Taking a Look at Marriage

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Although the beginning of a marriage is often referred to as the “honeymoon phase”, newlywed life is not always smooth sailing for everyone. As the excitement of the wedding begins to wear off, the reality of living together and forming your own family begins to set in. While you are adjusting to your lives being merged together, it is completely normal to experience ups and downs in your relationship. The most common problems that you will face as a newlywed couple include: adapting to life post-wedding, communication, and finances.

First and foremost, do not make the common mistake of only planning for the wedding, and not for your life as newlyweds. In the words of Benjamin Franklin, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” Discuss your expectations for marriage: the division of household labor, bill paying, future children, and how you will spend your time together. Some couples may assume that their spouse will take on a certain role or responsibility in marriage, such as; money manager, housecleaner, or breadwinner. Rather than expecting your partner to fulfill a specific role, sit down and discuss it with them.

Another area of importance is assuring your spouse they are appreciated. When you forget to appreciate the little things your spouse does for you, they will begin to feel unappreciated and neglected. It's not always necessary to take extravagant or dramatic measures to show someone you care about them. For example, remind your spouse

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