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The slave owner’s exploitation of the black woman’s sexuality was one of the most significant factors differentiating the experience of slavery for males and females. The white man’s claim to the slave body, male as well as female, was inherent in the concept of the Slave Trade and was tangibly realized perhaps no where more than the auction block. Captive Africans were stripped of their clothing, oiled down, and poked and prodded by potential buyers. The erotic undertones of such scenes were particularly pronounced in the case of black women. Throughout the period of slavery in America, white society believed black women to be innately lustful beings. The perception of the African woman as hyper-sexual made her both the object of white man’s abhorrence and his fantasy. Within the bonds of slavery, masters often felt it was their right to engage in sexual activity with black women. Sometimes, female slaves made advances hoping that such relationships would increase the chances that they or their children would be liberated by the master. Most of the time, slave owners took slaves by force.

The negative portrayals and stigmas attached to BDSM has made it difficult for the community to be understood by society. This is especially the case with the justice system. There has been an association created between domestic violence, rape, and assault with BDSM acts. There is no denying that domestic violence, rape, and assault occur in BDSM, but one should not generalize an entire community based on the acts of a few individuals. This stigma attached to BDSM does create issues for the community; especially when the justice system becomes involved. For example, for several individuals calling the police after engaging in a BDSM activity may be difficult due to the negative image and potentially embarrassing labels attached

* intimate relationships involve a high degree of love, trust, empathy and commitment from both partners

In Audre Lorde’s, “Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power”, she addresses about the term “erotic” that holds variations of meanings and implications behind it. It has a broader spectrum which connects the physical, emotional, and spiritual realms. In her interpretation, “The erotic is a resource within all of us that lies a deeply female and spiritual plane, rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling,” (Lorde 54). Erotic means the fullest satisfaction one can feel in life that gives people power, and be in search for that feeling in other aspects of their life. It allows a person to view their life in a different perspective, with more regard to what they desire rather than the demands of the society that connotes erotic

C. S. Lewis concedes to Clare that “it is a part of the nature of a strong erotic passion – as distinct from a transient fit of appetite – that makes more towering promises than any other emotion.” Our sex lives are more than expected; they are special to us. Sex allows us “the temporary transcendence of time, ego and our shared human fate of existential separateness. Sex connects us not only with another being, but with our own being and humanity” (Diamond). However, sex has its place in taboos across many cultures.

For those living 24/7 as doms and subs, power and control play a part in almost every waking moment. Depending upon the relationship, there could be slight differentials in what facets of daily living are touched upon. With this in mind, doms and subs communicate and negotiate which facets these may be. Although some requests from doms can be for erotic things, such as what their sub is to wear around the house, other request can be for the well being of those in the relationship. Some dominants enforce rules that help their submissives grow and prosper as an individual, thus using what power they have to better life for the two of them. Rules such as eating three balanced meals a day, exercising X amount of times a week, and finishing coursework before TV help to better the individual. Some submissives have even shared that their dom motivated them to pick up new skills and push themselves harder in their social and business life, eventually helping them thrive as an individual (Hébert & Weaver, 2015). What power the submissive has given to the dominant over them is being used for their well being, in a nurturing, almost “motherly”

It takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. Too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. When this happens, both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.

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BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism and is a type of sexual act that is considered “deviant” in our society since these acts violate social norms we have towards how sexual acts should be performed. BDSM is often performed by a dominatrix which is described as “a woman who takes the dominant or sadistic role in sado-masochistic sexual activities” while the man is subjected to the submissive role (Oxford English Press). This project seeks to understand the views on where BDSM stems from and the health benefits and drawbacks of BDSM. Two of the articles viewed BDSM as a healthy relationship while the other two articles argued that this act was unhealthy. In addition, two of the articles viewed BDSM as conforming to societal roles while the other two viewed it as being a social deviation.

902). The gender of the sadist and masochist is also interchangeably played by both men and women, rather than “old-patriarchal power relationships,” that consistently places man as the dominant, and woman as the submissive, in order to cater to both of their sexual needs (Barker, 2013, pg. 909). Bloggers stress that this story is instead an exploited tale about a patriarchal relationship, a direct result of systematic control, and opposite of BDSM and its standards. They even argue that this idea must be exchanged with a “men don’t possess” perspective in order to begin to understand what this community is about (McCann & Kim, 2013, pg. 24). If not, the viewers or readers of this story may then dangerously correlate BDSM with justifications to control and suppress women in society.

“Sexual Sadism is a persistent pattern of becoming sexually excited in response to another’s suffering. Inflicting pain is a means to create suffering and to elicit the desired responses of obedience, submission, humiliation, fear and terror” (Turvey, 2012).

Sex”). When people think about BDSM their thoughts are usually negative, associating BDSM purely with pain, but “the idea that all BDSM play involves pain is a common misconception: many play activities are focused not on pain, but rather on psychological power exchange” (Hebert). Usually, stigmas are accepted by the general public, but according to Hebert, the stigmas about BDSM are usually accepted by medical and legal professionals as well. “In particular, it is commonly believed that those who participate in BDSM must be psychologically disturbed.”

James’ novel highlights the sexual subculture of bondage and sadomasochism (BDSM). BDSM is said to be about mutual care, mutual pleasure and mutual respect, and in saying this, domestic violence can be defined has a pattern of abusive behaviour in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. In the novel, Anastasia breaks up with Grey, who soon after enters her hoe without permission and pursues to have sex with her without her verbal consents. This, on its own, can be seen as normalising abusive and manipulative behaviour as well as conflating this form of behaviour with affection and portrays non-consensual sex as an erotic thrill.

This is a novel-length collection of 63,000 words, and touches upon the tough and rough, tender and caring, and dominating and submissive sides of gay M/M steamy romance. It explores the mountain-moving strength of love to the burning flames of passion.

BDSM is an acronym that covers three different categories of practices or roleplaying. The B/D stands for bondage and discipline, which is considered to be using restraints in the act, but the restaurants do not just have to be physical, they can be psychological and emotional as well. The D/S represents domination and submission, where there is one person taking control and the other handing over their control. S/M is categorized as sadism and masochism. Sadism is defined as deriving pleasure from the pain or humiliation of others, and masochism is defined as deriving pleasure from ones own pain or humiliation (Herbert and Weaver,