse (24%), manual stimulation of the genitals (38%), and intercourse (23%)” (Kalish 156) are all apart of hooking up helped Kalish in supporting her claim. An article from CNN agreed with Kalish’s resource that hooking up not

Being a college student myself, it is very easy to relate to and understand Bogle’s arguments about how hooking up can lead to alcohol abuse and sexual assaults. Even if this is true, an outsider 's perspective can vary on whether they believe the argument Bogle presents or not. One example is a potential incoming student who is likely to be ignorant to anything about the hookup culture in college and might not believe Bogle’s argument without any solid facts or statistics. A different example could be a parent of a student may be swayed by the nervousness of the child being away to believe the extreme without any evidence. This is a vast downfall for this article due to the fact there is little proof or real life examples throughout it.

Wade, L., & Heldman, C. (2010). First-year college students confront hookup culture. In J. DeLamater and L. Carpenter (Eds.), Sexuality over the life course: Emerging perspectives. New York: New York University Press (in

They see the overwhelming importance given to sexual attractiveness in the media-one study estimated that the average teenager ahs witnessed nearly 14,000 sexual encounters on television- yet they also hear their parents and religious advisers telling them that sex is wrong. As a result, many young people begin having sex without really intending to and without taking precautions against pregnancy.

In an article, “Hooking Up” by Jenifer Kunz; expresses the differences between hooking up and dating in college. She explores her research surrounding the causes and effects of hooking up especially in

In the essay “Sexism in Practice: Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture,” ethicist Conor Kelly argues that the “four common features of [hookup] culture” (which consists of 1) “lack of commitment”; 2) “ambiguous language”; 3) “the use of alcohol”; and 4) overwhelming “social pressure to conform” [65]) injures the freedoms of all undergraduates students (though, more so for those who are female). While I wholeheartedly agree with Kelly that peer pressure, cryptic language, and the presence of alcohol are elements of hookup culture which harm the liberties of students, I do not believe that a desire to avoid commitment endangers anyone (at least to the extent of what is suggested in the paper). Furthermore, I do not feel that “lack of commitment” (65) is even a viable feature of

Hooking up has become an increasingly studied culture by many sociologists around the country. These studies have been done to understand the shift from the old culture of dating to the new culture of hooking up that we experience now. Many people find it interesting that the kids of our generation have become so sexualized and carefree compared to the college days of our parents. Many people wonder how we got to this point and how the dynamics of hookups work, and why we continue to go on with them even sometimes at cost of our mental and physical help. One of these people was Kathleen A. Bogle, who wrote an entire book on the subject called, Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus, which is the focal point of this essay.

During the 1960’s we saw the first major sexual revolution in America, along with this shift in American beliefs we also saw the feminist movement begin to take course, shaping its on points and ideas about gender equality. This era brought the normalization of contraception, public nudity, premarital sex, homosexuality and the legalization of abortion. Half a century later, a new feminist movement has begun and now sex has become more socially acceptable outside the strict boundaries of heterosexual marriage than ever. This becomes evident when you look at the rise of hookup culture in American colleges. With how accessible finding hookup partners has become (with the help of smartphone applications such as Tinder or Grindr)