Sex Therapy New Zealand Case Study

There truly is not a "right" way to begin a journey into BDSM. It is a path that begins as you desire for it to begin and it grows based upon your curiosity and perserverance. A great way to approach the topic, is to take what you like and leave the rest as your begin your research. For example, don't let a structured source online ruin your concept of what this lifestyle or playtime means.

Many of the critiques that go against Fifty Shades are dependent on its comparison to Stephenie Meyer’s bestselling teenage vampire romance novel Twilight. Yet while Twilight is aimed to focus on pre-teenagers, Fifty Shades has been dubbed as “mommy porn, alongside jokes about the poor literary quality of the novels… revealing a disdainful attitude towards fans of the franchise who are often dismissed as bored, borderline illiterate housewives” (McCann). On top of the controversy, many feminist groups are up in arms “challenging the Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) practiced negatively in the novels” (McCann) and is furthermore argued by many to be sexually objectifying to women. Finally, my essay will be focusing on the mentality of the Fifty Shades anti-fans, as “research suggests that anti-fan critics gain enjoyment from perceiving themselves as having greater knowledge of literature and sexual practices compared to the “ordinary fans”... and adding to the pleasurable culture of mocking the series means even the most critical anti-fans usually have read all three books… In fact, a survey in the UK found that many first started reading because of negative responses to the books: people wanted to join in on the conversation and make their own assessment” (McCann). Through these studies, I will additionally be assessing the mentality and believed

This paper will outline sexuality at different life stages, and as a sexual therapist I will coach an adolescent girl with a boyfriend who is pressuring her to have sex; an elderly couple with a wife exhibiting a renewed interest in sexual activity and a unwilling husband; and finally a handicapped male that has been paralyzed since he was four years old.

Our social world is becoming increasingly sexualised as pornographic references and imagery are progressively more intertwined with mainstream media, social media, advertising, and pop culture. According to Tyler (2011), this intertwinement of pornography and pop culture consists of five fragments; the beginning of the pornographic boom, the

Picture a room full of whips, rope, floggers, a wooden St. Andrew's cross, riding crops, and handcuffs. To some, the thought of this room is disturbing and atrocious. To others, this could be their sanctuary and a pleasure palace. In light of a certain pop culture phenomenon, the once taboo and hidden bondage/discipline, domination/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM) lifestyles have been unearthed. E. L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey series brought the unique relationship between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey into the homes of millions of average individuals. A once secret lifestyle was now written out upon countless pages, sitting on the best seller’s table for the world to pick up and read. The

With the rise of books like Fifty Shades of Grey, there are many questions being asked about what the real effects of BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism (sadomasochism)) relationships are on participants (Turley et al 123, McDonald). There’s the question of where the boundary between abuse and recreational play is drawn, where the psychological implications of the relationship becomes too much for the individual, but all of that can be boiled down to just a few points to explore. In order to really understand what all comes with these relationships, we must look at the experiences of participants, seeking to understand what BDSM is, and what it means. We must

Roy F. Baumeister explores the taboo lifestyles of sadomasochism. The main theme and purpose of the piece is to find out who are masochists, and what do they put themselves through in the name of pleasure. "Across the country, from sophisticated cities to subdued suburbs, men and women are acting out fantasies of sexual domination and submission." (Psychology Today 47) I believe that Baumeister describes a very accurate portrait of who one specific group of masochists is and what they do for pleasure, however, I feel that he fails to recognize the younger generation of masochists. I also feel that on the issue symbolic of sex change, Baumeister does not elaborate enough.

BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism and is a type of sexual act that is considered “deviant” in our society since these acts violate social norms we have towards how sexual acts should be performed. BDSM is often performed by a dominatrix which is described as “a woman who takes the dominant or sadistic role in sado-masochistic sexual activities” while the man is subjected to the submissive role (Oxford English Press). This project seeks to understand the views on where BDSM stems from and the health benefits and drawbacks of BDSM. Two of the articles viewed BDSM as a healthy relationship while the other two articles argued that this act was unhealthy. In addition, two of the articles viewed BDSM as conforming to societal roles while the other two viewed it as being a social deviation.

One of the most important aspects of BDSM is the use of a safeword. A safeword can be a word or a phrase that is implemented by both parties that both can remember during the sexual act. The safeword is to be said out loud when things are not going as expected or when one of the parties wants to stop. Once the safeword is used, the Dominant (person in charge) has to immediately cease all activity and release the submissive (person who gave up power) from all bondage and whatever

Sexual boundaries entail your sexuality, your body, who touches you, who you touch, how you touch or how someone touches you intimately, discussions of sexual content and levels of comfortability in sexual behaviors. Although at times, we may perceive sexual boundary violations as pressures of sexual behaviors instilled on one’s free will, at other times it is one individual’s seek. Sexual boundaries vary from person to person. One area of careful treading of boundaries is Sadomasochism or also known as BDSM.

The hot seller Fifty Shades of Grey is a descriptive novel of a man fulfilling his dirty fantasy. It starts off clean talking about a man meeting a women, Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele, then leads to talking over coffee, and advancing to a friends with benefits. The friends with benefits is more than just hooking up with another, it becomes a submissive and dominant relationship. Christian is the dominant and exercises his sexual fantasies on Anastasia Steele who is the submissive. Throughout the novel there are correlations to the ideas and discussions in the Sociology – Gender, Power, and Society class. There are many different ways that this connection takes place, such as through the dialogue, the way things are described and

This construction reinforces control over young women’s sexual expression. Faus highlights how it forces women to partake in this patriarchal culture where women’s bodies are under control

Almost all human behavior has symbolic value to it, including sexual behavior. Biologically , we are driven to reproduce, but this does not dictate who, when, where, what and how by which we choose to do so;(Arany, 2013) social interaction is the driving force behind this. These characteristics are then determined by what we have learned through our culture. BDSM community might stem from mutual sexual fantasies but really its our first non-exclusionary group. When outside the bedroom most of these kinksers would blend in with the rest of society.

Mokros, Schilling, Weiss, Nitschke and Eher (2014) define sexual sadism as “a paraphilia in which the infliction of pain or the humiliation of others is experienced as sexually gratifying” (p. 138). Healey et al (2013) define sexual sadism as the sadist being sexually aroused by the use of violent or humiliating behavior and the reaction seen in the victim to this behavior. Prevalence of sexual sadism includes 1 out of 363 men in a community sample, 2.2 % reported that they practiced sadomasochistic role play in the previous year, and between 13% and 54% admitted to sexual fantasies involving domination (Mokros et al, 2014). Examples of items in the Sexual Sadism Scale (SeSaS) include sexual arousal during offenses, torture, object insertion, mutilation (include genital and other body parts), degradation/humiliation, and ritualistic behavior (2014).

It is a rare when an opportunity to speak of sadism and masochism presents itself. However, it is not that long ago that the Canadian public was inundated with the headlines of a celebrated CBC Radio host, who allegedly presented himself to several women as what would seem to be a sadist. Having engaged in rough sex, inflicting physical harm on his sexual partners, I was left to wonder if Gian Gomeshi would not have been better served to seek out a sexual masochist. To fully appreciate how having a sexual partner, who subscribes to and would have been very desirous of such degradation and pain, we should develop our knowledge and understanding of masochism, from its definition, to diagnosis, to therapies.