Successful Children By Julie Lythcott-Haims

The article “Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids” by Mickey Goodman appears on the Huffington Post, an online news aggregator and blog. The author focuses on explaining that children who are allowed to make choices and decisions on their own should be a thing of the past. He also touches on the idea that children learning valuable life lessons in our generation are not getting things done. The article tells the reader that the parents of the children today should prepare their kids for failure in life, and show them how to actually succeed in life without handouts.

Too many minors have committed violent crimes and haven’t gotten the consequences they deserved. In Time magazine article, “Children without Pity” written by Nancy Traver, it shows how the crime rates are going up and many minors aren’t getting the consequence they need. Given the violence of their actions, minors who commit violent crimes should be tried as adults.

A lot of people understand as parents “Failure is the way to success”, and yet parents try to protect their children from danger and failure by restraining their freedom. The article Free the children written by Nancy Gibbs advises parents to love yet left alone so they can try a new skill. Efforts to guide and guard can sometimes be a barrier for their children to experience the mistake and learn from it. In my opinion, this article is definitely true because one can correct their mistake easier through experiencing. One can also understand the reason of a failure from a real situation. In addition, this prevents one from making the same mistake over and over again.

“Good” parenting is in the eyes of the beholder, parenting varies from family to family. It is important not to judge parents based solely on how they are involved in their child’s education. Not every parents has the opportunity to be as involved as they would like to be. Deficit thinking is another way parents and children are blamed for low academics instead of teachers and institutions. Janet made me aware of how Mason’s teachers have some fault in the kind of education he is receiving. In a more positive note, Janet is helping Mason build CCW. She has created aspirations for him and is helping him develop language capita. After analyzing the data I realized that parenting is a difficult job, and society expects highly involved parents. If you are not involved you will fall into the “bad” parent category. As a future teacher this information will help me understand parental life. I will be more patient, understanding that parents cannot always be there for their child educationally. It would be my duty to be there for those students that need support and don’t have that parental

Reuven and Danny, like Abby and I, experience contrasting parenting styles through religion, education, and daily rituals, yet we all grow up into competent, full functioning young adults. Therefore, no “perfect” parent exists. The old African proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child” rings true in Potok’s The Chosen and in real life. Children learn from

What is the secret of perfect parenting ? Numerous parents may have different assumptions , of what precisely are the ideal goals to raise a child are. The Walls’s family had a unique perspective on “parenting”. Several readers may agree they had various flaws, by not giving their children the basic needs . Though despite all of their flaws , they did teach their kids valuable life lessons and self love.

There are many different types of parents with diverse parenting styles in the world. Some are efficient in their ways, while others struggle to wonder why their child did not turn out to be everything they hoped. The controversial topic of whether the parent knows what is best for their child hangs over the reader’s head in Amy Chua’s article.

In the short essay, Lies My Children’s Books Taught Me, it primarily focuses on The Pleasant Company and the ways they advertise, market, and sell their American girl merchandise. Lies My Children 's Books Taught Me, is written by Daniel Hade, who is a professor of language and literacy at Penn State College. In Eric Schlosser’s essay, Kid Kustomers, he explains the injustice of marketing, and the idea of “cradle to grave” advertizing. This idea of advertizing is basically to get a kid so attached or devoted to a brand/toy that they don 't just buy it for themselves but for their kids in the future. Kid Kustomers helps us to better understand the book Lies My Children’s Books

Recently I read the book How Children Succeed, by Paul Tough. This book had five main sections. These sections included How To Fail (And How Not To Fail), How To Build Character, How To Think, How To Succeed, and A Better Path. In each of the five sections the book talked about many different points. Each point had a number. These numbers would go through about one to seventeen per each section of the book. Along with giving a summary of the book I will analyze it. We will start with section one, How To Fail (And How Not To).

In his op-ed, “Are Kids Too Coddled?,” author Frank Bruni argues that children need to be exposed to the harshness of reality. According to Bruni, “praise… can lessen motivation and set children up to be demoralized when they invariably fail at something” (par. 25). By showering children in praise even when they are not successful, students will never learn the importance of hard work. There is no reason to put in effort to go above and beyond expectations if mediocre work receives the same amount of acknowledgement. Due to the excess of undeserved praise, Bruni believes that “students have an inflated sense of their academic prowess” (par. 26). Students expect to get good grades without studying and working hard. In order to reverse the damage caused by sheltering our children, Bruni argues that an application of more rigorous standards in school is necessary to make America’s children “ready to compete globally” (par. 29). By setting higher standards, students will be able to learn more and attain true academic excellence.

The key point of Beyond Measure by Vicki Abeles is rescuing an overscheduled, over-tested and underestimated generation. After arguing the definition of success in American education system, the author comes up with several ideas on how to revolutionize learning, prioritize children’s health and re-envision success for a lifetime. She believes that high grades, high test scores and admission to one of the nation’s elite colleges should not be the symbols excellence and successful parenting. Currently, the education system are pressuring the children to perform in ways that make them less intellectually flexible, creative, and responsive to today’s world and at the same time, damaging their mental and physical health. Thus, the author suggests

When a child is born, they can be born into circumstances in which they cannot control. They can be born into wealth, or into poverty. Some may be born into privileged home, others into a restricted or a “broken” home. People come from many different homes with many different stories, but they don’t let their origins define the rest of their life. One’s course of their life isn't determined by their background.

This is a deeply ingrained mentality that is first cultivated in the home. Robbins points out that parents who put their children on tracks to become doctors or lawyers before they even exit the womb are prime culprits. Coaching a three-year-old to ace an interview to get into preschool or putting an eleven-year-old in SAT prep courses puts really high expectations on them, according to the book. Parents that spend a ridiculous amount of money on extracurriculars, tutors, and college counselors make students feel pressured not to waste their parents’ money. For many high school students, acceptance to a college that is perceived to be “good” is the most important thing they could ever achieve. Unfortunately, parents are not doing enough to combat this perception. Offhanded comments about being disappointed with scores and doing better can really be taken to heart. It eventually creates the feeling that a child’s self-worth is tied to a number decided by an arbitrary grading system. If parents were to make a point to remind their children that they’ll be loved and successful regardless of the opinion of College Board, it could create children less obsessed with taking every single AP class available. A good support system is imperative in having a healthy school life.

The happiness did not last long for Eunice and Dean, They started to fight over having different ideas. They both wanted different ways to raise the children. Eunice thought since they are twins, they will helpful to each other, should be educated and to be taught the same thing. However, Dean thought since they are twins, they should be taught different things to be helpful because they can help each other when they needed them. The struggle over the children soon ended, when they decided to let the children to choose their own when they grow a little bit older.

Parent’s goals are to their children become successful learners so that children can do extremely well as an adult. Regardless if parents receive their high school diploma, parents still talk to their children about the importance of education (Thao, 2009).